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Toddlers Today's MomsTalk Archive
September, 1999 (Part 2)

Hey Guys.....

Don't forget me...I just didn't have any time to even turn on the computer, much less anything else.

(Oh Brother I'll never catch up)

Got Dusty a puppy Wensday nite. He has had the biggest time with it. He pick out the one he wanted, and he also named him Duke, which acually comes out GOOK.... It is so funny to heard Dusty calling him. LOL its so cute....

I'll post personals later, it will take me a good hour to read them....LOL.

See Ya,,,Enjoy whats left of the Holiday weekend..

God Bless
Love You All

Missy & Dusty
email: terrym@safeconnect.com
Sunday, September 05, 1999 at 11:10:52 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

Still no news on Dh. I hate all this waiting. He's no longer working his second job, so I can't get a hold of him on the weekends. He probably won't work tomorrow, depending on whether he's essential for hurricane cleanup. If he's not essential, then he won't go to work again until noon on Tuesday. If he's essential, there's no telling when I'll hear from him again. However, I'm going to try calling his unit tonight and tomorrow to try to find out what's going on. They all know my voice by now.

On the lighter side of things, I found out last night when I called the barracks to speak to the duty that the hurricane isn't that bad in that county. So, maybe dh is just being a pain and not bothering to call me, as usual. If that's the case, he'll get an earful after I find out that he's okay. And, he'll deserve every bit of it.

Darrel was standing alone again today. It was so funny. He acted like he was just testing his balance. He would hold onto me and cautiously let go but keep his hand close to me so that he can catch himself if needed. Then he'd touch me as though he wasn't too sure of himself and trying to get confidence from me and release his hand again. He would stand for several minutes at a time. It won't surprise me if he starts walking within the next 4-6 weeks. All he wants for standing is balance. I moved away from Darrel to try to get him to walk to me, and he got scared and went down on all fours. He's getting there.

Well, that's it for now. I'll talk some more later.

Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Sunday, September 05, 1999 at 18:40:48 (MDT))

It's me again.

Dh just called! And, he's okay. He'll be here between the 26 and the 28 of this month. I am so happy to just have been able to talk to him. We talked for a good 20 minutes. He had to get back to the barracks to beat the 11:00 pm curfew. He has to be at work 3:00 in the morning because most of his unit is going to Turkey. He's not, of course. As far as his back goes, he may not need surgery afterall. He has a new dr. who tried electroshock therapy. So far, it's helping. I sent Doug a picture of Darrel, and he was in the field at the time. One of his friends had been checking his e-mail for him and saw the picture, so, he printed it and gave it to Doug in the field. Unfortonately, Doug didn't want to hear about Darrel when he called tonight. He said that he's been crying himself to sleep the past few nights because he misses Darrel so much. Dh ran into one of his ex-girlfriends the other, and she's now married with a two month old little boy. Doug says that he looks like Darrel did at his age and he started crying while holding the baby today. Fortunately, dh said that he wants to never be separatred again.

Gotta go, Darrel is being real cranky.

Crystal again
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Sunday, September 05, 1999 at 20:40:05 (MDT))

Hello All Kahne here,
OH MY LORD. So much went wrong. MY CAKE FELL ON THE FLOOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The AC went out in the hall, and everone was leaving cause of the heat. BUT I had a great time. I will fill all of you in later, just got home from our HONEYMOON, and I want to spend some major time with Cat.
Thank you all for the good wishes. I love you all.

Kahne and Cat
email: skcx2@fnbop.com
Monday, September 06, 1999 at 11:35:48 (MDT))

Hi there - Sarah g here.
I hope everyone had a great weekend. We had a nice weekend overall. Spent some time with IL's. Does any one else's MIL ask to have the grandkids spend the night?? She was talking about some time in the future. We've done it before, but it was because we spent the night out and asked her to watch the kids. I think I've got a MIL with some kind of attachment problems!! Would love to hear what you all think. I'm trying to be understanding, but it seems weird to me.
Gotta go
post more later
Sarah g
email: gat_men@hotmail.com
USAMonday, September 06, 1999 at 23:38:21 (MDT))

Hello from Helen&Amanda!!
We went away for the weekend- DH gave me notice the day before and I went crazy packing and getting things organized.Went to Lake Winnepesaukee in NH. Have a boat up there. Amanda liked the water, didn't like the life jacket at all!! Loves her little floatie!!! So my chest is burnt and really itchy now!!Now its diet time- too much eating out!!!!

MISSY- How are things going with you???

PATTY- The same thing happened to you?? You felt the same?? Wish I had you to write to when it happened! I felt so alone and nowhere to turn , nobody to talk to about the whole thing. :o(

JUDY-HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!! House sounds nice- I love old houses.

LISAB- Speaking of 'Eeyore', DD has everything with him on it- school books, clothes, PJ's, stuffed animals in all sizes,hats, etc. She loves him!!Glad the photos turned out good!!

TRACEY- Glad your back, sorry yuur not feeling well yet!!

SARAH-HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO HANNAH!!!!!

KAHNE&CAT- So sorry to hear about the cake and the AC!!!!!! What on earth happened with the cake???????? Hope everything else went fine!

Tubby time for my little peanut--LATER!!!!
Helen&Amanda@13mos(#3)
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 06:39:54 (MDT))

Good morning ladies!! SARAH here. I guess it's official now!! I can hop on over to this board. HANNAH's birthday turned out perfect. She was in such a good mood on Saturday. We had just family and cousins to the party and it turned out to be so much fun. HANNAH got a ton of presents. She got lots of toys and clothes. DH and I got her a Winnie the Pooh chair, a bus full of little people, and a bouncy ball. She just LOVED all of the attention she was getting. GREAT DAY!!!

HELEN - I'm so glad I know your "real" name now!! :) HANNAH loves Teletubbies, too!!! One of her presents was a big LaLa and the tummy talks. It's so cute. She loves it!! :)

Thanks for all of the birthday wishes and cards you sent to HANNAH!!! You ladies are so sweet.

I'm really looking forward to being on TT now!!!

Well, that's all for now. Talk to you all later!!

Oh, for those of you who don't know me (I only think it's a few), HANNAH is my first child (duh!!) :) I'm 28 and my DH and I live in Denver, CO. I'm a working mom...unfortunately!! But, hopefully when we have our next one, I won't have too!!!

OK, that's all!! :)
Sarah and Hannah (1 year old!)
email: smoore@geatoir.cfer.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 06:53:15 (MDT))

Hello from Julianne & Colton. I hope everyone had a great holiday weekend. I loved the long weekend. I got to spend lots of fun time with Colton. We had a good time at the zoo. It is a small zoo so we were in and out in less that 2 hrs. He loved the ducks and the bears the best. When he saw the ducks he stood up, got really excited, waved his arms and started talking jibberish. We were just laughing. I took almost a whole roll of film. I hope the pictures turn out good.

I went to vist my friend at the hospital after. Colton was good when we first got there. He got really upset when we wouldn't let him touch the cards in the window. He just threw a fit and nothing would divert his attention. I had to leave. I was afraid he was stressing her out. I don't know if I have spoiled him or what. It really bugs me that he fusses so much when he doesn't get his way.

We had a great time at our neighbor's BBQ. We were still swimming at 9pm. We played volleyball and ate way too much.

DH refused to go to my family BBQ on Monday. I was pretty upset, but figured it was not worth fighting about so gave in. Later we went to the golfing range and shot 2 buckets of balls. Colton had fun throwing the balls everywhere. He wanted to retrieve all the balls he saw out in the field though!

I have a big project to get done today so I had better get on to the personals and get going.

Beth: How did Allison like the fireworks? Sounds like a fun time.

Tracey: Wow, Christmas shopping already--good start. I am one of the last minute shoppers when it comes to Christmas. Dillon sure had a good growth spurt. I hope you get your phone situation cleared up soon. We get slammed at our business 2 or 3 times a year. Our bill suddenly jumps $50-100! Not fun.

Kahne: Congratulations!!!!!! Can't wait to hear all about it. Sorry the cake fell--What happened?? How was Cat during the wedding?

Crystal: Glad to hear that your DH was OK. Sorry the last couple of days were so full of worry for you. It was sad to hear that DH misses Darrel so much, but good to know he is on his mind when he sees other babies. Yeah for Darrel making progress in the standing alone area.

Patty: Those little giggles are the best. :)

Lisa: Welcome and thanks for the sippy cup tip.

Kelli: What a sweet surprise from DH. Hope you had a great anniversary. Colton loves to "kiss the baby in the mirror." How old were you when your cysts first appeared?

Rita: After talking about the Mint Ch Chip ice-cream I had a dream about eating a huge bowl of it. Needless to say I had to buy some when I went grocery shopping Sat. I had a nice big bowl last night. Yummy!!

Missy: What kind of a puppy did you get and how old? So cute how Dusty says it's name.

Sarahg: I am not sure what to think about grandparents wanting to watch overnight. I have had Colton stay over at both Gdpts but only because we were out of town. I assume that he will be staying over for visits but not untill he is older. I think it is too confusing when they are small and don't understand what is going on.

Have a great day everyone. See you tomorrow.
Julianne & Colton 13 mo
email: jjones@batts.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 08:24:18 (MDT))

Hi from LisaB. What a weekend! Max was up from 3-5 on Saturday morning SCREAMING from his molars. Another one finally poked through during the day so at least the interrupted sleep resulted in something! I left him at my parents Saturday night while I went to my class reunion; they also had my sisters kids - 13, 6, and 10-months. Max slept most of the time and did well. The reunion was for 3 years and few people from my class went (as we'll have our BIG 15 year reunion next summer) so I got home about 2 hours before my sister. By the time they got there to pick up their kids and left it was 11:30 pm ... and Max had been up since 9:30 (the other kids were too noisy for him to settle down and sleep). I got him to bed around midnight and then he woke up screaming at 5 from his teeth. Then Sunday Dad gave him 1/2 a banana - I gave him the ok as Max LOVES the pureed banana baby food. I guess the REAL thing was too much for him - he was up screaming from 10:00-10:30 that night with a belly ache. Dad held him tummy down on his knees and rubbed his back, with Max screaming, farting, and kicking Dad in the chest. Dad felt so bad about upsetting Max's tummy and was glad that he could make him feel better. Then we get back last night, after a 5 hour drive, and find out my MIL wanted everyone to come over for dinner. UGH - We didn't stay long as I needed to do laundry, make lunches for today, etc. The good news is that Max, by his choice, only nursed first thing in the morning and last thing at night ALL WEEKEND (except for Sunday - he was fighting sleep real hard and needed a nap so he nursed about 1 minute before he conked out)!

JUDY: The camcorder is less than a year old. DH took it to the repair shop and they estimated $100 to fix it (the full warranty has expired so only parts are included and we have to pay labor).

BETH: I also miss Dana and Mimii - haven't heard from them in ages.

TRACEY: No internet ... NO!!! You live in town, right? I just worry about you not having a phone in case of an emergency, esp. with TNT in your house!!! I'll look forward to your updates from your MIL.

