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Suzana email: suzana@columbus.rr.com 1/4/2007 at 13:35 (CT)

My son just turn 3 in sept and at daycare now he is hitting, kicking, spitting and throwing toys at his teachers and friends. When they try to put him in time at he won't listen to them. My daycare is in the facility and work at and they often call me back a couple time a day to calm him down. They are know theating to suppessed him. What should I do HELPPPPPP! PLEASEEEE! Thanks!

Julie email: jay.146@hotmail.com 1/3/2007 at 11:56 (CT)

Hi - My 18 month old just doesn't seem all that interested in playing with other kids. I've done the Gymboree thing, now we're in a Music class. She just wants to run around and explore. Is she normal? I'm worried that she's anti-social. She's a perfectly happy (spirite) toddler. Am I pushing the social thing needlessly?

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My 21 month old places everything in her mouth. It seems as if anything that crosses her path is not safe. She won't eat her peas, but she'll eat a piece of plastic wrap, crayons, playdo, paper, books, socks, dirt, grass, ...help! Besides constant supervision, how else can I help her deviate from this behavior? Is this a precursor to some other problem?

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cindy thompson email: 10/18/2006 at 2:25 (CT)

I need any tips of helping my 4 year old realize that there is nothing to fear with going bms on the potty. He has already been in the hospital to clean him out. There is nothing medically wrong with him. He is completly withholding. I have tried everything.

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Mamadshah email: alekspppp@yahoo.com 9/29/2006 at 20:07 (CT)

My wife and I adopted two beautiful children fromRussia 2 years ago. They are 2 mts apart in age and came from the same orphanage. Our daughter Arina, will be 4 in October and Alexey, our son, will be 4 in Dec. They both are in the same daycare called the Legacy Academy and both love it. They have been in this daycare for a little over a year. Alexey's behavior has suddenly changed in the past 2 weeks. Whenever he is asked to stop whatever he is doing so he can go to circle-time with the other children, He throws a temper tantrum. He has progressively become disruptive to the class and has started to hit his teachers and throw things. He even screamed for 20 minutes I was told. These are my concerns: The daycare does not believe in "time-out" because they believe in reinforcing good behavior and redirecting. Alexey does not act this way with us at home at all and this is very concerning to us as well as embarrassing. Is this normal antics for a soon to be 4 year old? Is he simply manipulating and taking control of a situation that has "soft consequences"? What should we do and please feel free to offer any advice. Thanks, Bill

william wade email: wadecrna@cfl.rr.com 9/28/2006 at 10:55 (CT)

If you have any good advice on potty training please let me know -- my daughter (3.5 years old) talks about the potty -- uses it sometimes but not on a regularly basis -- it appears she is not aware that she has to go until after she has gone -- any help would be appreciated.

Debbie email: dtankers@gmu.edu 9/18/2006 at 2:03 (CT)

Hello, this is my first time posting. I have a 16 month old daughter who wakes up about 3 times a night. She screams and the only thing that calms her is a sippy cup. She sometimes drinks up to 3 sippy's a night. I know this is bad for her teeth; I have to chang e her diaper at least twice a night or she'll soak the whole bed. Any advise on how to ween her from the nightly sippy's and maybe how to get her to sleep through the night??? I'm desperate!!

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Hi there!! I have a question about my 2 yr old. He has letly been taken to pooping and then sticking his fingers in it. He wears pull ups and will pee in the potty but won't poop in it. Which my husband and I are totally fine with it. But when he poops and then puts his hands in it yuck. He gets it everywhere if we don't catch him quick enough like just when we put him down for a nap. I've gone into his room and have seen poop everywhere. Why is he doing this and aside from potty training what else can i do? Thanks bunches.

Carrol email: lovinbb@hotmail.com 9/2/2006 at 15:37 (CT)

Mandy- Have you tried the sippy cups - like Avent - that have a spout that is soft like a bottle nipple? It makes a transition from bottle to cup possible for many kids. Good luck, Judi

Judi D. email: sd-jd@ix.netcom.com 8/30/2006 at 22:26 (CT)

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Shel email: shel@iparenting.com 8/28/2006 at 1:23 (CT)

When is it OK to disciplne someone else's child? My neighbor's 3-year-old is out of control. The mother, who is a dear friend, never says anything. Sometimes I feel like I'm not being a good friend by keeping quiet.

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Harry Jones email: harry_loans01@yahoo.com 8/25/2006 at 1:09 (CT)

Help!! My Son is nearly 3 and refuses to potty train and screams if I go to even show him the potty or loo! He is quite happy just to sit in wet or soiled nappies. His behaviour is awful also, he regularly has terrible tanrums where he kicks me, pulls my hair and tries to bite me. When this happens, like in the park today (with everyone staring) I just want to cry. I have tried everything to ignoring his behaviour, being firm, and when he hurts me tapping his hand but I don't know what else to do. When will he gorw out of this. How can I make him decide to want to be potty trained? I just want him to be a nice boy and it hurts when he does this as I love him. Thanks K

Katherine email: katherine_smy@hotmail.com 8/22/2006 at 21:22 (CT)

My little boy is two. Very intelligent. Everyone sees it. He does alot of stuff most kids his do not do. Except for one thing....he will not talk. He says moma, dada. That's about it. Not cup, nothing. We watch everything that he does. He watches only educational tapes and toys to help him. But, nothing. He carries on a conversation with you, change of tone and facial expression, just not clear language. I hav e purchased all of the baby einstein tapes/dvds for him as well. He sits and watches them, like he is soaking everything in. Is he just not ready to talk?

marie email: toniatmc1@hotmail.com 8/22/2006 at 8:41 (CT)

I have a 2 year old son and since I stopped feeding him milk from bottle he does not take it in a cup or any thing else. I tried to change the flavor by adding nestle strawberry and still nothing. he only drinks juice. what should I do to make his interest back to drink milk.he needs his calcium and he just likes cheese. Please help. Thanks

MANDY email: mahnaz722sbcglobal.net 8/17/2006 at 2:24 (CT)

hi Dianne! Congrats on the extended nursing! My child wanted to cuddle and nurse all hours of the night. Finally I made certain he ate well at dinner and had a milk sippy cup a half hour before bed. Then we would snuggle and cuddle while I read him a goodnight story. It really helped. I do need to say it did not work for a friend. Her daughter was diagnosed with anemia and it only worked after the doctors treatment. I hope this helped and good luck!

Lisa email: 8/8/2006 at 7:19 (CT)

I have a 3 year old who has recently started complaining of the tops of her feet hurt and the palms of her hands hurt. It gets really bad when she's sleepy, so I thought it may be that she is restless. I constantly massage them when she complains and it helps for awhile, but I am curious as to if anyone has ever heard of such. Any information will help greatly. Thank you in advance. Kimberly

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24 month twin boys & 11 yr daughter Devane: Your son is perfectly normal! His tantrum has no reflection on your parenting nor his wanting to inflict pain on himself. It's typical for kids to thrash themself around during a tantrum because they don't realize that they could hurt themself. I have yet to hear of a toddler who hasn't thrown a few good tantrums. It's in kids' nature to act out when they don't get what they want,. Right now they can't be taught self control and patience so we, as parents, need to accept it and know that they will outgrow it. It is hard to see our babes hurt themself during a fit but after a couple good ouchies, they will realize it hurts and try something else to get their way! Nichole: Your daughte knows that she now is vocal and she uses it to let you know what she wants. All parents put up with screaming, persistent toddlers so it is normal. Toddlers are still learning that they can do more than just cry and they are happy to know that they can get your attention by being vocal. What you can do is not give in to her screaming. When she wants something, bend down to her level and say "tell mommy what you want". This encourages her to try talking as well but it will show her how to communicate without yelling. If it is something you don't want her to have then make sure you don't give it to her because it's better in the long run to put up with her throwing a tantrum and then she will realize that you won't give in and you will keep control. Parents don't realize how "terrible" twos can be until their little ones are there. But it is perfectly normal for a toddler to throw fits and to scream when they want something and it's okay to be frustrated but it will pass and remember that they are learning how to become a well mannered child. Remember where they were just one year ago...........they were helpless little babies and now they can walk and talk and giggle and give hugs!!!! There are more good times then bad.

Karrie email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca 7/18/2006 at 21:51 (CT)

I have a 20 month old that is not really into eating. He will occasionally east sweet potatoes,baked fries, bananas and strawberries. I try to give him new food on his plate and he picks it up with a disgusted look and hands it back to me.Does anyone have any suggestions.

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Mr Fish email: macartyfish_405@yahoo.com 7/13/2006 at 23:07 (CT)

I have a 15 month old girl and she just screams whenever she wants something(food, attention, etc.). What shoud I do?

Nichole email: nicholeandhope@yahoo.com 7/12/2006 at 20:21 (CT)

Amy: I have two daughters, 3 1/2 and 19 months. My oldest daughter had just turned 2 when the baby was born. She did not look at the baby for 5 months. Then when the baby started pulling up to a standing position, she pushed her over at least four times a day. What worked best for me was letting her know the bad behavior was unacceptable and then spending some one-on-one time with the oldest child so she felt like she had her fair share of my attention. You might have to do this after the baby goes to sleep. Be sure to give her lots of praise when she interacts positively with the baby. And remember she is still really young and her rational thought has not developed. I forgot this with mine, and regret putting expectations on her that were beyond her capabilites, Also, take heart, once the youngest started talking and was able to play interactively and not just get into her stuff, things really improved. We still have some jealousy problems, but a year ago I would not have dreamed that they would ever share smiles and laugh together.

Barb email: 7/9/2006 at 22:44 (CT)

My child is a healthy/happy 19 month old boy! He has just recently been going through what I can only assume to be the "terrible twos!" This morning, my sister asked him not to touch the stereo in a totally calm and collected voice and he got mad an started to throw a tantrum. Then all the sudden he banged his head on the edge of the shelf holding the stereo so hard that I thought he was going to pass out! What the heck would be causing him to self inflict pain in this way? Is that what he thinks he is doing? Is this a ploy for extra attention? I'm confused because I feel that we cuddle and kiss and love him every chance we get...

Devane Wright email: devane.roberts@offutt.af.mil 7/5/2006 at 9:10 (CT)

How much should my toddler be eating at mealtime? He only picks at his food. Maybe a green here, and carrot there. It seems to me like he's not eating enough.