LISA w/ KATIE: Welcome! My Mom's attitude is that she had her chance with her kids and now she has to step back and let her kids raise their kids and make their own mistakes. She'll give me her opinion BUT only when I ask for it. Maybe if you asked for advice ("Dad, how would you handle this? Do you think it's just a phase that she'll outgrow?") he'll lay off some. You might want to start posting with your last initial to avoid confusion between us (I'm LisaB).

KELLI: Happy anniversary a day late! Parents as Teachers is a national program, primarily operated out of local school districts. Staff people make home visits for children aged 0-3 to assess their development and assist the parents. They have tons of handouts on developing sleeping habits, activities by age groups to help your child learn new skils, etc. Our local program also sponsors a weekly play group and a Kindergarten Readiness class for 4 year olds. They also have an extensive library and can do all kinds of research. For example, a local 1 year old has a rare skin disease where her skin (including the inside of her mouth) blisters and tears really easily. The poor kid has to wear dressings constantly to protect her skin and as a result her hands and feet are beginning to web. ANYWAY, the PAT program was able to find all kinds of literature on the disease for the mother, had her evaluated for experimental treatment, found an annual convention for families whose children has this disease and did fundraising to send the family, etc. It's a really great program!

CRYSTAL: I'm so glad that DH called and is ok. It sounds like he's ready to give 110% to his family - YEAH!!! Just think, only a few more weeks! :-)

KAHNE: Congrats on getting hitched! Cake on the floor? No A/C? I can't wait to hear all the details!!

SARAH G: I used to spend the night with my grandparents a lot and really enjoyed it. My grandparents would generally initiate the sleepovers, as my parents rarely went out (were dairy farmers so hard to get out much). My sisters and some cousins would all sleep over and we had a blast! I don't think your MIL has an attachment problem - just a little different concept of grandparenting than you!

LisaB & Max (12 months)
email: lisa_lab@hotmail.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 08:25:49 (MDT))

Good morning from Rita.

We had a BUSY weekend... Larry took Maddy to the airshow on Saturday and then we all went out to his favorite British-style pub for an early Birthday dinner. On Sunday we went to the Highland games and it was soooo hot. I got a little dehydrated despite drinking lots of water and wearing a hat. We only stayed a short time since the girls really needed their naps. Yesterday Amy's eyes were plastered together when she woke up and she was screaming. We took her in to the clinic and spent several hours waiting for her appointment and her prescription for pink eye! Yuck. I had to leave her her at home while met I Moriah and Alex for coffee. I ended up buying a mousse cake for Larry, since we had spent all of my cake baking time at the doctors. He was a good sport about since he did get his birthday nap in yesterday after I came home.

Lisa B - Poor Max. I don't know what Maddy would do if she couldn't eat her beloved bananas. She can easily eat a whole one, but I usually split one between her and Amy's cereal on weekends.

Tracey - I can imagine Dill spinning around. Maddy loved to do that once she discovered that she could do it. Hope that you can check in regularly with us.

Kahne - I am glad to hear that you had a great time at your wedding. Can't wait to hear what happened to the cake! Have a great time on your honeymoon.

Crystal - Glad to hear that your DH is safe and sound. It won't be too much longer now.

Well, gotta check in with the engineers this morning. Take care everyone!

Rita & Maddy
email: ritad@home.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 11:31:17 (MDT))

Hi Mommies, it's Judy.

Thanx for all the b'day wishes. David and I went to dinner and all I could eat was � a salad. I'm 33 weeks pg and I get so full so fast anymore. We walked along the lake and ended up in Barnes and Noble book store and hung out for about an hour. It was so nice. There was a lady who sat down and fed her 3-month-old baby and we chatted about birth and babies. It turns out we have the same doctors who delivered our babies. Cool!!

I'm glad the weekend is over. Well, not really. I'm just glad David's boys are gone. We had them since Saturday morning and it was too long of a weekend with them. My nerves were shot and my frustration level with them and with David was at its peak. I can't stand it when I hear his 4-year-old telling him he's a jerk and the 8-year-old blaming David for them waking up too early and missing a cartoon show. They speak to him in that bratty, disrespectful tone. His 12-year-old is high-strung and has the ability to fill a room with tension just simply by being there. Our therapy session tomorrow should be a good one!! I have quite a bit to talk about and I don't think 50 minutes will be enough time to vent everything I have to say. Enough of that for now.

David took Elijah to KinderCare this morning and he cried. I wish I could make it better for him but I know he has to learn to make this adjustment on his own. We think he may be having a hard time of it because he tends to be a loner-unless it's typical for 16 months. I honestly don't know. Anyone?? This is only his 2nd week there. I called at 12:30 and the Asst. Director said every time she was in the Toddler room, he was doing good. But she and the others always say that. Well, maybe it's true. I hope so.

I'm feeling very emotional today because of the weekend I just endured and not being very happy with David. The pregnancy hormones are very active today. I also didn't get much sleep last night because I was up for several potty breaks and then at 3 am, I started feeling nauseous until the alarm went off at 5:00. I don't handle my emotions very well when I haven't had the proper sleep. I'll be leaving to pick up my little guy in 20 minutes. Yeah!! I miss him so much.

Elijah is saying Mom. He'll call for me from another room and when I answer, he comes running. I hear him coming because of the bells on his shoe laces. Sometimes, I'll be in the same room with him and he says Mom and I ask him where's Mom and he points to me. Then, I'll ask him where's Elijah and he'll point to his face. My mom is anxious to hear him say Grammie. So am I.

Here are some personals:

Beth and Allison - How were the fireworks in Cincinnati? I look forward to the day when it's not so hard to leave E at daycare. Thanx for the birthday song. I blew out all my candles. Do I get my wish?

Rita and Maddy - Thank you for the birthday wishes.

Patty and Jarin - I can't tell you how much it means to me to hear how similar our toddlers are. It's reassuring to know that it's normal when E cries when I or David drops him off and even when I pick him up from daycare. Now all Jarin needs is two pot lids to crash together while he marches!!

Kelli and Elizabeth - Thanx for the h a p p y b i r t h d a y. Elijah doesn't like his sippy cup on his tray if he's not using it either. What's up with that?

Sarah and Hannah - Happy (belated) birthday to Hannah!! I'm glad you all had so much fun at her party.

Crystal and Darrel - I'm glad DH called and is ok. He'll be home in a few weeks!!

Kahne and Cat - Oops for your cake. You have a great attitude about it. I can't wait to hear all about it!!

Sarah g. - I think it's a wonderful offer of your MIL to have the kids spend the night. Do the kids spend much time with MIL that they could be away from you for that long? My mom has put Elijah to bed for us when David and I knew we wouldn't get home until late. Unless you have some major concerns about their safety, go for it!!

Helen and Amanda - How's the sunburn? I'm glad you had fun over the weekend.

Julianne and Colton - I'm sorry DH didn't go with you to your family. I agree with Kelli. Maybe you could put it to DH how important family will be to Colton if anything should happen to you guys. It's a scary thought, but one that should be addressed so your wishes are known.

Lisa B. and Max - Poor Max with his tummy ache. It's so hard when they're hurting and you can't take their pain away. I used to have trouble balancing E's diet when I switched him from formula to regular foods. I don't have that trouble now, though!! I try to balance the bananas with the grapes!! I keep monitoring his diapers so I have an idea of what to feed him.

Judy and Elijah (16 months)
email: jhintz@manu.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 14:20:19 (MDT))

Hello Everyone. I am new to this board, just wanted to say hello and introduce myself and my son(s). Shaun is 12 months old and a holy terror. I also have a 9 year old girl (who was a dream baby) and a one month old boy. I'M DONE! Anyway, I will try to read through all these messages to see who you all are, but feel free to help me out! Have a great day!
Lisanne
email: l3lion@yahoo.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 15:17:11 (MDT))

I guess I should introduce myself! I am a SAHM with Katie who is 15 months and we are excpecting her brother early to mid November. My husband works 3rd shift and is in school full time,also. Katie goes to bed around 5 pm and sleeps through until 7am. I pretty much have nothing to do in the evenings and I am so happy to have found this board!!! You guys are great... I have been reading this board for about one month. Actually, I have been using this computer for about this long.. kind of funny considering my DH (what is this anyway!?) is a computer engineer!!
Thanks for the advice on "parenting skills". It's hard being a parent, wife and a daughter! LisaB, aren't the molars a nightmare? All of Katie's teeth were hellacious.. she never got just one at a time. She has had twelve teeth since 10months-hang in there!! LOVE Motrin or Advil along with LOTS of TLC! Good luck! Katie also has some embarrasing independent outbursts and I have often wondered the same thing- just last week we were in Wal-Mart and spotted this dirty doll on a shelf which of course she wanted (loves rockaby baby) I said "No" which made her throw her head back screaming at the same time whacked her head on the carriage-Lovely! Anyway, thanks for letting me join this great board!!

LisaM&Katie
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 16:14:43 (MDT))

Hey Guys

Hope you all had a wonderful weekend.
as for me I did nothing...and yesterday my niece had to be taken to the emergency room...she's got scarlett fever. Now I have to watch Dusty really close because he was with her Sat. and she broke out we the fever Sunday. He Is not showing any signs yet, hopefully he won't.

Dusty's puppy is a little over 6 weeks old and it is part cocker spaniel and part lopsal opsal,,sorry can't really spell that breed right. He's Black and white and very little. Right now he's trying to chew up my recliner...Ugh....It seemed like a good idea
Missy & Dusty
email: terrym@safeconnect.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 18:10:18 (MDT))

Dang it!!! I wasn't finished, stupid computer....

What I was saying, The puppy was so cute when we got it, but after a few puppy bites and accidents. I'm ready to take him back....LOL :)

Dusty can't stand him to be in another room so he will holler until he comes to him and then he will scream until he leaves....My child is very tempermental ..... I wonder if he is calling him Duke or Blue (after Blues Clues). I can make it out. I am surprised he didn't name him after the teletubbies he's nuts about them, When I pick him up after work, thats what he is watching.

Well gotta go. Time to take the puppy out Quick..........

Hello to the new guys......

God Bless
Love Ya
Missy & Dusty
email: terrym@safeconnect.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 18:18:05 (MDT))

Hello toddlers and mommies, it's Megan.
I just have one question and then I'll have to look at posts tomorrow.

Ben weaned himself from the breast about 2 1/2 months ago. For about one week now, my breasts have been feeling a little full and they tingle a lot-like a mini letdown. Anyway, remember I had that 3 week period which ended about 2 weeks ago. Has any one experienced these symptoms so long after quitting nursing? I took a preg test at the beginning of August which was negative and (I'm a little embarrased to say) we haven't had sex since (well, two days ago we did). Anyway, do you think the preg test could have been wrong? I also had an exam that day so you'd think the doc would have been able to tell I was preggo if I was. I'm 99.9% sure I'm not.
Talk to you all tomorrow,
Good Night.

Megan and Benjamin (10 months +)
email: dtandmm@slkc.uswest.net
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 20:30:54 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

I was called in to work today. I was so happy to be able to go back to work. Okay, I love my job and don't have a life. Oh, well. Today, I was in the 18 month to 2 year old room. I loved it.

Judy, I think it's perfectly normal for a child to be upset in a new day care situation. Darrel got mad at me today for holding another child and because I wouldn't give him a lot of attention. I had other children I had to watch. There is one child who is always very upset at day care. Sometimes, he'll cry the whole time he is there. The other teachers have a hard time getting him to stop crying and to play with the other kids. I didn't have much of a problem with him today. I held him when he needed to be held but tried to get him to play more than I held him. By noon, he was a happy camper and only needed to be held a few minutes occasionally or encouraging words. Oh, and Darrel accually took a nap at day care today. Just give him some time. Also, is it possible to just pop in during luch sometime to see how Elijah is doing?

Darrel loves his bananas. He has to have at least one everyday. If he doesn't, he has a fit. Darrel can shove down two or three in one setting. Of course, I don't let him.

My MIL takes my SIL's girls overnight occasionally. They enjoy the time they spend together. Doug grew going on trips with his grandparents without his parents. I never really knew my grandparents. Darrel is, in fact, named after Dh's grandfather. They were very close, and my husband really loved him. He died when Dh was 16, and he had to do CPR on him. With the way Doug and my MIL talk about him, sometimes, I feel like he's right here with us, smiling down on us and blessing our little family. I never met him, but sometimes, I feel like I know him. Dh loved him enough to give our son his name. I never really knew my grandparents. I wish I did. while I was growing, I was jealous of the other kids who went camping or on vacation with their grandparents. Darrel is very fortunate to have a grandmother like my MIL. Not only does she take her grandchildren over the weekend, but she quilts, knits, crochets, sews, cross-stitch, etc. All three of her grandchildren have a handmade quilt, baby blankets, booties, mobile, sweaters, etc. Once we move to Oregon in a few years, Darrel will start staying the weekend. Memories of staying with grandparents are so much. Just before my grandmother died last year, I was starting to get to know her. I wanted to get to know her better and for her to at least see what her only great-grandchild looked like, but that never happened. I had to "adopt" grandparents while I was growing up because I didn't "have" one. But it's not the same. I look at my husband and think of all the memories he has of his grandfather and feel that he is so very fortunate to have grandparents who spent so much time with him. For the longest time, all my grandma was good for was $2 at Christmas and for birthdays. In fact, that's what I think of when I think of her. $4 a year. I know this may seem aimless, but I needed this, especially since the subject was brought up. I will be a year on the 21st. I don't miss her because I never knew her. I miss the missed oppurtunities that I can never have again to get to know my grandma.

Post more later.
Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 21:19:32 (MDT))

Just a quick note to let all of you know that Patty and Jarin are in the hospital. Jarin has decided to try a new adventure?? He is dehydrated and needs his fluids replenished. His count was down to 15 and normal is 22-32. He threw up all over this morning after mommie left for work...so I got to take two kids to the doctor and hear them both cry. I know you all understand that! We are hopeful that Jarin will bounce back tomorrow and get to come home. Patty is going through withdrawls again- (no posting) ha ha I'll try to let you know more tomorrow if they don't get to come home. He seemed to be feeling better tonight!
Patty and Jarin (Tom-substituting)
email: tematheny@ctlnet.com
Tuesday, September 07, 1999 at 21:45:51 (MDT))

Hi from LisaB. Max slept thru all night last night - first time in about a week (due to molars). I feel like a new woman today!

Several people mentioned missing Mimii' and Dana so I e-mailed both of them asking them to join us here as it's MUCH easier to keep up with than BT.

RITA: How cool that you and Moriah got to meet! I'm sorry to hear about Amy's pink eye. I assume daycare is out of the question until it passes so are you playing SAHM?

JUDY: It's sad that David's older kids are so disrespective. I'm sure you'll see to it that YOUR kids don't act like that (although that may be hard with these "bad examples" running around).

LISANNE: Welcome. My name is Lisa Ann - is that how you pronounce your name (or is it Liz Anne)? A 1-month old, a 12-month old, and a 9-year old? I hope you can stay with us for awhile before you go insane trying to keep up with all those kids - LOL!!!!

LisaM: Max had 8 teeth by about 8 months - with a minimum of fussiness. I was so COMPLETELY unprepared for the nightmare of molars! DH means dear/darling husband (or ocassionally dick head)!

MISSY: I hope Dusty avoids the Scarlett Fever.

MEGAN: It's been a month - take another pregnancy test. They are fairly cheap and it'll give you peace of mind (the truth is better than suspicions, regardless of the test result). If the doctor only did the rountine exam he might not have been able to tell you were pregnant if you were just a few weeks along.

CRYSTAL: I'm glad Darrel has decided it's ok to nap at daycare - LOL! Good for you doing so well with the fussy kid when noone else could. That should show them that they NEED you there full-time!

TOM/PATTY: I'm so sorry to hear about Jarin's ordeal. I can only imagine how miserable he is and how hard this is on you. I know it's different as I'm an adult and Jarin is so young, but I had severe dehydration and vomiting during my pregnancy. As soon as they starting running the IV to replinish my fluids the nausea would pass and I would start feeling better. I was always tired afterwards but within 12 hours or so I was back on my feet. I hope Jarin recovers so quickly also. Thanks so much for posting, Tom, and please keep us updated!

LisaB & Max (12 months)
email: lisa_lab@hotmail.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 07:48:37 (MDT))

Colton thought it would be fun to be awake and play from 12:30 to 3 am last night. Luckily DH watched him for an hour of that time so I got some sleep. One of the possible side effects from his allergy medicine is sleeplessness. I skipped his morning dose so I can give him a dose earlier tonight.

He has so much fun being chased by us. Yesterday I was chasing him in the yard and he would fall down in the grass, roll around and just giggle. I love to see him like that.

I am leaving work early today to have my cavities filled. Yuck! Getting work done on my teeth is one of my biggest fears. I need the happy gas before they can even think about giving me a shot! I will most likely be numb and drooling for hours afterwards.

LisaB: What a weekend you had. I hope Max is feeling better now. Sorry to hear about his tummy.

Rita: Poor Amy getting pink eye, hope she feels better soon. Too bad she missed out on your meeting with Alex & Moriah. How are they doing?

Judy: Sounds like you had your hands full this weekend with DH's kids. Too bad they have to make their visit such a stressful one for you. Yeah for Elijah saying Mom--doesn't that just melt your heart?

Lisanne: Welcome! Look forward to talking to you and helping you with Shaun.

Missy: Sorry to hear about the scarlet fever scare. I hope that Dusty does not get it. Hang in there with the puppy.

Crystal: Yeah for getting called back to work. Good job with making the unhappy boy feel better and even play at daycare.

Patty/Tom: Thanks for the update. I will keep Jarin in my prayers. Hopefully he came home yesterday.
Julianne & Colton 13 mo
email: jjones@batts.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 08:38:25 (MDT))

HEY everyone! Man, am I ticked! I posted this mega-post last night and lost it!
I hope you all had a fun and safe holiday weekend! We didn't do much at all. We went shopping on Saturday and picked up a couple shirts for Dh on sale and went to church & Sunday School on Sunday. I am ashamed to say that we pretty much lazed around the whole weekend... and it was Beautiful ALL weekend! I am feeling guilty now... we should have done SOMETHING! Oh well.
Elizabeth is doing good. Okay, she's started something new in the past couple weeks. I think she has definately hit toddlerhood. Whenever she gets hurt (very minor) she takes it out on me. For example, yesterday she was closing a drawer in the bathroom and got her finger caught so she reached out and pinched my leg. Later, hit her head and I picked her up to comfort her and she hit me in the face. I have NO clue where this is coming from!!! Immediately, I grab her hands and hold them and say, "No! That hurts mommy and I don't like you doing that!" That doesn't seem to be working. I have tried everything and nothing seems to be working. Okay, who took my sweet, innocent, loving, do-no-harm baby?? I want her back! LOL! On another note, we got her a V-Tech Learning Center desk this weekend and SHE loves it! I am going to put it up every couple of days for a week or so... so she won't get tired of it.

Crystal, I am glad to hear that DH is okay and safe on the east coast! That is great that you love your job! And very important, too!

Kahne, Congrats again on your marriage. Okay, don't keep us in suspense... what happened to the cake? I am glad you had a great time anyway!

SarahG, Hmmm... about grandparents watching your kid(s): I would let Elizabeth stay w/ my mom in a heartbeat. I stayed w/ my grandmother MANY times... and for a couple weeks in the summer those are the times I remember most fondly! I loved it and hold a special place in my heart for those times! I wouldn't let Elizabeth stay w/ MY MIL, simply because I don't trust her because she's very flittery and "air-headed" at times. If she weren't like this, I probably would.

Helen, it sounds like you all had a nice time at the lake! Hey, I'll take short notice to take a mim-vacation any day! :)

Sarah M., Again... happy birthday to Hannah!!! That's great that she had such a good b-day! Elizabeth has that yellow bus w/ the little people too! She loves it!

Julianne, Colton sounds TOO cute w/ the ducks at the zoo!! Glad you guys had a good time! Does your dh not get along w/ your family or does he feel uncomfortable w/ them? I don't see why he couldn't have gone for 2 hours to a bbq! If not for your family, then for you and Colton! I really don't remember when I first noticed my cysts. I think around jr. high... maybe gradeschool. The one I had removed in April was the size of a jelly-bean.

LisaB, Gosh! Teething, no sleep, constipation! I wish your weekend went better!! I hope he's better and letting YOU get some sleep! It sounds like he is if he slept pretty good last night. I remember when Elizabeth was about 6 or7 months old, I was feeding her bananas, carrots and rice cereal: ALL OF which are constipating (unknown to me)!!!! Needless to say, she had a very hard and painful BM. I Felt SO terrible because I caused her to be this way. So, I know exactly how your dad feels! The PAT group sounds wonderful! I think I am going to try to call to the local the local chapter here and see if they will make a house call! Did they charge you?

Rita, DH and I just LOVE British Pubs. DH especially likes the Yard 'O beer!! Did you have a good visit w/ Moriah? So sorry to hear about Amy's eye! Hey, were the Highland games you went to the Scottish Highland games? We used to go to the Games when I was a child. They are here in Estes Park, Colorado this coming weekend!

Judy, Glad you had a nice, relaxing b-day evening. Yes, your step-sons sound very disrespectful! Does your DH allow them to act this way? I really hope you are feeling better emotionally! Sweetie, you need to go out and do something special for yourself... that's an order!! :)

Lisanne, Welcome to you and your "crew"!

LisaM, It sounds like you may have a few things in common w/ Judy! Judy has a little boy who is 16 months and she's due w/ her second child in October! Wow, Katie goes to bed early! Elizabeth goes to bed somewhere between 9:30 - 10pm and sleeps until 8 or 9am. Hey, I am also the primary computer user in the house, despite DH being a database developer! :) OH... DH= Dear or Da** husband, whichever applies at the time!

Missy, I also hope Dusty escapes Scarlet fever. How is your neice doing? Dusty and the puppy sounds adorable!