Susan email: 7/3/2006 at 0:41 (CT)

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DrAlphabet email: dralphabet@alphabetfitness.org 6/21/2006 at 23:07 (CT)

Emails for constipation: For babies troubled by constipation, are they on formula ? Strong formula or excessive milk, causes the feces to be dehydrated in the colon, leading to constipation, pain and damage to the colon. Try diluting the formula, but check that total milk intake still provides all the required daily nutrients. Emails for undue sleepiness: Dehydration due to hot days, diarrhoea, vomiting or low water intake, will also cause constipation. Check the urine. As it leaves the body it should be clear; not yellow. (However, in the pan it will always appear yellow.) Dehydration can also cause sleepiness, low blood pressure, and dizziness when standing up from a crouching position. As an example, teenagers will sleep in all day Saturday or Sunday, and feel drugged out. If they drink a large tumbler of water or two , the sleepiness will go. When re-hydrating, avoid coffee, tea, alchol and coke, (not that you would give these to your beloveds) which are diuretics, that is, remove lots of water via the kidneys.

ivan email: ivanwidn@removeme.hotmail.com 6/19/2006 at 9:35 (CT)

Hi Donna, We recently had a small party for our three year old (Olive) at a cafe, followed by a farm walk. I don't know where you live and how accesable kids farm trips are for you (we live in New Zealand). Olive loved it. We kept numbers small, just immediate family and a couple of cousins. Everyone paid for there own food and farm walk. A happy day alround. Hope this idea might help. Jennies

Jennie email: 6/16/2006 at 4:04 (CT)

Hello! I am looking for some different ideas for my 2-year-old's birthday. It's in a few weeks. I am tired of the same old parties. Don't want to spend a lot of money, but am looking for either some fun ideas for home, or inexpensive places to have it. I appreciate any advice from you seasoned moms and dads.

Donna email: 6/16/2006 at 0:34 (CT)

Ha the daycare been working with you to help potty train your son? I have 4 children so I know how difficult potty training can be but the key is consistency. When I was in college I worked in a daycare so I understand both sides of the issue. For you, you aren't able to work with your son during the day because he isn't with you. For the daycare, having a 3 1/2 year old child that you have to change pullups on slows down the entire class and takes away from teaching the other kids. Believe me I understand, my husband and I both work and with the demands of corporate life I totally get being exhaused when you get home, but you just gotta summon up the strength and do it and again be consistent. I've never subscribed to the theory of letting a child do this at their own pace, I think it is probably extremely embarrassing for your son to be the only one in his class not potty-trained, it's not really fair to him. Unless he has some form of learning disability, I think this is something that you really have to make a high priority for him and for you.

terri email: terrinichelleb@yahoo.com 6/12/2006 at 2:04 (CT)

MOMOFDOUBLETROUBLE & KIM I have 22 month frat twin boys and I have the same problem. Neither one of them has no interest at all in talking. They do have a couple signs that they know, which they use to tell me what they want but basically they just scream until I figure out what they want. I have had conflicting advice from docs and other ppl with how much they should be saying at their age. Does anyone know exactly how many words a child going on 2 should say? I wasn't worried about it, I just figured they were lazy talkers but different family members have brought it up and they say "oh, they aren't talking yet?". I know with twins there can be speech delays but other than talking, they are right on track with everything else. Should I be worried?

Karrie email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca 6/10/2006 at 0:45 (CT)

I have 5 kids and the last two were twins (unexpected it was supposto be one big babe boy were we suprised to have two the day I went in to labor. they missed it my whole pregnacy) my ? is my 2 1/2 year old (one of the twins) dosnt talk she knows some words and can get things and do things when asked. but she dosnt talk much. I am really starting to get worried. is this normal

momofdoubletrouble email: shalamar@centurytel.net 6/9/2006 at 11:00 (CT)

I have a 2 year old, actully two tomorrow, he has started this spitting thing when you tell him no, you can tell him no again and put him in the corner but he will still spit. He also has a bit of a bitting issue. I have tried the biting back thing, I have tried the time out thing, I have tried the spanking thing, I have tried catching it before it happens and saying no, but he still can not seem to break his bitting habit. Please Help!

Emma email: emmsiejade@yahoo.com 6/6/2006 at 22:06 (CT)

Hello this is my first time on here but i just wanted a couple of moms opinions on how to wean my 27 month old off his NUK we tried to take it from him and cried so hard it was almost like he was in pain and hyperventalating , he was so upset. So we gave it back to him for bed time. i've read some advice Dr write in on the web, But I just want to know what some of you Mothers have done that really works?

Diana email: Diana.probst@gmail.com 6/6/2006 at 21:49 (CT)

Kim Tucker - I would definitely encourage you to teach your grandson sign language if screaming is an issue. Children develop speech at different speeds and it is not uncommon for an 18 month old not to talk yet. However, they do WANT to talk, thus the screaming! :) I've taught my daughter some signs and I've found it really helps with the screaming. If she has a sign to express something, she uses it! And you don't have to worry that learning sign language will reduce his interest in learning spoken words...they've found that quite to the contrary, it helps with language development. Good luck!

Frankie w/Marie-Lune email: 6/3/2006 at 0:30 (CT)

My 18 month old Grandson screams but will not talk,he does say dad but thats it. I know he hears us when he wants to. The dr thinks it would be a good idea to teach him sign language so he wont scream . Please help me . Does he just not want to speak or is he not ready ?

Kim Tucker email: tucker43933@hotmail.com 6/2/2006 at 22:44 (CT)

Hi, I'm new to the site I have some blogs going on around them web but it does not seem like anyone looks at them, anyways I'm here because I have a son who will be 2 years old July 22nd and a daughter who will be 6 months on the 19th... My daughter is not sleeping at all and she does nothing but scream, there are times where she will not scream and make cute sounds but that does not last long, It's getting so bad my son is now telling her to stop and shhhhh! I guess I just want to know if anyone else has the same prob with there kids, or is it just mine! When my daughter is laying on her playmat my son will go up to her roll her over and hold her head down and say "sissy go sleep", If anyone has any ideas on how to keep her asleep Please help!

Elsa Anderson email: ELSALEE26@HOTMAIL.COM 6/2/2006 at 23:19 (CT)

i have a 27 month older little boy who is so hyper. any advice on how to help to calm him down and ways to release this energy instead of him going absolutely wild.

Kara email: karalee.bagnell@altruck.com 5/30/2006 at 20:12 (CT)

I am a grandmother Mu daughter has a two year old and my sister has a three year I gave them both a potty elmo when elmo goes in his own potty he says hoorah i did it I helps the little ones to associate with something that is on their level . I think it is cute watching elmo and little ones going potty also try to give a book for the potty so he is occupied . i did day care and we didnt have elmo then so we used a special book for potty time .

wendy email: proudnanny@rogers.com 5/28/2006 at 22:34 (CT)

Hello- My daughter just started a new pre/school/day-care. She was 2 in January. She had been with a family friend since 3months, but job relocation forced us to change. She cries each morning when I leave and the teacher told me she cries off and on during the day. Especially in transition of activity time. The teacher told me that my daughter has waited by the door during outside playtime waiting for me. My daughter gets good reports from "school" I am just wondering if the crying is normal. She has been in this school for 2 weeks. Or am I just overreacting? Jen

Jen email: crossconn@hotmail.com 5/23/2006 at 8:34 (CT)

My son is 3 1/2 years old. He has been going to a public daycare for over a year. He is not potty trained yet and they are wanting to kick him out of daycare because he is slower than the other children his age and in his class. I dont know what to do. I've tried every experts method to try to potty train him but it's not working. I have until August before they kick him out but his class is moving up next week.

stephanie email: pcknspowell@aol.com 5/23/2006 at 0:52 (CT)

Hi. I'm kinda new to all of this....but anyways i am the mom to a 2 1/2 yr old and a 12 mth old....both girls both mommys little angels....anyways my 2 1/2 yr old is so jealous of the baby that she is always hitting, spitting or yelling at the baby.....if im holding the baby my daughter tries to push the baby off my lap.....I am at a loss as to what to do now......i am a single working mom and my babysitter says she does not act like this at all while im at work......this has just all started in the last month or so......nothing has changed their dad left before the baby was born and i went back to work when the baby was 3 mths old......so I am completely confused as to why the jealousy has just started.....i do time outs when my older one acts like this Ive even sent her to bed early.....iv taken he favorite toys away but nothing seems to work......im scared that one day she is really going to hurt her baby sister and I dont know what to do anymore......Any one have any ideas?????? Please help......

Amy email: alatulippe84@hotmail.com 5/17/2006 at 13:27 (CT)

Hello ladies! Slowly transitioning here from the babies board, as my daughter is one now...time to make space for the ones with younger babies! Just wanted to answer a few posts I saw here... sheetal - My daughter also bites and slaps, and apparently that's normal! Children that age don't realize they are being aggressive, they're only trying to interact with the people around them. From what I've read this shouldn't be a concern for future behavior (i.e. they're not going to grow up to be aggressive or violent) and should calm down as they get better at communicating (more words, finer motor skills). In the interim, I've been trying to teach my daughter to be gentler by showing her other ways to touch and communicate. We have two dogs so it's important that she learn to be gentle. I show her how to pet the dogs, and now when I say gentle she "pets" me instead of slapping, which is much nicer! For the biting, I just put her down when she does it, and pick her up again after a few seconds. Usually that's enough to let her know I don't like it, and she stops for a while. HTH. sis Ireton - How fortunate for you that you will be able to home school! My daughter also hates putting on a diaper, but we haven't tried potty-training yet. I know it's normal for this age that they hate wearing clothes in general and I know my girl also opposes bibs and sometimes fights when we try to dress her. So maybe that's the diaper issue rather than being ready for potty? Usually childred don't have control of their sphincters until about 2 years old, so they can't be expected to "hold it in" for potty time until then, but if you're home all day with her, you might be able to pick up on her cues about needing to go and put her on when you think it's time. There are lots of websites on "diaperless methods" out there, which can be useful in learning techniques to do this effectively. Good luck and let us know how it goes! Deborah - Ok, I'm all about saying "this is normal today"! Your child is just trying to talk but doesn't have enough words yet! :) My girl does the same thing, unless she has a word or a sign to say what she wants. I strongly recommend baby signs as a tool to help with this! There are classes at Gymboree and lots of books out there. Best of luck, I feel your pain, it can get very tiring to hear screaming all day...but it will get better as they become better communicators. Gotta run, but I hope to get to know you ladies better!