Megan, for your piece of mind, take another pg test. My breasts leaked for a couple months after I stopped bfeeding. THe nurses at my dr's office said it can take up to ONE year for you to fully "dry-up". Of course, that is probably in extreme cases. Up until about a month ago, I probalby could have started bfeeding again and would have produced enough milk... It took me forever to dry up! (I stopped bfeeding in January!!)

Patty, Tom and Jarin... Okay Jarin, listen up... YOu had get better, you hear?!! Patty, I know it's got to be a scary thing to spend the night in the hospital w/ your child! I'm thinking and praying for a speedy recovery!

Okay guys, I better go get my child. She's still in bed yelling, "MA MA, MA MA!!" I guess that's me. You guys have a great day and I'll check in later! Take care and God Bless!

Kelli & Elizabeth , 14 months in one week
email: rkncs@aol.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 09:00:52 (MDT))

Julianne,
You must have been posting while I was:
I sure hope Colton sleeps better tonight! Does the allegy meds seem to help? I will be thinking of you when you get your cavities filled! The laughing gas will help, I hope! I loved that stuff... everyone always had 2 noses after a dose of it!
Kelli Again!
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 09:06:48 (MDT))

Good morning ladies!! SARAH here. The last couple of days HANNAH has been sleeping until 9 am. Now, why can't she do that on the weekends when I get up with her????LOL She's now getting pretty close to standing. It's so funny, she'll let go of what she's holding on to and then fall in to my lap...however, my lap isn't always there!!! I don't know about you guys, but HANNAH talks all of the time!!! I just love it! She also just learned how to go down the stairs. So, that's good. She's been going up for a little over a month, and now she can finally get down on her own.

Well, on to personals:

JUDY - Thanks for the bday wishes!!! Are you feeling better today?

LISANNE - WELCOME!!! Holy cow, girl!! You've got a handful!! More power to ya!! :)

LISA M. and KATIE - WELCOME!! KATIE sleeps from 5-7??? That's great!!!! Although, I wouldn't want HANNAH to go to bed that early, seein' as that's MY time with her!! :)

MISSY - Sorry to hear about your niece. I hope DUSTY's okay!!! Your puppy sounds adorable. HANNAH loves Teletubbies, too!!

TOM, PATTY, and JARIN - Thanks for the info TOM!!! JARIN you better get better soon!!!! HANNAH doesn't want her little boyfriend to be sick!!!

KELLI - Thanks again for the bday wishes!! HANNAH loves that bus!! Sooo cute!

Well, that's it for now! Talk to you all later!

Sarah and Hannah (1 year)
email: smoore@geatoir.cfer.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 09:52:10 (MDT))

Hello from Helen&Amanda!!

Amanda just woke up so this will be quick----

SARAH&HANNAH- Actually I meant tub, as in bath, Amanda also loves those little creatures and has lots of them and clothes and different thigs with them on it.

KELLI- Happy belated anniversary in case I forgot earlier?!! Amanda has also developed a temper, when picked up in the store the other day, stiffened, screamed and began kicking!!! This is when the fun starts!!! My mini vac. was fun but I get stressed easily! After the bags were all packed I said to DH- OK see you all in a few days!!! LOL!! WOULD BE NICE!!!!

MISSY- The puppy sounds adorable- Blue would be cute for a name. How are you doing????????

LISAB- Amanda LOVES bananas and eats one by herself! Sorry Max got a tummy ache over it though! My son was constantly getting cramps when new foods were introduced to him up until 14mos or so!! Glad to hear your rested- Amanda is gettin so good at sleeping!!

JUDY- Happy B-day!! Sunburn is getting better!
Glad you b-day was a good one- alone in a book store- how nice!!!

PATTI- Hope Jarin is better soon!!

LATER!!
Helen&Amanda@13mos(#3)
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 10:42:20 (MDT))

Good morning from Rita.

I had two droopy ones yesterday. Amy's eyes are still goopy and Larry went back to the dentist. The dentist broke the tip off of a tool in Larry's root canal, so he may have to see an oral surgeon for the tip recovery. If you only knew how much Larry hates and fears dentists! He put off going in for so long that he needed an emergency root canal and now this happens.

Welcome Lisanne, Katie and Lisa M!

Kelli - Yes, it was a Scottish games festival. It is actually the largest games gathering outside of Scotland. I am a big anglophile and Scotland is one of my favorite places. Larry has a Scotch-Irish background, so we have been going every year since we met. We listen to this one singer every year and this year Maddy was up and dancing while he was singing. It was great until she tried to climb onto the stage. I am afraid we may have a performer on our hands. LOL. It sounds like Elizabeth is starting to show that she is a spirited child. This means that you will have some interesting times coming up and that you also have a very smart cookie. There are some good books on spirited tots available.

Patty & Tom - I hope that Jarin is doing better and is back at home.

Missy - I hope that Dusty doesn't come down with Scarlet Fever.

Helen - That's the lake where they filmed "On Golden Pond". My Ex had family with a summer place up there. What a beautiful spot.

Julianne - Moriah and Alex are doing quite well. She's been busy since her SIL is getting married in a couple of weeks. We wanted to meet before the cold and flu season gets started because Alex will not be able to be around alot of people during that time.

Lisa B - Amy is actually at daycare since it is just her and Maddy this week. I have my suspicions about her eye infection - I am not convinced that it is pink eye. It looks different and is tied to a runny nose. I think that it is a cold in her eyes.

Well, it's time to get back to work. Take care everyone!

Rita & Maddy
email: ritad@home.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 11:09:05 (MDT))

Hi mommies. I only have a sec and just skimmed the posts, so forgive me if I missed something. We ar ehome from the hospital. Jarin was much better after a couple hours with the IV. It came out this morning and we got to come home shortly after noon. He still hasn't eaten anything - only wants to nurse. I can't blame him as that is how he comforts himself and heaven knows he could use some comforting after the whole ordeal. It is so awful to have nurses take your crying baby out of your arms to go put an IV in and of course they wouldn't let me go with him. I asked for a regular bed and they let us have one, so Jarin and I slept together. I am just glad to be home! No daycare the rest of the week. So much for him being used to it! Tom is going to rearrange his schedule and work nights for the next 2 days. I keep telling him that all of this is a sign that I am supposed to be a SAHM. Jesse also has a double ear infection and sore throat, so he's home too. He should be able to go back to school tomorrow. Sarah, Megan, Lisa, Julianne, Kelli, Rita, and Helen, thanks so much for the prayers and thoughts. They must've worked. You guys are the greatest. I hope to be able to get caught up soon, but you know me - it may never happen. LOL. Thanks again , everyone. It is so great to have such wonderful support.
Patty and Jarin
email: tematheny@ctlnet.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 13:16:28 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

Not much new is going on. I'm looking for a new job. I love my job and the kids I work with. It's just the people I work for. I only got a few hours in today. I still don't have a class. I just float from one room to the next. Not good for the children. They need the same teachers for the same times as often as possible. I was in the same class again and the little boy did a lot better. No screaming and crying. I think it's because he knew that some one who cared was in there
Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 13:39:36 (MDT))

Hello everyone ...it's Cynthia,

Well we went on our mini-vacation to the campground and Adam absolutely loved it. That little boy never stopped until it was bed time. He actually did quite well sleeping in the tent.
He loved playing in the sand at the beach and he loves playing with rocks.
Now the downside of this mini-vacation is that I came home with poison ivy. I am sooooooo itchy. No one else got it though. Makes me wonder where I was?????

LISA B: Gee I hope poor Max is feeling better soon. Adam never had a real rough time like Max is. A few nights of getting up and that was it. Still, it breaks your heart that they are hurting and there's not alot we can do.

KELLI: Adam does takes things out on me too sometimes, but I tell him NO THAT'S NOT NICE TO DO and then say NICE MOMMY and I take his hands and stroke my hair or face and then he repeats this saying ICE (nice). That seems to work for me.

MISSY: I had scarlet fever when I was little. Everything turned out OK. I don't remember much except my mother wouldn't let me look outside unless I had sunglasses on??? Don't know what that's all about. ANyways, I hope he doesn't have it because we never want our babies getting sick.

PATTY: I hope little Jarin is OK now and back at home where he belongs with Mommy and Daddy. Poor little thing. Keep us posted.

SARAH / HELEN / MISSY: Adam LOVES Teletubbies too. He has Laa-Laa, Po and Tinky Winky. He calls them all La-La. It's so cute. I'm going to get him Dipsy for his b-day as well as a Teletubbie video.

JULIANNE: I can understand the sleeplessness. When Adam had his croup, whatever I gave him kept him up for 20 hours straight. I was sooo exhausted.

JUDY: What does David say when his kids talk to him like that? Gee it must be so depressing!! I'm a step parent also. DH has 4 kids from his ex-wife. His oldest daughter lives with us. Fortunately she's a great girl. She turns 17 this week. She refers to me as her mother, but calls me Cynthia. Before she came to live with us, her mother had her brainwashed do much to be against her father. Now that she's with us, she sees what a great guy he is and what lies her mother told her. Anything like that going on with David's ex? Just a thought.

SARAH G: My parents ask to take my two older biys sometimes, but never the baby. They are in their 70s so I can understand them not wanting an active toddler around all the time. My kids love to go there.

RITA AND TRACEY: Adam loves to spin around too. After he spins he turns around and gives me this look out of the corner of his eyes. Its so funny.

KAHNE: Add me to the list of enquiring minds who want to know what happened to the cake!!!!Congrats on your marriage.

BETH: How was the fireworks this past weekend? Did Allison like them? We haved a huge hot-air balloon festival here every labour-day weekend and the balloons usually float over or near our house. This weekend on the friday and saturday, they just didn't come near us. Sunday we weren't around and Monday it rained. Adam loves those things. There are about 100 hot air balloons from all over the world. SOme very interesting ones.

CRYSTAL: Glad to hear your DH is OK and that he really misses you and Darrel. can you send me a picture of Darrel?

LISA M: Wow, Katie in bed at 5pm? I guess you'll be glad for that especially when your baby boy is born. Have you picked out names yet?

Well it's time to pick up my litle munchkin.

Cynthia and Adam @20 months
email: cynthia.howard@nrc.ca
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 13:49:07 (MDT))

Hi ladies, it's............wait, hold your breath............Dana & Derek! Thanks for your email this a.m., Lisa B.

I'm sorry about not posting, certainly didn't mean to worry any of you. We are both doing fine. Busy, Busy, Busy. No time to read or post.

Well, I'll give an update......................It's been an extremely rough summer. Remember when I went to a counseling session? Thought I was depressed? Well, after that session I knew it was something else, just couldn't place my finger on it. About 3 weeks ago, it dawned on me. I was extremely, extremely angry............I was as mad as mad can be. For 11 months, I'd worked full time, added another new business (up to 2 now) and took care of Derek full time, everything around the house, took care of dog, cat, horses, kept the businesses afloat, etc. Hubby was not doing a thing, except working on race cars and golfing. It finally came to a head and I blew. I was ready for a separation, not divorce, but separation. He was taking me & Derek for granted. For some reason, got this crazy thought in his head that we *needed* him. Sorry, but I don't *need* anyone. It's much deeper than this, but you get the jist of it. Well, to make a long story short, hubby has woken up and seen the light. We are working it through. Of course, it doesn't happen overnight.

Derek is growing like a weed! He'll be 1 on Sept. 20th. I can't believe how time has gone by. He is walking along everything, but hasn't ventured to take his first step alone yet. He has 4 teeth. He certainly is the joy in my life! I look forward to each and every day with him. I look forward to his learning something new everyday. He's just amazing!

Hubby is getting "snipped" on Sept. 24th. We've waited a year and our decision to not have anymore children is as strong as ever, so we have decided to get this done. (during my blowout, I told him that he'd better think long and hard about this. What if I didn't stay, was he still okay with getting the vasectomy?) This is the decision we have both reached together.

I have a new addition at my place also. I rescued a badly neglected horse in July. She will be staying with me through the winter until she's gained her strength back and is healthy again. She takes a lot of work and time but it's well worth it and she repays me everyday. I will adopt her out to a good home when she is better.

Sorry about the long update..............I've missed you guys and literally thought about you everyday. I hope everyone and their babies are happy and healthy. Looking forward to talking with you all again, I'll try to post more often.......

Dana & Derek (almost 1 year!)
email: danam@tznet.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 13:55:26 (MDT))

Hi everyone, from Stacey! I feel so lost on here lately, it is getting so hard to keep up. I was able to skim and it looks like everyone is ok, unfortunately I once again have less time for personals than I would like...

Kahne, sorry to hear about the wedding troubles, but I am glad you had fun. I am interested to hear more details...

Patty, Hope Jarin is doing better. Sounds like you have your hands full being back to work and dealing with sick kids...

Crystal, I am glad to hear your husband is ok. Also that he is not going to Turkey. My mom and dad are vacationing in Turkey and Greece right now (sounds like fun, huh?) I talked to my brother last night and he said they are doing fine, though, and fly back today.

As for me, I have 2 days of work left before I go on maternity leave. I am due in 2 1/2 weeks and have really mixed feelings about it. Part of me is just ready to have this baby since I am feeling so uncomfortable (and I actually wasn't like this with Franchesca). I also am ready since I want to get to know this little one. But Franchesca is still so young and I feel like this is my last chance to focus exclusively on her for a while and I just am not quite ready to be a mom of two yet, but it is coming any day now. I am just not quite sure how I am going to handle it all. DH is upset that I am still working since he thinks I should already be on leave so I have sometime to relax before the baby is born, but I feel like I won't be able to relax knowing I left things unfinished before going on leave, and besides it has been so long since I relaxed that I don't think I would know how...

Well, enough of that, I should probably get back to work. I am thinking of all of you and your little ones, though...

Stacey, Franchesca, and 1 on the way
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 15:38:17 (MDT))

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Tara, Toddlers Today Assistant Editor
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 19:34:14 (MDT))

LisaM here... Thanks to you ladies for filling me in on the DH, I kind of figured the Dear and the Dickhead but not the Da,what
a chuckle!
LisaB-so glad to hear Max slept thru the night!It's hard when they want Mommy and we can't help them. Ihope this is the last of the pain for you both!
Kelli- It seems as though they save their emotions for us which is the way it should be! That is the way I handle things with Katie, firm and compassionate. But you do have to wonder!
Your husband does data work-Do you find his sense of humor Hmmmmmmmmm..... NONE! Sometimes he thinks in too much of a straight line, too literal.
SarahG- You are very lucky to have IL's that offer! My DH's passed away when he was alitlle boy- he was brought up by his grandparents. Take advantage!
Sorry to hear about the poison ivy-I catch it from the wind. So uncomfortable...hopefully the weather has cooled down some for you!

I had Katie in the tub tonight and of course she was standing up I told her "SIT DOWN" twice. She stood up and in my same tone said "SIT DOWN SIT DOWN, UP DOWN UP DOWN" How do you not laugh?! It's hard to believe a year before you were holding this helpless infant!

Hope you all have nice ZZZZZZZ's!

LisaM
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 19:54:22 (MDT))

Crystal here.

I've been real busy. One of my friends from school had her baby this week, so I went to see her. That explains my unfinished post from early. I meant to clear it but ended up posting it instead. Another friend from playgroup has a baby who turns one tomorrow. There's another first birthday at the end of the month. The dh comes home at the end of the month as well. I'm looking for a new job and an apartment. I'm trying to get everything ready for when dh gets here. I'm so excited about seeing him again, and I have no doubt that Darrel will be accepting of dh. When I visited my friend, some other people were there who had never met Darrel, and within an hour, he was reaching for them and smiling and laughing at them as though he knew them. So, that worry is completely off my mind. Darrel adapts so well to new people. On top of all this, I have to help take care of my mom because she's still recovering from her surgery. It just seems like everything is piling on top of me and there is no way out. Fortunately for me, once dh gets here, he'll want to spend time with Darrel, so I'll get a break from Darrel.

I do have a concern though about when Doug and I get our own place. Living with my parents for nearly 6 months, Darrel has become very close to them. When we move out, Darrel won't be able to see them so much, and I know he'll miss them very much. He adapted fine when we moved in. But, he probably doesn't remember his life without his grandparents. And we do have to move. There is no doubt about that. How can I make the transition easier for Darrel. Doug and I are planning to visit my parents only about once a month once we get a place of our own.

Kahne: Add me to the suspense club about what happened with the cake. How and why did it fall?

Patty: I hope that Jarin is feeling better. Keep us updated.

LisaB: Darrel is cutting four teeth right now. Two are molars. He'll wake up screaming in the middle of the night. Sometimes he'll go right backk to sleep, but usually, I end up having to get him out of bed, give hime a drink, teething tablets, let him play for a few minutes, sing to him (all he does is laugh at me), and possibly give him a midnight snack. I can't go to bed before 11:00 either. Darrel has had diarhea on and off from his teething, a diaper rash, and his temp will get up to about 102. He's perfectly happy and active in spite of his fever. Never looks or acts sick, so I don't worry about the fever. I give him some motrin or tylenol to bring it down.

At the day care, everyone is so surprised with Darrel because he eats table food so well. I'm not surprised. Normally at the day care, they don't provide lunch for a child under 18 months, but they do for Darrel most of the time. There are some foods that I'm not too sure about whether or not Darrel can handle or that I don't want him to have, so he doesn't get those things. The main thing is chips and cookies. I don't want him to get too used to having junk food, so I provide Darrel's snacks.

Yesterday, Darrel was literally hanging from the high chair. He used it to pull himself up, grabbed the tray,, and lifted his feet off the floor! Scared the living daylights out of me.

Well, that's about it for now. I'll talk some more later.

Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 21:25:56 (MDT))

SORRY!!
I hated to leave you all in suspense, but it has been a mad house around here. Where should I start! Well all the prep for the wedding went well, the dress was breathtaking, the girls were beautiful, the men all handsome. I was waiting for my grandfather to pick me up and bring me to the hall, and the phone rang. The guests had just started to arrive, and I answered the phone, cause I was closest to it. It was a friend we had posted at the hall, to keep an eye on things. He was in a total panic. He kept saying he needed to speak with my mother. So finally I relented, and gave the phone to her. She started screaming! I went into a panic, begging her to tell me what happened. She started apologizing to me, over and over. She finally told me the cake fell. What happened was that the AC went out in the hall, and the weight of hte cake was too much. Instead of using wooden dowels to hold the tiers up, the bakery used cut-up drinking straws, and the weight just made it collapse. Half of it was literally on the floor. Well,I was so upset, I forgot the CD that I was supposed to walk up the aisle to. I dont even remember what I walked up to. The ring bearer threw a fit and threw his pacifier at us halfway through the ceremony. Steve STOPPED the ceremony halfway through, and handed it back to him, and said "you dropped something, man". The whole hall cracked up. We finished the ceremony, and all that mattered is that i am his wife now. The AC was ut in the hall, and it was like 85 degrees in there. We were all burning up, and we are sweating in all of the pictures. SO MANY people left, cause of the heat, and we were left with a ton of food and drink. We have been eating wedding leftovers for days now. Steves brother got so drunk, he threw up over and over in the parking lot! comic relief, you could say! I have many stories about the honeymoon, and I will fill yall in on those later. I have missed you all! And I will be back soon to fill you in on the rest! We LOVE ALL OF YOU!
Kahne and Cat 8 months
email: skcx2@fnbop.com
Wednesday, September 08, 1999 at 23:03:41 (MDT))

After yesterday I would say that going to the dentist is right up there at the top of things I hate to do. I think I was so tired that my mind wigged out somewhere between the gas and the shot. I felt like I was watching myself at the dentist, any noise I heard was intensified to much. I felt like I was breathing so hard and that my heart was racing--I really thought I was going to die. I kept trying to tell myself to focus, to bring myself back to reality. Then suddenly the dentist asked me a question and I heard myself answer--not what I would have said though. Very wierd, but that brought me back. I asked him if I fell asleep but he said my eyes were open the whole time and that I responded everytime he told me something. Talk about a nightmare! I can promise you I will be brushing, flossing, rinsing w/ floride and anything else that will prevent another cavity from appearing in my mouth.

I got the pictures back of Colton eating the Oreo cookies and I did get the perfect shot! DH was lol when he saw it. DH can not take a good picture of me though. Only 1 shot of me and Colton at the zoo turned out. There are at least 6 good ones of DH.

Today I get to visit my doctor for my yearly check-up. I figured I my as well get the dentist and the yearly done in the same week. Hope this goes better than the dentist.

Kelli: Cute picture of Elizabeth in the diary section. What a little personality she is developing. I haven't seen much of an improvement in Colton's cough since he has been on the allergy medicine. Yesterday and this morning he coughed so hard he got sick again. There isn't enough room to go into DH and my family. Basically he thinks they are boring (at the get togethers they don't drink, pray and sing-sometimes, talk about politics and not cars...) He feels that he does not have much in common and that these get togethers are too often and basically a waste of his time. He is real quick to judge and put down my family. It is a big source of tension between us.

Rita: I definatly agree with Larry about the dentist--they are evil I say!

Patty: Yeah for Jarin coming home. I hope he feels better real soon.

Cynthia: Sounds like Adam had lots of fun camping. Sorry to hear about the poison ivy though.

Dana: Welcome back. Glad you and your DH are working things out. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Any special plans for Derek's 1 year b-day party?

Stacey: Nice to hear from you. Wishing you the best these next few weeks. Hope you find some time to relax and make things ready for the baby.

Kahne: What a bunch of wedding blooper memories you have. It sounds like everyone was a good sport about things though. Did you get any type of refund from the cake place?

Julianne & Colton 13 mo
email: jjones @batts.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 07:53:32 (MDT))

Good morning ladies. Hope everyone is good today. I'm tired!!! HANNAH always goes to bed at 8:30 and then I do between 9 and 9:30 cause I've got to get up at 5am. Well, she woke up screaming around 9:30. I'm still not sure what was wrong. She acted like she was terrified about something, so I brought her in my bed with me. Needless to say, I didn't fall asleep until about 12:00 and then got up at 5. TIRED!!!