Frankie w/Marie-Lune email: 5/17/2006 at 4:56 (CT)

Hi, I have twin two year olds and we've had lots of success lately with potty training. We got one of those soft rings that sits on top of the "big" potty chair, and any success is rewarded with a coveted M&M. We also went and bought some cool "big boy" underwear that I let them wear for a little while after they go potty in the toilet. I also set the timer to go off every 20 minutes to remind me to ask them about going potty. One of my boys is doing it by himself now, the other will with a reminder. Hope that helps.

jen email: 5/16/2006 at 3:56 (CT)

I am the mother of a two year old boy who for months now i have been trying to potty-train i bought a toilet that makes kind of congratulation sound after they have dont the "deed" but h stays away from it. Can any one help me?

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LaToya email: Mahogany19@optonline.net 5/6/2006 at 23:52 (CT)

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Karen Williams email: kaysep58@optonline.net 5/5/2006 at 0:16 (CT)

Help! My 2 1/2 yo is still using a pacifer, but only to sleep. She can't go to sleep w/o both of them, one in her mouth the other close by or in her hand. We keep telling her once she's in a big girl bed, it's over, but I don't think she quite understands. What did you do?

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sheetal email: shegri@rediffmail.com 4/29/2006 at 12:39 (CT)

I am the adopted mother of an 11 yr. old daughter who is moderate Down Syndrome. And she is displaying some bad behaviors such as hitting, kicking, spitting, pulling hair, yelling, and removing her clothes when she is not with me , but either at school or with friends or on the school bus. She behaves around me, but its like I cannot leave her in anyone's care without her having these behaviors happening. I am 51 yrs. old, and she is my God-daughter. She came from dysfunional home where there there was abuse and mental problems with her mother and sister. Can anyone give me some advice as to what to do to get help for these problems? I would really appreciate anyone's in put in this.

Cindy email: cintov48@yahoo.com 4/27/2006 at 3:15 (CT)

My daughter is 2 years old. For the last 2 nights she has woke up twice in the middle of the night screaming, it is like she is have nightmares. As soon as i calm her down she will go back to sleep, but it is like something is scaring her and nothing has been different. This is the first time she has done this. Is this normal? Could she be having nightmares at only 2 yrs old

jill email: lje307@talkamerica.com 4/27/2006 at 1:13 (CT)

My son is almost 3 and is having trouble potty traing. He seems like he is having some trouble using the restroom. Is this something to ask his doctor about?

April Applegate email: kentuckyfan26@hotmail.com 4/25/2006 at 0:36 (CT)

Hello all! Nice to meet fellow Moms. I am a mother to 3 girls. 7, 2 and 14 months. My 2 year old has decided she doesn't want to poop in her diaper anymore. That's ok only she didn't really want to do it in her potty either. Now she's constipated and really struggling to go today. Poor baby is miserable. She tried all morning to go in her diaper but had no success. She would walk with that look on her face and then stop and strain and push. She spent so much time one time working so hard that I though for she she'd gone only to find a wet but empty diaper when she came to me. This happened 3 or 4 times this morning. She has just gotten up from her nap is trying to go again. Because I thought she might be fighting herself when her diaper was on I convinced her to take her diaper off and sit on her potty. Now I have a little naked girl wandering around, getting on and off the potty and still very uncomfortable. We just got out of a warm bath and she is on her potty straining and pushing again. I hope she goes soon. Poor babe. I am running out of stuff to do for her. Any suggestions?

Aimee email: ScarletCape68@yahoo.com 4/23/2006 at 3:47 (CT)

my 2 1/2 yr old was sick with a cold .over easter it turned out to be slight pneumonia.she wont take the medicine.and when she does she becomes extremly hiperactive ?how do i get her to rest and take the medicine jelly beans only work for a little while .

cathy email: ellablu@hotmail.com 4/18/2006 at 11:25 (CT)

My son is 18 months old, and he sleeps all the time!! He sleeps all night long for over 12 hours and then he wakes up in the morning and is tired again after only 1 hour! then he sleeps for 2 more hours. He also takes an afternoon nap for about 1-2 hours! Is he getting too much sleep, and does anyone else have this problem with their child?? Please help! Thanks

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Hello, I am a mother of a 13 month old daughter. we are currently have diaper issues. I want them on her bottom and she does not. Does this mean she is ready for a potty schedule? We set her on the toilet for fun a couple of times because we have that seat you set on your toilet. I'll be, if she didn't go poop. It could of just been good timing. I also want to homeschool her and start teaching her stuff now but where to start? I have got a book called The Jumbo Sticker Fun Book published by Hermes House It has wonderful colorful pictures of objects and a couple of words under the picture saying what it is. I think it was made for older kids but I am hoping it is a good start for my lil gal. Any ideas or suggestions I would LOVE it. Thanks

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chris belair email: www.big_baby_jesus26@hotmail.com 4/3/2006 at 9:38 (CT)

I have 13 mo old twin girls. One throws tantrums pretty much all day long. I'm not so worried about that as she bangs her head on purpose over and over, all day, happy or not. She bonks her head on the floor, the refrig, anything really. Also not sure how to discipline them. Time out in their crib w/ the door shut(light on) doesn't seem to phase them. When I say no no, they smile and continue. Maybe they are competing for my attn, good or bad. I just really don't want to spank or anything like that. Pls help.......also looking for play ideas as they are bored w/ all their toys.

Tammy email: tatlberr@comcast.net 4/3/2006 at 23:56 (CT)

My daughter just turned 2, she blinks frequently and sometimes appears to be cross eyed. The doctor was unable to give her an eye exam or see the problem for himself because my daughter would not allow the doctor to perform any tests or even come near her eyes. The doctor said we will have to wait until she allows him to examine her before they can do anything for her. I am afraid it will get worse. Has anyone expereinced this or can provide some advice? Thanks!

Jen email: Jen91911@cox.net 3/27/2006 at 20:52 (CT)

I have a screaming 13 month old! HELP! He screams anytime, everywhere for what ever reasons! He isnt mad..Just likes to hear himself i guess. My hubby is deployed so im in this one alone. Well my 7 year old is here, and he has had enuogh! LOL Any Suggestions????!!!!!!

Deborah email: dwleigh@charter.net 3/26/2006 at 2:25 (CT)

I'd like to post the below and would love to hear back from mom's who may be willing to help us. Many thanks! Do you have young children and are fastidious about keeping a clean house? CNN is doing a story about moms who like to clean, clean, clean! We are specifically looking for moms with newborns through two years of age and moms who would do just about anything to protect their little one from germs. Maybe you don't let them play with pets, maybe they aren't allowed to play in the dirt, or be around other kids in daycare … things like that. I'd love to know about your cleaning habits – how often you clean, what you clean, are there certain guidelines people have to adhere to when coming into your house and interacting with your kids? Like washing hands? Things like that? If you would be comfortable helping us with our story, then I'd love to hear from you! Thank you, Sarah

sarah fogel email: sarah.fogel@turner.com 3/21/2006 at 4:07 (CT)

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Sally Hansen email: vze2vkpx@verizon.net 3/19/2006 at 19:50 (CT)

i HAVE A ONE YR. OLD AND THE WORD NO DOES NOT PHASE HER AND LIGHTLY TAPPING HER HANDS DOES NOT PHASE HER, WHAT CAN I DO DIFFERENT? ALSO, SHE IS MORE ADVANCED THAN OTHERS, SHE DOESNT PLAY WITH HER SIMPLE LEARNING TOYS, SHE GOES FOR THE ADVANCED OR ELSE SHE IS BORED, ANY IDEAS THERE?

KAHLA LANGFORD email: MICAPONE2823@YAHOO.COM 3/6/2006 at 0:43 (CT)

hi i really need some advice my 14 mth old son has suffered with chest infections since birth (6 weeks prem)at christmas he developed scarlet fever he had a severe cough develop with this and has never been able to get over it he has been admitted to hospital several times they are treating him as asthma also he has been on antibiotic so many times he finished his last course wednesday before last and started another one on tuesday last he was admitted to hospital on tuesday evening he had coughed so severly his eyes were badly blood shot and his breathing was really bad anyway to cut along story short i walked out of the hospital as the way he was being treated was a discrace they would not supply meals for him he does eat anything they forgot was the answer his meds were always at least 3 hours late after me harrasing them for them then his blood test after 3 different drs trying and finally getting it was left on the side before going the lab for 1.15 hrs and clotted so blood was no good i was told they had other priorities my son was vomiting blood when admitted and i think every child should be a priority and i felt i could look after my son better myself i have seen a lovely nurse a few times and fortunatly she was on a&e the night i walked out she got a dr to examine him the dr and everyone was appauled at the way my son had been treated and agreed he was better at home they are testing for whooping cough although no whoop but they say all other signs can anyone advise oh the original blood test shows he has infection and the blood clotting had something on it this is when they were repeating the hassle was but he has had nose bleeds and they have stopped quickly i just really dont know what else to do he sees chest consultant in 3 weeks thanks for reading

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Steve Hardy email: stevehardy12@yahoo.com 3/2/2006 at 17:28 (CT)

I have a 34 month old and she is starting to be aggressive with the other children at her daycare. She has been going to the same daycare since she was 6 weeks old and there aren't any new faces for the most part. The trouble is is that my daycare provider can't take it anymore and she is threatening to kick her out of daycare. My daughter kicks and hits and pulls hair and she wont stop. Most days, she is in time-out 5 times out of a 7 hour day. Help!! Does anyone have any advice?

Kellan email: kdmeyer@alltel.net 2/28/2006 at 3:48 (CT)

hi.. first time here. looks great. am a single mom of twin boys who are 16 months old today.. ayayya one is walking since January and has just started to be very clingy and always wants to be in my arms. The other is crusing everywhere but won't let go to take his first steps. What's with this clingy phase? It's so hard to even cook supper cause he just follows me and starts whining to be picked up. Is this common behavipur and how long will it last?

shari email: shariann@sympatico.ca 2/28/2006 at 2:04 (CT)

hi, i have a 19 month old daughter who is still nursing off of me. i would like to wean her off but seem to be having a hard time. it's only in the nights that she wants to be nursed or when she's upset but she tends to bite down on me and it really hurts. She does not use the bottle and drinks out of a regular cup on her own with out any problems.i had no trouble with my boys they we're very easy to wean off. so any suggestions would be most appreciated.

brenda email: teesh_shwaibe@hotmail.com 2/27/2006 at 23:56 (CT)

Hello Moms....I NEED HELP!!! I am the single mother of a 2 1/2 year old son, Anthony, and we are going thru some MAJOR attachment issues. First of all, my bed has not been mine for the past 6 months...he has moved in!! He will not go to sleep unless I am laying with him, if I try to sneak out after he falls asleep, he wakes up and won't let me leave him! When I try to get up in the AM, he gets up too. Sometimes when I try to take a shower he won't let me close the shower door, my nephew was over the other day and I asked him to rub my shoulders and Anthony went CRAZY!! Pulling me away from him and wouldn't settle down until I sat with him on the couch! It is getting to the point that it is unhealthy for both him and I!! I don't know what to do.....I reassure him that I will always be here, I will never leave him, but that doesn't seem to help. He is obsessive about being near me AT ALL TIMES! BUT, when I drop him off at daycare its....BYE mommy, see you later!! HELP!! IS THIS A PHASE or does he have some real issues going on here???