Well, we had a first in the bath tub last night. Yep, you guessed it!!! She pooped!!! It was pretty funny, though.

I also sort of gave her a black eye yesterday. I felt awful!! I accidentally hit her cheek against DH's car window. I was holding her, and had DH's car door open and knocked her against the top of the window. :( She's okay, though.

OK, on to personal - not too many!

PATTY - I'm so glad you two are home!! Give him a kiss from me and HANNAH!!!

CYNTHIA - Sounds like you had a good time. Too bad the poison ivy, though!!

DANA - WOW!!!!!! SOOOOO good to hear from you!!! I think of you and DEREK all of the time!!! Try and post when you can. I love hearing about DEREK (and you!) :) Hope you and DH work everything out!

STACEY - Sorry your kind of feeling down. That's probably pretty normal! Good luck with your last couple of days at work!

KAHNE - Oh my gosh!! Definitely sounds like it wasn't boring!!! LOL I bet you looked beautiful!

KELLI, BETH, LISAB, CRYSTAL, TRACEY - Hi ladies!!! Hope you're all doing GREAT!!!!

Talk to you all later!!

Sarah and Hannah (1 year)
email: smoore@geatoir.cfer.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 07:55:38 (MDT))

Hi Ladies from Sue and Cam. We're visiting for a sneak preview of the Toddlers Board for when we jump over in a few more months. Actually, I have two other ulterior motives for posting here today. The first is that there alot of newer moms with young babies on BT now. Although I'm happy to give advise or share experiences with them, there aren't too many other moms with older babies that I can ask for advise. The other reason is some of the nastiness that went on last week. (I was on vacation and just finished catching up). It just left a bad taste in my mouth and I'm not feeling any too anxious about posting there.

Nothing major new here: Cam has a horrible head cold and cough, but still no teeth. Brought him to the doc last week because I thought he had an ear infection, but the fever and ear-tugging is just due to his teething. At 8 months and 5 days, he weighed in at 21 lb. 4 oz. My little pork chop!

I have an appointment next week for a new doc to check me over for possible PPD. Still not feeling so great, but better than a few months ago.

Glad to see that you guys and all your little ones seem to be doing well besides the unavoidable woes of teething, fall colds, and bumps and bruises that come with greater mobility. Hope all continues to go great for everyone!
Sue and Cameron - AWOL from Babies Board
email: sbarry@key.org
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 08:29:42 (MDT))

Hello from Helen&Amanda!!!

Not much going on here today.

SUE&CAMERON- Visit us anytime! Hormones are flying again??!! We all need to understand that when we read a post, the person may be saying something in a calm way, not being 'snotty' about the response, may be joking, may be just voicing their opinion and some take it the wrong way, reading the post as an insult to their mothering skills and thinking its meant in a completely different way than whats intended. Sorry things are nutty over there again!!!!

Amanda is trying to say lots of things now- pointing to things she wants, and the wonderful kicking and screaming when Mom says 'no'!!She does simple things like getting me something and bringing it to me, and putting things back, and stacking things on top of eachother. If I ask her where something is she will hold up her hands and then go and get it,and she tries to put her shoes on when we go outside-Too cute!!

A friend at school has kids my kids age and she said her little one is also more aggressive b/c of trying to keep up w/the others- made me feel better!! I met the neighbour yesterday-2 doors down, she has an 11 month old son- a playmate for Amanda. She seemed really nice.

Well Amanda is awake and she is hungry-- LATER!!!
Helen&Amanda@13mos(#3)
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 10:35:12 (MDT))

Good morning from Rita.

Amy's pink eye is finally starting to clear up. Larry has decided not to go fishing this weekend. With his dental mishap and Amy not better yet, he thought that it would be better to stay home. I had nothing to do with his decision, but I must confess that I am relieved. I was not looking forward to being on my own with the girls while he was yucking it up with his brother, cousin and BIL.

Sue - Things have settled down on BT and those who left have returned.

Patty - Glad to hear that Jarin is doing better. I would hate to have to take Amy or Maddy in to the hospital and not to be able to be with them for any procedure!

My account of Maddy's birth finally showed up as one of the new birth stories this week. (I think I submitted it more than six months ago). Maybe Amy's story will show up when she is on this board?

Gotta go. Have a good day everyone!

Rita & Maddy
email: ritad@home.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 11:04:43 (MDT))

Hey everyone! Long time no talk. We're soooo busy around work right now. Just got done with all the final Y2K preparations (I'm a computer programmer for those who don't already know) and since that took over a year to complete we have a total backlog of other work to catch up on. Fun, fun. Needless to say, I look at this computer all day and when I get home the LAST thing I want to do is get on the computer. No offense to you guys as I have really missed you so I'm taking a small break to post at work today. The fireworks were great as they are every year. We left Allison at my IL's house as I thought she was a little young this year and they would be too loud for her. The display usually lasts about 45 minutes of constant fireworks (biggest display in the midwest) and we were a good 10 minute walk from our car so I was worried that if she got scared I would have no where to take her. We are definitely going to take her next year as there was a little boy there who was the age that Allison would be next year and he was having a blast. It was nice to get out for a few hours by ourselves though. Allison's ears seem to have cleared up. We took the last of the antibiotics last night and go for a followup visit on Tuesday. Hopefully we will get the all clear.
Now, a few personals.

Sue - welcome over here. This board is growing everday though, you may have trouble keeping up over here now as well!

Patty - so glad that Jarin is better. I read Tom's post yesterday and was praying for him. Glad all the prayers were effective.

Dana - so good to hear from you!! I'm glad that your problems got straightened out and that you and DH are working things out. I got your pictures the other day. You have a very beautiful family (horses included!). Yes, the pictures are still going around 9 months later. Unbelievable that it's taken this long I know!

Sarah - Allison pooped in the tub just the other night. I called to DH to help and gave him the option of drying Allison and getting her ready for bed or cleaning up the poopy tub of course, we all know which one he picked so I was stuck with the lovely job. Luckily it just pretty much dissolves and goes down the drain.

Julianne - sorry your dentist visit was bad. I hate the dentist as well!

Kahne - what a wedding adventure you had! At least you'll have funny stories to tell Kat when she gets older!

LisaM - welcome since I didn't get to tell you before. When is Katie's b-day. Allison's is 5/24.

Stacey - Good luck with the new baby. I know you must be anxious with all the new changes that are going to take place. Don't worry about Frachesca just think of all the kids and parents that have gone through the same thing. It all works out and there is always enough time for all the kids even though it may not seem that way now.

Cynthia - glad you had fun camping. I could practically roll in poison ivy and not get so maybe DH and Adam aren't allergic and you are??

Rita - hope everyone is better around your household soon.

Kelli - Allison and Elizabeth and too much alike! Both were easy babies and now I'm having the same type of agressive behavior from Allison as you are from Elizabeth. I do the same thing you do in telling her that that hurts mommy, etc, but I don't think at this age that they have much concept of empathy yet so it's going to take a while for it to mean anything to them. I do what someone else said and take her hand and touch me with it in an easy way and tell her to be easy and nice then I let her do it without me guiding her hand and praise her when she does it nicely. This seems to help, but we still have setbacks if she gets mad at something. I got your pictures. I always pictures you as a brunette. Funny. You're very pretty though and very young looking.

Lisa - so glad you got some sleep finally. I got your pictures as well even though I've already seen you, Max and DH in more recent pictures since then it's still neat to see. Max looks just like Daddy!

Missy - hope Dusty escapes the Scarlett fever. I've always heard that it develops when strep is left to go on for too long. Who knows though.

Megan - I weaned Allison at about 11 1/2 months and I can STILL get milk. About 2 weeks after I felt really full and let Allison nurse briefly on each side to empty them a little and haven't had any trouble since. If you don't want to let him nurse then maybe you could pump just a little to make it more comfortable.

Well, I must end this novel and get back to work. Hope all are having a great week and I will try to do better at keeping in touch. Talk to you ladies later.

Beth and Allison (15months)
email: bobwite@msn.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 11:15:07 (MDT))

It's LisaB. Nothing much new with Max and me so I'll go right to the personals.

JULIANNE: I'm sorry Colton kept you up the other night. Isn't it fun to chase our babies? Max loves to crawl with me down on all 4s crawling right over the top of him. He'll speed up, slow down, etc. - trying to see if I'll do the same!!

KELLI: I'm so glad to hear Elizabeth isn't a little angel ALL the time. I was starting to get pretty jealous of you with your little mellow girl - LOL! Hopefully Elizabeth is just going through a phase (one that passes REALLY quick!). PAT is free, at least in Missouri.

PATTY: I hope your 2 little boys are 100% again soon. How does Tom feel about you still nursing Jarin? My Tom threw a fit this morning when I nursed Max - "Are you EVER going to wean him?", etc. I had told him all along that I would nurse for a year and then work on weaning. Max turned 1 less than 2 weeks ago and I've cut out his 6 pm nursing entirely plus all the daytime feedings on weekends. I think that's doing pretty darn good. I told him that I'm GRADUALLY weaning Max and neither Max nor Mr. Booby wants to just stop overnight. Plus poor Max is having a hard enough time now with his molars that I'm not going to stress him out by also cutting off his "mama juice". Needless to say DH wasn't very dear or darling this morning.

CYNTHIA: Poison ivy? YUCK!

DANA: Welcome Back!!!!!!!! Gosh, if I had known all it took to "get you back" was an e-mail I would have e-mailed you a long time ago - LOL! Actually I had thought about it but lost your e-mail address and just found it the other day. I'm so glad DH has woken up and seen the light. I used to always wonder how you managed it all - 2 jobs, the horses, the house, etc. I'm especially to glad to hear your "problems" were anger and not depression - much easier to treat and no drugs required!!! A big YEAH on DH getting sniped - I know that's been a big issue for you since even before Derek was born. Anyway, I look forward to catching up with you and hearing what Derek is up to.

STACEY: Enjoy your pre-baby maternity leave. Relax? Is that possible with a toddler?!

LisaM: Katie's up/down comments cracked me up!

CRYSTAL: Why will you only visit your folks once a month? I think frequent visits would be very helpful, at least at first, to help Darrel adjust to the change. I do remember, however, living with my MIL during the 9th month of pregnancy. By the time we moved into our house I didn't want to see her, talk to her, etc. for QUITE awhile - LOL! It might help if Darrel has one of those little fabric photo albums with pictures of G-ma and G-pa (you could get one now and put DH in there also so you can point out Daddy and he can start to associate the face with the name). Also, you might try to make the apartment as close to your folks as possible. I know Darrel will probably get his own room and you share now, but use the same crib, arrange toy tubs similar to how they are now, use similar curtains, etc.

KAHNE: Your wedding story made me laugh so hard I almost cried but I'm sure it wasn't so funny at the time. You'll NEVER forget that day! Did Cat attend the wedding?