Cris email: crisanne@msn.com 2/27/2006 at 9:07 (CT)

I am desperate to find clues... I am the mother of 4 beautiful children, the first 3 of whom walked very early (well before 9 mo), my fourth is very small, under growth chart eventhough she eats exceptionally well. Eventhough she is 15 months old she has NO interest in walking. Blood tests are all normal. Does anyone have ideas for me to investigate??

Becky email: bekboland@aol.com 2/23/2006 at 10:41 (CT)

I have an all day playdate for my 3.5 yr old with a friend that is coming in from out of town. Even though I have snack and lunch time planned, what else do you all suggest I do to keep the girls occupied when there is down time?

LJ email: lojane@msn.com 2/20/2006 at 1:49 (CT)

My daughter has a 21 month old daughter who goes to her daddies house on the weekends. When her daddy went to drop her off my granddaughter did not want to let go of her daddy or go to mommie. My daughter was very upset. I explained that even children that have both parents in the same home go through the same thing. Is there a better way to explain this to her? She thinks I am just saying that to make her feel better.

Sheri Weichers email: sheriweichers@msn.com 2/19/2006 at 12:57 (CT)

Hey Girls!!! It's been a loooooong time!! I don't know how many of you I know here anymore, but I thought I'd pop in and update. :) Barrett (Bear) is 15 months old now...he's still huge, walking like a champ, throwing toys EVERYWHERE, and is being the pickiest eater alive. lol! He's also getting in his first molars (yes already!) the ones on top...one of them has the bruisy look to the gum which signals the tooth actually coming down and through. He doesn't even have his canines in yet!! I'm so lost. lol. Oh well...still trying to wean him off of the pacifier, and that's such a hard thing to do...it's his comfort thingy, you know...I hate to take it away. Anyways, if anybody is interested, email me, I'd love to chat with you all again! You can see some updated pics of Bear at his Babies online site... www.babiesonline.com /babies/b/babybarrett (sorry I had to put a space in it or it wouldn't post!) See you around! Stacey and Barrett

Stacey G with Barret email: guntherstacey@yahoo.com 2/15/2006 at 22:35 (CT)

Aimee- I would say do NOT rush it. If she isnt ready, she isn't ready. For children this is one thing they can actually "control" in their lives. Holding onto their poop/pee. It took my ds until he was four to go poop in the toilet. Even then he had problems until he was in kindergarten. People will tell you all day long that she should be potty trained by now and give you their opinions. You know your child and she has a reason why she is not yet comfortable with going on the toilet. There are some books you can read. Also, www.askdrsears.com is a great place for child-rearing advice. Good luck! Patricia&Andrea- What is "Creche"?

Momofthree email: 2/14/2006 at 11:52 (CT)

Patricia: about your son's illnesses, my little girl used to stay sick with everything that came through, colds, the flu, everything. My pediatrician suggested giving her very small doses of vitamin C and an herbal suppliment called Ecinacea (spelling is wrong sorry). Since then, she's been pretty healthy. You should ask your pediatrician about it. I've been trying the to potty train my 2 & 1/2 year old. She will stay dry all night and during naps, and will wear panties during the day. She refuses to pee or poop on the "big girl potty" though. She will cross her legs and hold herself, begging for a diaper. Any advice?

Amie email: hillbillyhunny@msn.com 2/13/2006 at 0:47 (CT)

I have a two year old boy who is in a full time creche. He was doing really well all summer and now with the bad weather is sick every week since November. He is a very good eater and I give him vitamins everything. He has been in hospital before Christmas with pneumonia and its just flu, chest infection every week. I took three weeks off work to try and give him a chance to get over everything after he got the all clear from the hospital however I sent him back this week and low and behold we were in the hospital with him last night. Four days back and we are back to square one. I'm so confused what do I do should I just give up and take him out for the next couple of months its getting very difficult to take any more time of work. HELP. Trisha.

Patricia Connell email: trishaconnell30@hotmail.com 2/9/2006 at 19:31 (CT)

Hi Joanne, Email me directly and I will give you good advice on how to help your child cope with her new daycare. I am a Preshcool Director and teacher. Most importantly stay positive. Don't let your child see or feel your anxiety. I will give you more tips. Kelly

Kelly email: leery604@aol.com 2/9/2006 at 5:49 (CT)

I have a 20 month toddler who attends creche every weekday. When I pick him up from crech and the minute that we get into the house, he cries and is very unhappy. because he wants to have food immedately and does not want to wait for me to prepare a meal. How can I hadle this as I get extremely fustrated and end upi shouting at him.

Andrea email: andrea.adams@kathea.co.za 2/8/2006 at 18:07 (CT)

My child is 3 and will be transfered to another daycare center as hers is closing down. She loved it there. what are some stratergies i could use to help her to adapt to this change? She was there for 2 years, now she'll have new teachers, friends etc. thanks. jo

Joanne Riddell email: joross10@iprimus.com.au 2/7/2006 at 18:23 (CT)

Thank you Sarah for your advice, I am not really trying to potty train my dd, 1 is far too early, but I was putting both of them on the potty at the same time as it was encouraging my son to sit for more than just a couple of seconds! How did you tackle moving out of diapers, did you do as some people suggest just not putting a diaper on at all except for sleep times? How many days should this be done before you conclude that it is not the right time for the potty training? Sorry I am in the thick of it here and wondering whether I am "getting it right"? I know I should just relax and let it happen. Nicole - sounds like you are having a really rough time of it at the moment, and your son is over-tired too. Can I ask how you know he is teething? and how many days have you given him the motrin? Motrin may be causing problems rather than solving them possibly, it can give headaches and drowsiness, both of which could be causing rather than solving the problem with sleep. I hope that this problem resolves for you soon.

kenny email: 2/2/2006 at 16:13 (CT)

Kenny- Typically, boys take longer to potty train then girls! Of course this isn't a rule or anything. My ds wasn't fully potty trained (including #2) until 4 yrs old. In my opinion, it is way to early to be potty training 1 year old. Although she seems to be going and it's cute and all, there is so much room for regressing at her age. Im not trying to discourage you just want to make sure you are aware that might happen. But, 2 1/2 yrs is about right but then again it make take him quite awhile. There are some great strategies. Check out www.askdrsears.com. That's the best advice I have.

Sarah email: 2/2/2006 at 10:58 (CT)

HELP!!!! My 24 month old son ,who has never had sleeping problems ,has been fighting his bedtime for 3 weeks now. I know he is teething and I give him motrin and orajel and I have tried everything possible to get him to go to bed and it is only getting worse...he's only had a low- grade fever once...so I haven't suspected any reall illness...he has also just lost most all of his appetite. When this first started some of my tactics would work to get him to sleep....now 3 wks later...nothing is working...he is just up until about the middle of the night ( and he IS tired..yawning...rubbing eyes) Why is fighting it so hard?? Could there be something else wrong w/ him? His doctor hasn't been much help. And he is sooo tired in the morning....Please give me some advice,share your experiences...ANYTHING!!!!! Thanks! NIcole

NICOLE email: NWYCOFF711@YAHOO.COM 2/1/2006 at 23:34 (CT)

Kenny Random return, having not been here for months, and I find several people I know - hi to you all. A special hello and congrats to Ayesha (Naim) and Karen (Nicholas), both of which I met on the ttc board about 3 years ago! Question: I have 2 1/2 year old boy and 1 year old girl, both of which I am just starting to potty train. I have been regularly putting them on the potty for 10 mins 2 or 3 times a day, my little girl uses the potty each time, and my little boy does not! Since I was only trying to train the boy, what do I do now, any suggestions. Tresha: my children are both dairy intolerant, it can be tough finding things to eat that are dairy-free but it makes such a difference in their health it is worth it.

Kenny email: 2/1/2006 at 22:48 (CT)

I recently returned to work. I am with my son from 6 am until 5 pm and then I work from 6 pm until 12 am. I had a specific schedule for Ethan prior to returning to work but I feel as if it went out the window. I dont want my son to suffer because finances require me to work but is there any tricks to lightening the load on me?!

Candace email: candyapple0828@aol.com 2/1/2006 at 13:56 (CT)

My son DaShaun will be three in April and right now I'm babysitting my mom's friends' son so my son goes with me. He used to act very good but now he doesn't listen and do what is asked when asked because her son is a spoiled baby and is disresceptful . Also I'm having any issue get him to want to want to use the potty and get him to bed when I'm ready to go to bed. How can I get him to act like he used to?

Ashley email: finedesirble@yahoo.com 1/31/2006 at 8:04 (CT)

Ayesha with Naim,2 Rebbecca My 2 year old loves bathtime but is terrified of the shower and washing his hair. I deal with it by sometimes getting in the bath with him and remind him that "mummy loves you and will not hurt you". This seems to have worked and he wraps his arms around me and says "Mamma, loves me". You can tell he is actively trying to overcome the fear, but is still scared. He's slowly coming round. I have also encouraged him to like the shower but playing games with it and letting him touch it during non bath times. Re your son, maybe you should try to remind him what fun the water is by letting him play with it from afar and take it from there. Good luck.

Ayesha email: 1/28/2006 at 5:32 (CT)

18 month fraternal twin boys Rebecca Hi. It's funny how one bad "bath incident" can change how a child takes his/her baths. Both my twin boys have always loved baths until one day while rinsing my one twins hair, he got soap in his eyes and now he refuses to sit down in the tub. I can still bath him but for some reason he won't sit...which tubs are sooo slippery I am always afraid to look away. As for creative bath ideas........have you tried bathing him in the kitchen sink or maybe in a large rubbermaid tub on the bathroom floor. Maybe if you take the bathtub out of the senerio, maybe he'll not associate his sore bum with water, just with the bathtub itself. It might be a little messier or troublesome, but it just may work. If you use a tub on the floor maybe don't tell him he's having a bath but rather just put it there and put toys in it to play with, then when he's been playing in the water from the outside maybe say "let's take off your clothes and you can play in it". I found the best thing that works with my boys is destraction.......let them think I'm not making them do something and next thing I know, they're doing it!

Karrie email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca 1/26/2006 at 23:36 (CT)

I have a 15 month old little boy who absolutely loved taking a bath, it was fun and comforting to him, but one evening without realizing that he had a red and sore butt I put him in the soapy water and he cried to get out. Now he is afraid to take baths and we have to wash him while he stands and crys and take him out right away. Does anyone know how to make bathtime fun and happy again? :)

Rebecca Marchand email: rmarchand@sdkcpa.com 1/26/2006 at 22:12 (CT)

Ayesha with Naim, 2 yrs 3mths Karen with Nicholas YES I remember you. I only logged on today to have a look and noticed your name. I remember you from the pregnancy board nearly 3 years ago now when I was pg withn my son and you were at the end of your pg with Nicholas. Nice to hear you and Nicholas are both doing well. Congratulations on your second pregnancy...and guess what so am I, but as with our first, I am due a lot later than you in September ( only just got my positive result). So are you on the pregnancy board? I will be joining.

Ayesha email: 1/25/2006 at 21:05 (CT)

Kady- Two books I can recommend "The no cry sleep solution" and "The baby whisperer". See if you can check them out at your library, or go to Half.com and you can buy them for cheap. Good luck, it''l take some work and you have to be consistent!!! It's time though!

shana email: 1/24/2006 at 12:27 (CT)

Someone help! I have a 19 mth old who still sleeps with us EVERY night and has to be rocked to even go to sleep. How do I get him to sleep in his own bed and fall asleep on his own?

Kady email: cameronjh2004@hotmail.com 1/24/2006 at 12:08 (CT)

April- What are your reasons for wanting to stop the bottle "right now"? There really isn't anything wrong with your 14 month old drinking from a bottle as baboes that age still have that need for sucking and feeding that way. however if you simply want to make the final transition easier you can introduce sippy cups on a regular basis. Try juice or water if she refuses to drink milk that way. There are several types of sippies on the market. I would check out Walmart or Target. Introduce it to her everyday and maybe leave it somewhere she can get it herself and even play with it so she can become comfortable. But, please do not let anyone make you believe it is "wrong" for a baby her age to still drink from a bottle. Renee- I am not sure where you live but this message board is nationwide and worldwide. Please tell us what state you are in and maybe there are some resources someone can help you with! I know it can be lonely being a stay at home mom! Dawn- There are some great support systems for stay-at-home-moms like yourself. Try doing a search on the net or maybe look into some church groups. Tresha- My little girl also suffers from constipation. I have a stool softener that her pdeiatrician prescribes and also I use the babylax suppositories. I must add, 4-6 ounces of straight prune juice everday may be a great aid in her moving her bowels! Goodluck!

Sarah email: 1/22/2006 at 11:52 (CT)

Hi my name is April I am 21 yrs old and a 1st time mother with a 14 month old girl my question is how to stop a 14 month old from still drinking out of a bottle instead of a sippy cup please write back and give me tips or ways to get her to stop drinking out of the bottle and into the cup..thanks

April email: singlegirl3403@msn.com 1/21/2006 at 5:16 (CT)

LESLIE!!! Hi its me Its been forever since I've been online. I was hoping I'd find you or Conners on here. How have you been? Email me so we can chat!

Trish with Aly Rhian email: fling_the_cow@hotmail.com 1/20/2006 at 22:13 (CT)

Hi I am a new mom. I do not have any friends that have kids so i am looking for a leginimate playgroup for my 2 year old son. We live in the west valley, northwest really. First baby so i am pretty nervous. God Bless you all.

renee email: mamatar2004@lycos.com 1/17/2006 at 8:23 (CT)

I'm also looking for more activities to do with my 18 mos old son. I have tried coloring/scribbling with washable markers but after awhile he eats the tips off or colors on himself! I am afraid to try playdoh or fingerpaint as he might eat it. Thanks for sharing any other tips. I am a first time mom!

Patty email: azgenie@hotmail.com 1/16/2006 at 5:49 (CT)

hi everybody , im new to this site , im 22 and i have a three year old son sean and an eight month old daughter mya . i feel very overwhelmed lately and i have nobody to talk to as none of my friends have kids .

dawn email: dawntand2@hotmail.com 1/15/2006 at 23:27 (CT)

Hi, everyone I am a new mother 23-years-old with a 16-month-old little girl(Chantel) I just found out that she is lactose intolerance. I knew her father was lactose intolerant but I thought it might have skiped over her but it didn't . I guess my question is how do I deal with her still being constipated. Some days she is okay and other days her bowels are so tight that she cries and I cry because I can feel her pain. If you have any suggestions please e-mail me at my e-mail address I need help!! Thank-you in advance from one mother to another.

Tresha email: latreshaclark@yahoo.com 1/15/2006 at 4:07 (CT)

Hello! I'm new to this website and message boards so please forgive errors or typos please! I have a 21month old son named Kevin. He is very active, heathy, good natured, and a good sleeper. However he has always been a very picky eater!! He will eat breads, crackers, chicken fingers, PB&J, grilled cheese, yougart, apple sause, sometimes meatballs, and baby food sweet potatoes. That's it. He will be two soon and I'm losing it. I try not to turn meals into battles but I don't know how I can get him to eat normal food! Has anyone else been through this? what can I do?? I would really appriciate and help all of my freind and siblings with little ones have campian eaters and are no help at all.

Izzi & Kev. email: markus4315@sbcglobal.net 1/10/2006 at 2:56 (CT)

Should my daughter be able to regonize all of her colors? She only regonizes purple and sometimes red. She is 24 months and talks a lot. What could I be doing to help her learn her colors? My freinds daughter is 23 months and she knows all of her colors and even some letters.

Kim email: desjaid@comcast.net 1/9/2006 at 20:14 (CT)

Alysha, I was so happy to see a post from you...I have thought of you so often. Glad to hear things are going well, and thats great news on the wedding....i would love to keep in touch with you.

Kim and Jadyn email: kimmer@hotmail.com 1/9/2006 at 9:07 (CT)

Just stopped by to see some old faces. Alysha - Hi there. I have often wondered how you and the girls are going. You sound so happy and Brett sounds just fabulous. Certainy does sound like he was hand-picked by TJ. I am really happy that you have the chance to know happiness again. You must certainly have been through some hard times. Melissa w/ Jared@3 3/4 & Emily@19 months

Melissa O email: relly70@hotmail.com 1/7/2006 at 18:27 (CT)

Hi there, My little girl has begun to bite her nails. I use to keep them short, but now she does that on her own. I bite my nails (I know, bad example), but I truly do not want this to become a nasty habit for her. What can I do to prevent her from biting her nails? She's just 15 m/o's old.

Sharon & Cadence, 15 email: SharonAndreas@msn.com 1/7/2006 at 10:30 (CT)

Wow I havent been here in ages! I see some familiar names. Alysha: I am so happy to see your post. I was just thinking about you the other day and wondering if you were doing ok. I am so glad to hear that you are all doing great! I think that you are awesome for going back to school so that you can help people get thru the things you had to. You truly are an amazingly strong woman. Big hugs to you! Leslie, Mady (nearly 5) and Ashton (2.5)

Leslie email: rlmagreer@comcast.net 1/7/2006 at 10:18 (CT)

Hi....I don't know how many of you remember me. I was just working on a scrap book and I came across the many messages and cards I received when my husband passed almost 18 months ago. I just wanted to give you all an update on my life. Ainsley is 4 1/2 now and a complete joy. She is so smart - already reading and writing and is itching to start Kindergarten in the fall. She is taking dance and gymnastics lessons and wants to do soccer and ice skating too...lol....she wants to do everything. Kira is 33 months (I can't believe she'll be 3 in 3 months!) and is HUGE. She's 41 inches tall and weighs 38 pounds. Nobody thinks she's only 2....including me sometimes. All traces of her muscle disorder are gone and the doctors here can't believe she ever had a problem. Pretty good, I'd say, for a child whom "they" said might never walk unassisted :) I am in school pursuing a second bachelors in Psychology and will move into a Masters program this fall. I will be getting a degree in Counseling Psychology and hope to work with young widows and children. What else...oh ya...I have met a wonderful man who loves me and my girls and I will be getting married again this June. His name is Brett and he is amazing. I honestly think that TJ had a hand in bringing Brett to me as I couldn't have found a man this accepting on my own. Thanks for reading, if you remember me :P And if you have no clue who I am just move on...lol. I was once upon a time a regular here.

Alysha email: AlyshaVanReusen@hotmail.com 1/5/2006 at 2:33 (CT)

Hey all. Olivia w/Joe (28 mos.) here. How is everyone? We did survive Christmas. The board seems very slow. Joe is quite the talker and so active I rarely get computer time during the day. Most days he takes an afternoon nap but that's my time to catch up on other things I cannot do while he's into everything. It's great having all the new Christmas toys for him to get into...these trains and cars keep him happy for hours at a time. He also likes to color and "write" letters. Funny. Happy new year to each of you, I hope to see some new posts soon.

Olivia w/Joe @ 28 mo email: 1/4/2006 at 9:57 (CT)

17 month fraternal twin boys LINDA HI. You mentioned about your grandson's milk habits. When my boys were at the docs 2 weeks ago, I asked him how much milk they should be drinking and his response was at least 18 oz but no more 40 oz. in a day. I would think that as long as your grandson is getting enough to eat and not letting the milk fill him up then I wouldn't worry about it. Try making him wait until his meals are done for milk and if he still drinks that much then at least he'll have strong bones. I believe calcium is a soluable mineral so he can't get too much but excess is known to cause kidney stones..........but go on-line and try to find info about children and too much calcium. By the way, my 10 year old daughter is also a groundhog baby, born Feb 02. Hope this helped.

Karrie email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca 12/28/2005 at 6:14 (CT)

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Lucy Osakwe email: lucy_osakwe_01@hotmail.com 12/26/2005 at 22:19 (CT)

my grandson will be 2 on feb 2 of 2006,the thing is he drinks 4to 5 6oz cups of milk just in the morning hours alone so i want to know how much sould he be drinking?