SARAH: Luckily Max has only pooped in the tub once - what a mess. Sorry about the black eye. Those accident really make you feel horrible, don't they? :-(

LisaB & Max (12 months)
email: lisa_lab@hotmail.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 11:20:26 (MDT))

My son is almost 19 months old and I am due to have another in a month. What is the best way to ease my son into a "big boy bed"? I don't have much space so he shares bunk beds with his 9 year old 1/2 sister and he hasn't been too receptive to the change.
Jennifer
email: jgrande@gyrfalcon.cas.pitt.edu
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 11:37:07 (MDT))

Just a quick note to let you guys know that I e-mailed Fiona and asked her to join us on Toddlers Today. Some of you older posters may remember her. She lives in New Zealand and her daughter Isla turned one in December of last year. She was about the same age as Cynthia's Adam. I will let you know if I hear from her if she doesn't post here first. Talk to you later.
Beth
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 12:19:07 (MDT))

Hello! Hope you all are having a great day!!

BETH - That's so ironic you just posted that!!! Not 30 minutes ago, I was thinking of FIONA and ISLA!!! :) WEIRD!! Great minds think alike! :)

See ya!!

Sarah and Hannah
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 12:58:57 (MDT))

Hi ladies, it's Dana.

I'll have to make this quick.............

JULIANNE:
Dana & Derek
email: danam@tznet.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 13:59:44 (MDT))

Hello dear ladies!
I am glad you all found my wedding story amusing! I did not, at the time, but I do now. I have another funny, it is funny to me, but may not be to others. Well Steve and I went out Sunday afternoon for brunch, while we were on ou honeymoon. We sit down, and are enjoying our meal immensley, when he starts CRAKING UP! I mean histerically! I asked him what the heck he was laughing at. He whispered something that sounded like "stripper". I said what? Well for his bachelor party, he and his friends went to a strip club, his cousin is a bartender there. well APPARENTLY the girl at the table next to us was a stripper in the bar. AND this particular girl offered him some "extra service" at no charge! So to get back at her, I told all the waiters she and her friends were strippers HAHA! We paid then left, cause Steve could not stop laughing. ONLY ME!!! GOOD LORD ABOVE I thought yall could use a funny.

Cat was at the wedding, and she looked like a complete angel! Wait I will send pics soon! I have got to run and EAT, bye for now all!

BTW SUE, I snuck over here a while ago, I felt the same way!

Kahne and Cat 8 months
email: skcx2@fnbop.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 14:01:42 (MDT))

Hi ladies, it's Dana.

I'll have to make this quick.............

JULIANNE: No big plans for Derek's one year birthday. Nice quiet night at home with him and hubby. I'll make a cake and he'll open his presents, of course, recording on the camcorder the whole time! I might make everyone wear those goofy party hats. Were just making it a nice family night. Thanks for asking!

SARAH: Derek wakes up screaming like that too once in a while. I just figure it must be a bad dream because once I stand by his bed and tell him it's okay, he usually falls right back to sleep. Thanks for the nice welcome back!

RITA: Glad Amy's pink eye is clearing up!

BETH: I can't believe those pic's are still circulating. Jeez, Derek doesn't look anything like he did in that 3 month old picture! I remember Fiona, I always loved her sense of humor.

LISA B: I'm very glad that hubby is getting snipped. It's a tremendous relief off my shoulders. Yep, I finally broke down, it wasn't a very pretty sight! I didn't know that a person could be that angry. I'm glad that I realized the problem, took care of it, and we are now dealing with it. Not just dealing with my anger, but WHY I was so angry. We are far from a perfect marriage (is there such a thing?!) but are working on it. At least now, we both have a common goal to strive for.

Our town had it's annual fair last weekend. I took Derek on the carousel. He wasn't too sure about it at first, but then once he realized I was going to stay by his side, he was okay with it. He really looked like he was going to get sick after the ride was over, but never did. He looked really green and pale for about 5 minutes, then went back to normal. He loved all the lights, wasn't too impressed with the animals, (his expression, was "Hey, big deal, I see these things everyday.") liked all the people watching that he could do. All in all, it was a fun night for us.

Back to work..........

Dana & Derek
email: danam@tznet.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 14:33:55 (MDT))

Hello friends! Becky here.

Our trip last weekend was great. Harley had a great time, but it was pretty challanging as the yard was very hilly and I had to follow him everywhere he went to make sure he didn't fall. The driveway was gravel and Harley kept trying to eat the rocks, YUK. He had a really good time though.

Yesterday Harley was chasing me around with his pop together blocks. I kept yelling OH NO A SNAKE and running away. He would laugh and then go AHHHH with the "snake" like he was trying to get me. It was so funny.

I FINALLY have pictures that I can e-mail to anyone who is interested. I promise this time. They are tried and true. If you want to see Harley please e-mail me and I'll send them along.

Dana-Welcome back! I'm glad you are working things out with DH. Derek sounds cute on the carousel. No wonder he wasn't impressed, he sees the real mc Coy every day.

Beth-That's great that Allison's ears have cleared up.

Rita-How sweet of DH to put off his fishing trip. Sometimes you just got to love them husbands.

Helen-Harley tries to put on his shoes too. Isn't it so sweet to see how serious their little faces look when they are concentrating.

Sue-Come on over, you don't have to be AWOL anymore.

Sarah-Sorry to hear about Hannah's eye. I hate it when that happens. We haven't had the poop/bath thing happen yet (knock on wood) but one time I was letting Harley run around naked after his bath and he leaned against the wall and peed like a racehorse. Reminded me of DH (just kidding).

Kahne-I think mishaps at weddings is what makes them memorable and fun. Don't feel bad. At our wedding at our friends house at Yosemite I was upstairs getting ready and my cake was downstairs on the kitchen table. Well my friends big dog ate the end off the cake before the wedding even got started. We just laughed and cut the eaten part off.

Crystal-Darrel is quite the little acrobat. That would have scared me too.

Cynthia-Its gonna take an ocean, of calamide lotion.

Patty-I'm really glad that Jarin is back home where he belongs. How is he doing?

Rita-Wow, poor DH with the drill breaking off in his mouth.

Kelli-What is a V-tech learning desk?

Julianne-Don't you just love chasing the baby around. It's one of Harleys favorite games.

Megan-I agree, just to set your mind at ease I would take the test again. I hope you will continue to post here. I miss you.

Missy-Hope Dusty doesn't get scarlett fever. I will be praying for him.

Lisa M, Katie & Lisanne-WELCOME!

Lisa B-So glad to hear that Max's molar finally broke through. We are still waiting for Harley's

I guess that's about it. Hi to any one I missed. Talk to you soon and kiss those babies for me and Harley.

Becky & Harley - 1 year
email: bsmisek@scfair.org
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 16:58:09 (MDT))

It's LisaM signing in. My DH is once again at school SIGH! Anyway, I have been reading about the weaning and these men, they don't get it! My SIL is going thru the same thing! My niece is 13months and is nursed in the AM and PM, my BIL shakes his head and can't understand. My thing is they all have some attatchment and WHO CARES!!!!

Couldn't we sit and watch the kids all day with their cuteness!!?? I love it when Katie is preoccupied and determined.

Beth-Katie's bday is June 3rd-I have a question... Katie sings ABC by herself and will count to 10 unassisted She gets surprised looks when she does this. Is Allison along the same development? Poppa was over today and said "Give me five" and she said "6,7,8,9,10." Thanks for your input!

Cynthia- on the name thing.... We have narrowed it down to John Myles and will call him Jack. My husband is a 4th and did not want a 5th, but I love the name John and Myles is my Dad. Jack because he will be the 5th immediate John in my family.

I guess I should sign off... my DH trys to call on his break and is tired of getting a busy signal.

LisaM

LisaM
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 17:49:17 (MDT))

Hello all. Thank you for the warm welcomes. Had an awful day. I am a SAHM with my two sons, (and older daughter), and none of us had a good day. Baby Ian (1 month) has oral thrush - as do I now. Shaun - who has been walking since he was 8 months - had a nasty trip and fall into the coffee table, which hasn't happened in a long time. He's screaming, the baby is starving and trying to hold on to me as I run to get ice for Shaun, milk flying everywhere because it was in the middle of letting down, was comical if it hadn't been so insane!! That is the hardest part of this situation, which one to take care of first! Just try to triage everyones needs and pray for 3 PM to come so DD gets home!

Anyway:

LisaB - thanks for the welcome, its pronounced lease-anne, as one word.

Megan - take another pregnancy test. I was still breastfeeding and the little one was concieved the first time we did it after Shaun was born!

Hope everyone has a great evening!
Lisanne&Shaun(12 months)
email: l3lion@yahoo.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 20:39:03 (MDT))

Hi it's Moriah lurking over here. Only 28 more days until I can officially "come over". I sure do miss all you guys. It's good though because there's a whole up & coming crew over at BT so that board will continue too. BTW - the pissiness over there was only related to the pissiness over here & nothing else has happened. So we're not a bunch of hormones over at BT (except for Birdie & I cuz our babies have given up the boobies) LOL.

Alex is doing really good. He's starting to sit up in his boppy. He's still not putting on much weight but he got measured @ 26' today. My little bean pole.

Dana - WELCOME BACK!! I've missed you!! Sometime I'll have to have an email with you. I too am having lots of anger feelings these days. Most just at our situation in general (I'm so sad how for behind Alex is). It'd be good to have someone to talk with. Glad to hear Derek is doing so well.

Hi to everyone else! Won't be long til we're part of the gang again.
Moriah & Alex (28 more days til he's 1)
email: geoffandmoriah@msn.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 20:40:14 (MDT))