Linda email: sale70@msn.com 12/22/2005 at 11:08 (CT)

Just wondering if anyone happens to live in Pennsylvania (near the areas of Coopersburg, Quakertown, Souderton or surrounding areas) and if so would maybe want to start a small playgroup or something. My son is 15 months old and we have a couple little friends that we get together with occasionally and my little guy really seems to enjoy those playdates, so I was hoping to find a few more people who might be interested in getting together. It's hard finding a playgroup that we can make it to since I work part time and most seem to meet on weekdays in the morning while I'm working. His grammy watches him while I work, so he is surrounded by adults pretty much all day and I know it is a welcome sight to see others his own age and it is so adorable watching them play in their own way together. Just let me know if you are anywhere close by and would be interested!

Jenn email: galaxyjnjnt@hotmail.com 12/20/2005 at 10:11 (CT)

Hi, I hope someone can help me. This evening, my normally well behaved 22 month old daughtet bit me on my arm. We were almost at the end of her bedtime routine and she was almost asleep when she sat up and bit me hard on the upper arm. I was stunned and immediately jumped up and told her "no biting" but I am concerned. Normally this type of behavior only happens when she is frustrated- she will sometimes try to hit or scratch but this was new. How do I stop this from happening again? I thougt about a time out but she was in bed and calm.

Susan email: suze_28@hotmail.com 12/17/2005 at 10:38 (CT)

Is it wrong to suppliment a 19 month old with baby/toddler jar food? My daughter gets full balanced meals but sometimes I suppliment to give her a variety....... I was told she was too old and I am treating her like a baby but I see it as giving her extra nutrition along with her big girl meals. How old were your children when you completely stopped giving baby/toddler food to them?

Anon email: 12/14/2005 at 3:23 (CT)

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Donna Smith, iParent email: donna@iparenting.com 12/13/2005 at 11:40 (CT)

Karen- Hi! Congratulations on the new baby!! I'm happy for you. Glad to hear everything is fine. Take care, Becca

Becca email: 11/28/2005 at 20:49 (CT)

My name was supposed to say: Karen and Nicholas and baby on the way. LOL

Karen again email: 11/25/2005 at 11:44 (CT)

Hey, the board has changed since the last time I was on. Just wanted to stop in and see if there were any names I recognized from when I was a regular on here. Hi Carol/Jack, Melissa O with Jared, Olivia and Joe For those of you who might remember me, HI! Things are good. My son is 2.5 yrs old (will be 3 in April) and I am due with my second, this coming May. Nicholas is doing great. Talking up a storm, and keeping me busy. He is my little man. Take care, just wanted to say hi.

Karen and Nichola, a email: 11/25/2005 at 11:43 (CT)

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wale email: dr_walejohnson@yahoo.com 11/21/2005 at 7:27 (CT)

My 2 year old son has been sick for a couple weeks now. We just recently found out that he has asthma. He has had to use a nebulizer for the last couple of days and he does not like it. He fights so much. Does anyone have any advice in making it easier to do??

Lindsay email: lindz527@yahoo.com 11/19/2005 at 22:50 (CT)

My 2 year old recently started to isolate herself while at daycare. She does not want to be a part of the group. If the other children are going outside, she runs in the other direction away from the door. If the grooup is preparing for story time she runs to the kitchen area. Is this common for a 2 year old?

G. email: gyonker@monmouth.edu 11/17/2005 at 22:55 (CT)

Hayley- It sounds as if your son has colic. Is he on breast milk, or formula? Because my daughter did the same thing, after every time she ate, she projectile vomited, and it was because she was severly allergic to the regular formula, actually, both of my kids were. When I finally switched them from regular formula to special soy, they became a lot better.

Bethany email: bethanyfunloving_009@yahoo.com 11/11/2005 at 9:56 (CT)

I have a 3 month old boy and he hasn`t been well since he became 2 weeks old. He has a tempreture of a night time, after every feed he is violent sick, always has cold hands and feet, screams of a night time and theres no way 2 calm him down, am worried about him. Hes been to the doctors several times and i am ot happy with the result they have given me.

Hayley email: strawberry_cream_265@hotmail.com 11/8/2005 at 19:33 (CT)

Hi all. Wow, the board has changed while I was gone. What a shock, but it looks cool. I am 7 weeks post-op and we are doing really well. I have been feeling great all along. The surgical pain lasted barely two weeks and since then, I've just been trying to get back into the routine. Lots of new names, awesome. Welcome to all the new moms. Bethany: I hope Madison is feeling better soon. Sarah: If your 3 year old isn't into the dance class, by all means stop going. Karrie: Our boy went from bottle to regular cup at six months. He isn't perfect even now at 26 mos. but we didn't want to go through two transitions. I don't think your guys are too young at all, but that's just me. Aimee: 18 mos. is such a fun age. Here are some things we did: finger painting, playdoh, crayons on blank paper (not coloring books), go for walks on warm days/exploring, read books, NO TV, NO videos, we did active stuff mostly to wear him out and ensure he'd be tired enough to nap. He played with building blocks, trains, etc. One thing I should say is you don't need to be her playmate...there are lots of things that require supervision, but she should be able to entertain herself with her books/toys and frankly, it's good for them to get bored because then they have to find ways to entertain themselves and they can really get creative at that point. If you also get into rotating her toys that will help keep her environment fresh. We have Joe's toys in four large Rubbermaid tubs that we switch every week or so. He gets to rediscover old toys and has a great time that way. We do the same with books. Hope this helps. Irene: Your grand-daughter needs to be potty trained. Mike: I think your 2 year old is vying for yours/mom's attention. The baby cries and gets attention so he's going to do something similar. I would immediately ignore him when he does this, tend to the baby and calmly tell him that when he's done crying to come and tell you then you can do something fun. I think by ignoring him, the fits will end. Lindsey: You can't cure a cold. It has to run it's course. You can make your son more comfortable, but that's about it. Whether the herbal stuff is making him more comfortable...who knows? I doubt it can hurt him but you can ask his pediatrician. Laura D.: Aren't two year olds fun? Well, obviously, something isn't working. I've recently started taking away privileges for mis-behavior, such as no cookie after dinner or putting away his favorite puzzle until the next day, etc. If you feel like you're yelling all the time, you are and your son is tuning you out. Stop raising your voice, period. From now on, talk calmly. If he doesn't ask for something properly, he doesn't get it. If my son wants milk, he knows to say, "Please mama, milk?" and then I will get it for him. If he plops himself on the floor and yells "milk!" (as he did for a spell) he learned very quickly that mama just didn't hear him, didn't move a muscle, didn't say a word and he got nothing. Worked very quickly. After he drinks he says, "thank you, mama." Since there's a young sibling involved, you can start teaching him that he is the big brother, he's a big boy, he's her protector, etc. If he doesn't treat her properly he should definitely feel the consequences such as losing out on dessert or losing his most treasured toy for a day, etc. But also since he's older there should be some perks, such as you go to a park and he gets to play because he's so big and she just has to sit with you, etc. If you play up his big boy status, he will love that. He should also be helping you with a few things, getting stuff you need, putting his dirty clothes in the hamper, etc. When sister is napping, he could help you in the kitchen or getting clothes out of the dryer, stuff the baby cannot do and of course, you tell him what a good helper he is. Hope this helps. Well, gotta run. Have a great weekend and enjoy your kiddos.

Olivia and Joe @ 26 email: 11/5/2005 at 9:24 (CT)

Hello all~ Madison(my two and a half year old) has been very sick for the past week. I took her to the dr on tuesday, and he says its simply viral, but she is still running a fever of 102.5, puking, and just feeling badly even though I have her on tyllenol, and motrin, any ideas to help? I have tried cool baths, and vicks bubble bath, cool sprite in a sippie cup, and even cold washclothes on her head, nothing helps!

Bethany email: bethanyfunloving_009@yahoo.com 10/28/2005 at 10:45 (CT)

I am at my wits end with my 3 year old daughter! Tonight she got kicked of dance class!! She just feels as though she should be able to do anything she wants. I've tried setting limits and she just simply ignores them. Can you help?

Sarah email: slwilliams27@charter.net 10/27/2005 at 9:36 (CT)

HI. I'm new to this forum.....usually over at the twins site as I have 15 month fraternal boys. My question is this, when is the most common age to wean from bottle to sippy cup.? Both my boys took to a sippy cups pretty easily at 6 months and I feel it would be a good transition now, while they are still young. Right now they only drink juice and water from their cup but still have milk in a bottle. I was already to switch them 100% to cup but after reading over other forums, moms' were asking how to wean their 2, 2.5year olds from bottle so I am wondering if I am doing it too early. To be honest, it's been too long since my 10 year old was weaned so I don't remember how old she was. Any advice would be appreciated!

Karrie email: momwithtwins2004@yahoo.ca 10/27/2005 at 7:34 (CT)

This message is in response to Aimee, who is looking for activities to do at home with her 18 month old. Check out www.eebee.com for a look at a new DVD series created especially for toddlers and parents that is all about play! The website offers lots of suggestions for at-home play and activities that are fun and educational. If you'd like, register to receive a free sampler DVD!

Julie Henry email: juliehenry@tulatalk.com 10/26/2005 at -1:13 (CT)

Does anyone know of any websites that have ideas for activities to do at home with a 18 month old girl. I keep running out of ideas for activities.

Aimee email: aimeed@butlers.com.au 10/25/2005 at 7:16 (CT)

My 28 month old granddaughter removes her socks, pants and diaper and defecates in various spots throughout the house. When her mother realizes this my granddaughter looks at her and asks "Are you going to punish me?". She is put in her room. Why does she do this and what can be done? Thanks Irene

Irene Vallone email: iodine1949@yahoo.com 10/24/2005 at -5:42 (CT)

Lindsay,

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 10/23/2005 at -2:05 (CT)

Comment:

OUR 2 YR OLD SON IS SUDDENLY CRYING HYSTERICALLY WHEN OUR 6 MOS OLD DAUGHTER MAKES ANY KIND OF NOISE. IF SHE EVER LAUGHS, HE WILL BURST OUT CRYING AND WON'T STOP UNTIL SHE IS TAKEN OUT OF ROOM OR HE GETS A TIME-OUT UPSTAIRS. THE TIME-OUTS HAVEN'T WORKED. WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP THIS. WE TRY TELLING HIM THAT SHE IS O.K. BECAUSE HE SAYS THAT "BABY CRYING". WE TELL HIM SHE IS FINE AND LET HIM SEE HE BUT THAT DOES'NT WORK. ANY IDEAS?

mike email: mperk167@sbcglobal.net 10/23/2005 at 16:40 (CT)

My 2 year old son has a horrible cold and is coughing really bad. His father and I are not together,and his new girlfriend works in an organic foods store. They have beeen giving him herbal medicine. Is it ok for him to have that? I have been giving him cough medicine and motrin, which seems to be helping. any advice would be very helpful.

Lindsay email: lindz527@yahoo.com 10/23/2005 at 8:35 (CT)

Laura-

Bethany email: bethanyfunloving_009@yahoo.com 10/21/2005 at -1:06 (CT)

Comment:

Well, I have been a mother for two years now and i have two kids a 2 1/2 year old and a 4 month old. I thought WOW! being a mom is easy, well then came the terrible two's and now I think i am the worst mother ever. I feel like i am yelling all the time. My son does not listen to me and time out's just aren't working. My husband and I both of which are against spanking are having second thoughts about trying this method. We would really like to find an alternative but just cannot seem to find anything to work with our son. He does exactly the opposite of what we say, ie "Don't hit your sister" so he hits her again. "ask nicely" and he screams in our face, is this behaviour normal? I try not to yell or let him see me get mad but it is so hard. I don't know what to do and would really appreciate any help at all. I am so desperate.

Laura Davis email: laurawdavis@hotmail.com 10/19/2005 at 16:24 (CT)

Help! Im running ut of "table food" ideas for my 12 month old-

Sarah email: 10/18/2005 at -3:31 (CT)

Comment:

Bethany -

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 10/18/2005 at 17:13 (CT)

Comment:

Tammy~

Bethany email: bethanyfunloving_009@yahoo.com 10/17/2005 at -4:47 (CT)

Comment:

At what age do most parents transfer their toddlers from the crib to a bed? We are a little anxious about our daughter having free roam of the upstairs if she wakes up in the middle of the night. We have thought about a gate on her bedroom door but then doesn't that affect night-time potty training?

Kim Krolczyk email: chloemecca@msn.com 10/17/2005 at 14:16 (CT)

Bethany, this is in response to your post about your daughter acting up lately. I think the main problem is probably the new little one year old......kids your daughters age are in "the terrible twos" and any change of routine can make their little worlds spin out of control. My daughter is two also, and she is awful around other little kids when they are in what she considers "her territory". She gets downright mean, doing all the things you said your daughter does. I think that is what is happening to you. Your daughter is trying to say, hey, this place is mine, get out of here. I have found a little trick that seems to work, or at least lessens her behavior. I've started giving her hugs and kisses and praise every half hour when she is good, and then if she acts up, I tell her, no, you don't get a hug this time you were bad. Keep up with that throughout a day and see if she acts better to get hugs from mommy. Just an idea. You also mentioned your ex, was he her dad? If so, maybe daddy not being around so much has upset her. Try and make sure they still see each other so she doesn't feel abandoned by daddy. She is 2, and kids are notorious for being rebellious at that age. It will pass, just remember to love her, and know she's not bad, just her behaviour. And have patience.. Feel free to email me if you want to talk anymore. Talk to you soon, Tammy

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 10/17/2005 at 12:32 (CT)

Help!

Bethany email: bethanyfunloving_009@yahoo.com 10/17/2005 at 0:16 (CT)

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I was wanting some advice or opinions. I have a beautiful two year old daughter, Olivia. I recently had surgery, and My brother and sister in law watched our children. It has come to my attention that during this time my brother in law spanked my daughter. I have not said anything to him or my sister in law. How should I handle this

Angela email: AKCave0129@hotmai.com 10/17/2005 at -1:48 (CT)

Hello,

Taffy email: queentaff@charter.net 10/16/2005 at -4:01 (CT)

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Hi, i have a 15 months old son,he has stopped eating solid food for last one month,initially i thought it's because he is teething,but now i am worried & want to find out,is this kind of thing common while kids are teething,other then that ,he seems fine,he is drinking milk & also being breast fed,buti am worried that it's not enough for a 15 month old,besides he has also lost some weight,but at the same time he is pretty active & playful,please share your views with me.

nidhi joshi email: ajoshi@comcast.net 10/13/2005 at 10:02 (CT)

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HI Ladies

Sarah w/E&N email: cshoover26@yahoo.ca 10/13/2005 at 9:46 (CT)

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Sarah, yes, my daughter is also very laid back, and independant, and was never very clingy, even when she was a baby. She's been very very good ever since birth. My son is too young to tell what he will be like, but already he cries more than she did. Not a lot, he's a good baby, but more than his sister ever did at his age. So I'm kinda curious to see what he will turn out to be like when he's 1. And Christmas is a lot more fun when they old enough to open their own gifts and realize what the day is. Well, talk to everyone soon! Tammy (Krystina and Logan)

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 10/12/2005 at 18:00 (CT)

HOW CAN I IMPROVE MY SON'S SPEECH?

Karlene email: kittenkars@hotmail.co.uk 10/12/2005 at 13:00 (CT)

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Help! My 16 month old daughter has started something that breaks my heart. (I think she picked it up from another toddler at daycare) I know it shouldn't, but it does. She knew how to say mama, but won't anymore. She's calling both me & my husband daddy. Has anyone else experienced this & is there anything I can do, or will she just outgrow it pretty soon?

Gena email: timgena2@intrstar.net 10/11/2005 at 13:32 (CT)

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Hi Tammy,

Sarah w/E&N email: cshoover26@yshoo.ca 10/11/2005 at 10:09 (CT)

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Sarah, this is Tammy, and I will soon be going through the same thing, I have two gorgeous children, my daughter is 2 and my son is 2 months, so i will have a 1 year old and a 3 year old in a little less than a year. Well, I just thought I'd say hi, I like to keep an eye on this board, lots of good info and informed parents.

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 10/9/2005 at 18:15 (CT)

Kelly- I do not any advice in the weaning department. However, I do believe that flouride will not prevent the decay that is already there. I believe that flouride is more dangerous to our babies health than it is good for them. It is a toxic chemical. You may want to do more research on this!

Sara email: 10/9/2005 at 0:29 (CT)

Question,

Kelly email: elizabethjean@canada.com 10/7/2005 at 16:03 (CT)

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Wow, this board is really slow...where is everyone? People used to be on here all the time...

Sarah w/E&N email: cshoover26@yahoo.ca 10/7/2005 at 9:47 (CT)

Diana - I would probably talk to your doc or paediatrician who may want to have your daughters blood checked. It sounds like it could be low iron. I'm no doctor, that's for sure, but I've had low iron and I really just felt draggy and sleepy all the time. gl.

Sarah w/E&N email: cshoover26@yahoo.ca 10/6/2005 at 11:49 (CT)

Hi Ladies!

Sarah w/E&N email: cshoover26@yahoo.ca 10/6/2005 at 10:36 (CT)

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My son is 22 mths and in a montessori, recently he is uncontrollable, running around, can't sit and very little attention span. Has anyone else experienced this with their little one and any suggestions..

Baljit.bardai email: baljit.bardai@cgi.com 10/6/2005 at 9:58 (CT)

Lately my sweet 22 month old daughter has started to pull her own hair or bite herself when we correct any bad behavior. I am not sure where she picked up on this, but it is concerning me just the same. Does anyone have any insight on this? I believe that it must be her way of expressing anger but how do I stop the self inflicting pain?

Debi email: debilaine@yahoo.com 10/5/2005 at 15:39 (CT)

Does anyone have an idea of the going rate for a nanny?? She would come to my house to watch a 3 month and not be required to do chores. I just need to know the avg. starting rate. Thanks.

candbsmom email: jkronacher@yahoo.com 10/4/2005 at 17:52 (CT)

my two and half year old daughter, had a fever between 100 and 102 degrees for three days. there was a rash on her cheek and a little on her neck and arms.

lacy email: clhsc5@wmconnect.com 10/2/2005 at 10:55 (CT)

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I have twins that will be 3 years old in November, a boy and a girl. My little girl seems like she is always tired, she now complains about being tired even after taking a 3 hour knapp. What would be the cause of this? Should I have her blood check? Thanks

Diana email: dmitchek@yahoo.com 10/1/2005 at 18:52 (CT)

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This is in response to Lindsay's post....about her 2 year old calling her by her first name. My daughter just turned 2 and has recently started doing the same thing occasionally. I always gently correct her, until she repeats Mommy....and then I tell her that it's a very special thing to be her mommy because she and her little brother are the only 2 people in the whole wide world that can call me Mommy. Not sure how much of that she fully understands, but it seems to work for a while. Toddlers don't have very long memories, so patience is the key.

Tammy email: landksmommy@yahoo.com 9/29/2005 at 12:39 (CT)

My 2 year old son has been calling me by my first name. When I correct him and tell him that he calls me mommy he thinks it's funny and calls me by my first name again. I don't think it's a big deal it's probably just a phase, but if anyone has any advise or has gone through this with their children pleas let me know. Thanks.

Lindsay email: lindz527@yahoo.com 9/28/2005 at -5:18 (CT)

My husband had given him a bath a few weeks ago and the drain plug came out. He said it scared him, but he has had baths since then. It was maybe two or three bath times after that he became so frightened. Maybe he regressed, or remembered being scared before. Thanks for the input. Any other suggestions on how to make him comfortable again are welcome!

Caitlin email: cah72903@hotmail.com 9/28/2005 at 11:59 (CT)

Cynthia- No, I wouldn't be concerned about your daughters pronunciation at this point. She is very young and has plenty of time to learn. It is fun having smart kids though isn't it?

Sara email: 9/28/2005 at 11:52 (CT)

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My son is 2 and has recently become terrified of the bathtub. He used to love bath time and now he is petrified. He cries and shakes uncontrollably. I've tried putting a swimsuit on and going in with him, but he's still afraid. Any advice on what could have frightened him, or how to make things easier for him?

Caitlin email: cah72903@hotmail.com 9/28/2005 at 9:37 (CT)

Lisa Marie Hay - Not long ago we too had the same problem as you. Our two year old daughter was waking in the night and wanted her bottle filled with water. She ended up doing this about three times a night and one day it dawned on me that this wasn't a habit I wanted her to keep!!!

Jennie email: jennie@sandjando.com 9/28/2005 at 4:15 (CT)

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My daughter is 21 months old. She is very verbal and has an extensive vocabulary however, she pronounces her "b's" as "d's" and her "p's" as "k's". Should I be concerned?

Cynthia Jankiewicz email: poopie@bellatlantic.net 9/27/2005 at -4:24 (CT)

OMG! HELP!!

Lisa Marie Hay email: haywaite@nb.sympatico.ca 9/27/2005 at 16:18 (CT)

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HI SARAH MY DAUGHTER WHO IS 19 MONTHS NOW DID THE SAME TO ME AT 10 MONTHS I FOUND THAT BEING LOVING BUT FIRM REALLY HELPED ALTHOUGH IT WAS DIFFICULT I HAD TO LEAVE HER IN HER COT 5 MINUTES ATA TIME ON HER OWN WITH A DIM LIGHT AND THE DOOR AJAR. SHE HATED IT SHE SCREAMED BUT EACH TIME I CAME IN AND KISSED HER GOODNIGHT AND LAID HER BACK DOWN UNTIL SHE FELL ASLEEP AFTER TWO NIGHTS SHE WENT OFF ON HER OWN WITHOUT THE DRAMA. ALTHOUGH IT BROKE MY HEART TO SEE HER CRY LIKE THAT I HAD TO BE CRUEL TO BE KIND SHE WAS OLD ENOUGH TO GO WITHOUT A FEED IN THE NIGHT SO I HAD TO TRAIN HER OUT OF IT. I WAS VERY TIRED FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS BUT IT WAS WORTH IT. NOW I SAY GOOD NIGHT TO HER KISS HER AND PUT HER IN HER COT AND SHE WILL GO TO SLEEP SOMETIMES SHE WILL CRY A LITTLE IF SHE FEELS SHE IS MISSING OUT ON SOMETHING BUT GENERALLY SHE IS VERY GOOD

Joanne C email: JOANNECU@HOTMIAL.COM 9/25/2005 at 9:28 (CT)

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Jody,

candbsmom email: jkronacher@yahoo.com 9/23/2005 at -4:37 (CT)

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My 2 1/2 year old son has been in daycare for 2 years. Now all of a sudden he cries when I leave. This will occur for a week or two then he's fine for a month or so. I don't think the daycare is neglectful but how do I know? Any suggestions?

jody email: teko64@yahoo.com 9/21/2005 at 13:01 (CT)

Sarah- Odly enough I too have a 10 month old girl and I am dealing with similar issues. Will your baby take a pacifier? Have you looked into any books like 'The no-cry sleep solution'? There are some really good books out there. I think it does take some persistance on your part and I know it seems like it will never end. It will but it may ake some time and work.Are you still nursing her during the day? You may want to check out the breastfeeding board, the gals over there seem to be very knowledgeable! good luck! I am glad Im not the only one going through this!

SarahG email: 9/20/2005 at -5:01 (CT)

What is the going rate for babysitting a 3 year old who is potty trained?

Jan email: jallenk@aol.com 9/19/2005 at 9:16 (CT)

I have a strong-willed 10 month old girl who breastfeeds and sleeps in my bed at night. She wakes up about 5 times a night of which I breastfeed her twice, - I've been cutting back! How do I get her to sleep in her own room in her crib ???? She fights sleep and will hardly fall asleep unless I nurse her. Help!!!

sarah email: mygosurprise@aol 9/18/2005 at -3:19 (CT)

Thanks girls for your replies. Some very good insight on this topic.

Sharon email: SharonAndreas@msn.com 9/17/2005 at 14:57 (CT)

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Sharon- My opinion is a one year old is too young to be potty trained in the fact that she should not be expected to "get it"! It is cute and all but you are going to be surprised when at some point she regresses totally. now, that may NOT happen but she is definately too young to understand and even to be able to hold the peepee in bladder, they just do not have that control at such a young age. It is usually peepee first and #2 can be a bit later. My son wasn't fully potty tained(#2) until age 4. Good luck and I know you are proud of her, just don't expect too much at this age

MomOf3 email: 9/16/2005 at 18:59 (CT)

hi, I have a 2.5 year old who is still not potty trained, and we are working on it. But the info. from our pediatric practice says that THE AVG. AGE FOR CHILDREN TO BE READY TO POTTY TRAIN IS 2 1/2; that is about 2/3rds, and the other 1/3rd train usually by age 3. There are lots of things to consider, such as a physical ability to hold it in until they can get to the potty; feeling the urge ahead of time and that being a signal to them to go sit on the potty; etc. I suppose in rare cases, a one year old can be trained, but I have never seen one. I am not an expert, tho. If you do some research online, you'll find lots of useful info. from experts.

Jane email: purpledoublecross@cox.net 9/16/2005 at 15:59 (CT)

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hi, I have a 2.5 year old who is still not potty trained, and we are working on it. But the info. from our pediatric practice says that THE AVG. AGE FOR CHILDREN TO BE READY TO POTTY TRAIN IS 2 1/2; that is about 2/3rds, and the other 1/3rd train usually by age 3. There are lots of things to consider, such as a physical ability to hold it in until they can get to the potty; feeling the urge ahead of time and that being a signal to them to go sit on the potty; etc. I suppose in rare cases, a one year old can be trained, but I have never seen one. I am not an expert, tho. If you do some research online, you'll find lots of useful info. from experts.

Jane email: purpledoublecross@cox.net 9/16/2005 at 15:59 (CT)

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My daughter is nearly one year old, just one week shy. A week ago I started introducing potty training to her.

Sharon email: SharonAndreas@msn.com 9/16/2005 at 13:26 (CT)

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risha- I am not sure worrying will do any good. Some children masterbate and continue to do so until adulthood. Many people feel it is normal and there are those, mainly religious people who feel it is a sin and is shameful. Many men masterbate and women too. It is like an un-spoken things in our society. I am sure what your child is doing IS soothing and comforting and no she doesn't understand it to be a sexual thing and that right there should tell you it is normal. It's not like she "learned" it from anyone. she just discovered it herself. I have seen this sooooo many times because it can be very normal. It can be very uncomfortable for us as adults to see this and that's why you should just try distracting her when she is around people. Good luck in dealing with this! Talk to your doctor to see what he/she thinks, it may be reassuring to you.

sara email: 9/16/2005 at 12:00 (CT)

For geting rid of passy- i am at the same stage... I have taken scissors and cut it down, little by little so that it no longer feels the same. she asks for it less and less now, and even leaves it in the bed in the morning instead of always wanting it when she got up. I will snip away until she can no longer hold it in. The first time she said " passy broke; mommy fix it" I told her I could not fix it. I'm sorry. She accepted this, and thats just how her passy's are now. maybe you could try that. just my suggestion

Jane email: purpledoublecross@cox.net 9/16/2005 at 10:05 (CT)

I need some advice on weening my almost 3 year old off the nookie (pacifier). She still wants it only more so when she's upset. How can I break of this? I've tried talking to her about it and she doesn't want to hear it. I say, "Only babies need nookies, not big girls", she in turn says that she's not a big girl she's a baby. I am at the point of just throwing them away (she has only two). But I know there going to be wrath to ensue if I do so. Can anyone help me try to get her out of this??

Erica w/ Nikki email: vdieselfan9@yahoo.com 9/16/2005 at 5:45 (CT)

I just don't see how it could be any form of "masturbation" when all the sexual stuff is not mature until much later. It just seems like the motion is comforting somehow. Guess if it continues into when she is like 5,6,7, etc. then I should worry, huh?

risha email: purpledoublecross@cox.net 9/15/2005 at 17:49 (CT)

Risha Cross- I hate to say this but, it sounds like a form of masterbation. I know that may sound "crazy" to you but I have worked in daycares and preschools and have seen this in a number of children. Not to mention I remember doing this as a child. it is common although some people arequite offended by it. Some children do it and others do not. My children have never done this, not that I am aware of atleast. If it bothers you, try distracting your child but, truthfully she will probably do it when you aren't even looking. I do not believe it is something you should worry about. Most Doctors will tell you it's fine.

sara email: 9/14/2005 at 18:44 (CT)

this is a strange one; but my toddler lays on the floor on her stomach when she is tired sometimes; and sort of flexes her legs, and has her arms under her torso, with hands sort of pushing into her diaper area; without going into the diaper. There is a motion to it, where her legs are moving. It seems odd to me. I know it can in no way be sexual and she never even touches inside the diaper. Its seems to be comforting to her. She will do it until she is rug burned at times! Any time of day, just on the floor or in the crib. anyone ever heard of this??????

Risha Cross email: rishacross@cox.net 9/14/2005 at 12:41 (CT)

I babysit for several kids in my home 1 is being evaluated for autism he is almost 3. Mostly he is well behaved but I have to remind him of rules over and over- when I remind him he stops right away. If I have to keep reminding him in one day of the same rule, he gets timeout. However Im finding timeout doesnt really work with him- it seems to sort of 'go right over his head' if that makes sense at all. Is there something else that I could try that would better serve the purpose and teach rather than just punish?

gwen email: fairiedust118@yahoo.com 9/13/2005 at 10:56 (CT)

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Lindsay,

candbsmom email: jkronacher@yahoo.com 9/12/2005 at 14:29 (CT)

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Hi,

Gaby email: dneal3@cox.net 9/12/2005 at 10:08 (CT)

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My son is 2 and is having issues with diaper changing and bathtime. He fights and cries everytime. I figured if he doesn't like his diaper changed then I could try potty training but I'm not sure if he is ready. I'm not sure why he doesn't like the bath, he always has until recently. Does anyone have any advice?

Lindsay email: lindz527@yahoo.com 9/11/2005 at 8:31 (CT)

Hi all. Olivia and Joe (2 years now) here. Blessings to anyone in the South affected by Katrina.

Olivia w/ Joe @ 2 ye email: 9/5/2005 at 9:57 (CT)

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i was wondering if there are ANY playgroups in the LA area preferably south bay regions to take my 15mth old. any advice will be greatly appreciated.

haleh email: halehlady@yahoo.com 9/4/2005 at -2:25 (CT)

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Hi to everyone who remembers me. I see some familiar names. Hope everyone and their littlies are well.

Melissa O w/Jared & email: relly70@hotmail.com 9/2/2005 at 5:04 (CT)

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Hi all.

Carol/Jack email: 9/1/2005 at 10:47 (CT)

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