Hi mommies. Jarin seems to be doing better today. He was giggling so hard tonight that he kept falling over. Soooo cute. He still isn't eating or drinking much - just nursing. I hope he starts eating more soon so we don't get dehydrated again. Jesse and I went back to school today. He seems to be better. Jarin was clinging to me when I got home, but DH said he was fine all day. Yay!
**Cynthia: Glad Adam enjoyed his camping trip. Thanks for the thoughts on Jarin.
**Dana: WELCOME BACK!!!! I have been wondering about you for soooooo long!!!! I am glad you are getting things worked out and that Derek is doing well. I hope to hear from you a lot more now! Your family night for Derek's birthday sounds great. We did lots of videotaping at Jarin's birthday too.
**Stacey: Yes, I do have my hands full and am dead tired right now. Can't wait for Saturday to I can get some sleep. Sounds like you need some too. I hope you get some time to try to relax and get ready for your new one. I'm sure it will all seem natural when she is born.
**LisaM: Katie sounds so cute in the tub. I would've laughed too.
**Kahne: Your wedding story was so funny and then the stripper thing too. Gees! My first wedding was such a disaster : Our best man dropped the rings, one of my bridesmaids passed out from the heat, and our unity candle went out! You'd think I would've gotten the message, huh? LOL
**Julianne; I also hate the dentist. Have just switched to a new one since I was having lots of pain. Just found out that I have TMJ. Not fun.
**Sarah: Yuck -poop in the tub. Been there done that, but only once, thank heaven! Hope you get more sleep tonight and I think maybe I can give Jarin an extra kiss from you. =)
**Sue: Come over any time. Hope Cam's teeth come through soon and he feels better. Good luck at the doctor's with your PPD. I feel for you.
**Helen: Amanda tries to put on her shoes? We put Jarin's on and he stands there like he has lead weights on his feet. He won't move and he touches them and goes "Uh, uh, uh" like "get these things off of me!" I wish I would've had you to talk to back when things were going on with my DH. It would've been easier having someone to talk to about it.
**Rita; Glad Larry is going to stay home with you this weekend.
**Beth: Hope Allison's ears are all cleared up. Thanks for the prayers. They definitely helped. I've also wondered about Fiona. She was so funny.
**LisaB: My Tom says he doesn't care when I wean Jarin, but he does make comments sometimes. The worst one is my sister she said "He's 19, when are you going to wean him?" Since he went in the hospital, he wants to nurse more than ever. I think if you've already gotten down to twice a day, you're doing great!!! DH's really have no clue if they expect us to just STOP in one day. I bet he'd change his mind if he had to deal with Max screaming his head off because he wanted mommy's booby! I am going to try to get to just nursing AM and PM, but right now he nurses then, plus before and after naps. Yikes - I think he may be 3 before he's done! LOL
**Becky: Jarin also loves to eat rocks. I'd love to see a pic of Harley. Thanks for the thoughts on Jarin. He is doing better.
**Lisanne: Welcome to you and Shaun. Sounds like you have your hands full!
**Ok, I'm exhausted and Jarin's been in bed for almost an hour. I should've gone to sleep when he did, but you know where my priorities are - right here, of course!!! Take care all.
Patty and Jarin - 1 year
email: tematheny@ctlnet.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 21:19:18 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

Not much new is going on here. The sleep fairy has been rather unkind to me the past week or two. Darrel's not sleeping very well, which means that I'm not sleeping very well. I'm just so worn out. Not to mention stressed, too. I think that Darrel's teeth are just bothering him.

We went to the birthday party tonight, and it was okay. Darrel was the only baby who wasn't cranky. He was tired but not cranky. Right now, I'm trying to convince him to go to sleep so that I can.

You know, with all the words that Darrel says, he still won't say "mama". He refers to me as being "dada". If I try to correct him, he gets mad. Oh well, I guess "dada" is his word for "mama".

LisaB: The main reason we're not going to see my parents often is because they don't like Doug. They have been trying to convince me to leave him since March. Because of how unwelcomed they make Doug feel, he'd rather have nothing to do with them. They are constantly putting Doug down, and I don't appreciate it. I'm the one who chose to marry him, not them. but, my parents don't seem to understand that I love him and that I want to stay married to him come hell or high water. We are only going to visit them because we feel that Darrel has the right to know his grandparents, unless they prove that they are too irresponsible with Darrel.

Well, that's it for me. I'm so tired that I'm falling asleep typing. Talk some more tomorrow.

Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Thursday, September 09, 1999 at 21:54:02 (MDT))

Hey everyone! Nothing much happened today in Elizabeth Land. She's still my little cutie! Oh, Elizabeth came up to me today and patted my back softly... just melted my heart and made me all teary eyed. I just love her sooo much and would do anything for her! Okay, before I get too sappy, here's my dilema for the day: Does anyone else have children that seem to love their daddy's more? The past 2 or 3 days, Elizabeth will go to DH more and want him over me at times. It really hurts my feelings and breaks my heart! I mean, I am the one who gave birth, cuddles her when she's hurt, sick, tired, etc. I feed her, change her... etc. DH does help me quite a bit when he comes home, but since I'm a sahm, I do the majority. Today, she was really loving on me all do though. Oh who knows... It's probably my PMS talking. AF came to visit for a week yesterday and you know how hormones and emotions get. Okay, I admit that I get very touchy, emotional and sometimes just plain irrational when AF comes. Last night I cried myself to sleep because I was thinking my daughter doesn't love me. Poor me. Do you hear violins playing? LOL! I'll shut up now.

SarahM, I hope you get your zzzz's tonight! Elizabeth has woken up before screaming like you described and I think it's one of two things: 1)a bad dream, or 2)teething. Elizabeth doesn't fully wake and I usually don't pick her up, just comfort her. I hope she's better, whatever it was!

Helen, Yes, it would be nice if we mom's could vacation alone every once in awhile!

Rita, Man... what a bummer about Larry & the dentist! I am going to check out Maddy's birth story when I'm done here. It sounds like you are going to have drama queen! Maddy just sounds so cute! She sure wanted to be on that stage, huh!?

Cynthia, Glad you are back! Sounds like camping was fun! Poison ivy... yuck! I can't recall ever getting poison ivy. Don't itch, now!!

Dana, Glad you are back!! I hope things work out for the best with you and dh! It sounds like the light was on but no one was home with him. Take care!!

Stacey, do you have a pc at home that you can post from? Like you will have time- LOL! Well, if not, I hope you take care and enjoy your "relaxing" time! Can you ever relax w/ a 1 year old? I will be thinking about you!! I will be anxiously awaiting your post about a new little angel entering the world!

LisaM, I know exactly what you mean... a year ago we had helpless little infants and NOW.... independant little stinkers! I also could just spend the whole day watching Elizabeth in awe... I sure would like to know what she's thinking all the time! Our kids are so amazing!

Crystal, Okay, here are my thoughs: I think you should tell your parents, "Hey, I love you guys But I love my husband too and I don't appreciate the way you talk about him. He's my husband and the father of YOUR grandchild, so please accept him." Tell your DH the same thing in reverse! I also don't think that Darrel should suffer for the relations between your dh and parents. I don't really see why Darrell can't spend more time w/ your parents that you plan. Gosh, I know you have to be stressed about the whole DH-parent situation! I hope things work out!

Kahne, I lol about the stripper story. But, it sounds like you summed it up... You are now married to the man you love! Hey, that's what a wedding is for, isn't it! I am glad you are such a good sport! I'd love to see pictures when you get them and can e-mail them!

Julianne, Man... it does sound like you were pretty out of it yesterday! Gosh, I always loved the Laughing gas... I'd giggle away and make up jokes that made no since! I'm so sorry it didn't go that well for you! I hope one day that your dh goes to a family bbq! Who knows... he may have fun... I think I would!

Sue, Yes, Cam sounds like he's growing quite well! I hope things go well at the drs! I'm thinking about you!

Beth, Hey, what do you mean you don't go home and get on the pc? LOL! Rob (dh) is in the same profession as you and is the same way. No, I'm not a brunette, so you know all those blonde jokes you send me... they apply to me! Glad you got the pictures, though! I like knowing where they are! Who's next on the list to send them to? I have been wondering about Fiona! She was always so funny!

LIsaB, What do you mean... Elizabeth is ALWAYS an angel. SOmetimes, she's just an angel with an attitude! LOL! Don't worry... I'm also going through this parenting stuff with a few bumps.... are you satisfied! :)

Jennifer, Hi and welcome. Sorry, I can't help you... but Judy, Stacey and LisaM all have 13 to 16 month old's and are expecting babies anywhere from NOW through November. Maybe they can help.

Becky, Welcome back from the trip! I'd LOVE to see pictures!!! A V-Tech learning desk is: a electrical lap-top type thing that talks and plays songs. It also has a cat, dog, bunny, squirl, boat, car, plane sounds on it. Oh, and a phone. I wish I was good at describing things, but I'm not. V-Tech is the brand name. The actual name of the toy is: V-Tech Little Smart Learning Center. Sorry I couldn't do better at explaining. Elizabeth loves it, though.

Lisanne, What a trying day you had! I had to LOL about your milk flying everywhere.

Moriah, Alex sounds like he's doing SO well!! I have told my dh your and Alex's story and every time I log on here, he always asks, "How's Alex doing?" About Alex being behind... He may be behind, but he's been through so much and just remember... he's moving forward and he'll be doing so much before you know it! Please give him a big hug and kiss from Elizabeth and I. I am so glad you came and posted here! I sure miss hearing about how the little trooper is doing!

Patty, YEA for Jarin and Jesse doing better! Yuck, TMJ? I hear that is SO painful! Hey, Friday is here... YOu have a weekend! Yippy!

Well, I hope you all have a great weekend!! We are going to SixFlags in Denver on Saturday for Rob's company get-together. I am looking forward to getting out and taking Elizabeth! My mom, step-dad and sister are coming to visit next Wed. My mom is DYING to see her 1st grandchild again. She lives in GA and I live in CO... so we only get to see them about 3 times a year. Ooops... I started babbling again! Bye everyone! Take care and God Bless!

Kelli & Elizabeth, nearly 14 months
email: rkncs@aol.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 00:06:58 (MDT))

Hey everyone!! It's Joy. I posted yesterday on BT but realized most 'my friends' had moved on to toddlers today. Well I shouldn't say that i did know some on BT. Anyway, sorry I disapeared like that, it was a long crazy summer. Josh and I just got out of the hospital( more complications with his kidney) we left with a tube coming out of his back from his kidney draining into his diaper. He has to go back in a couple of weeks to get that removed and have his kidney operated on. We also moved back to our hometown to help some pastor friends of ours plant a church.
I am doing ok. happy to be out of the hospital. I am now 22 wks preggo, thats going alright except they want to do another ultrasound at 30wks to check this babies kidneys. You know I am just not sure I want to know if there is something wrong. Oh well.
Joshua is doing great all things considered. He is such a trooper. He has been trough so much the last few weeks and yet is happy, laughing and just all around a terrific boy! He is ten months so I know I shouldnt' be over here yet but I just wanted to say hi to all you ladies.\
LisaB* Hi nice to read a post from you again. Happy to hear things are well with you and Max.
Stacy* due in 2 wks! Wow that is great. I totally understand your mixed feelings. Sorry I disapeared like that...we think this a girl too. At least that's what it looked like on the ultra sound but I will find out for sure at my 30 wk ultr sound.
I do want to post more but Josh wants breakfast. I'll catch up more later.
Love Joy and Josh
Joy and Josh
email: stan.kita@sympatico.ca
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 05:05:50 (MDT))

Good morning ladies...HAPPY FRIDAY!! :) :) SARAH here. Well, not too much to report over here so I'll get right on to personals.

DANA - I took HANNAH to Six Flags about a week ago, and she loved the carousel. She was the same way though, not too sure about it at first.

BECKY - I would love to see pictures. I'll email you.

LISANNE - Sorry you had such a hard day yesterday! I hope today is better!

PATTY - I know I was asking alot to give JARIN an extra kiss! :) :)

KELLI - Maybe ELIZABETH is like that cause she's with you all day, so she's real excited when she sees her daddy.

JOY - I sent you an email.

OK, that's it for now. I'd better start some work. I'll check back in before I leave today!!
Sarah and Hannah (1 year)
email: smoore@geatoir.cfer.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 06:44:30 (MDT))

I am so glad that it is Friday. Even though it was a short week due to the holiday it seemed way too long. It is going to be a busy weekend for us. We are having an open house at our business for the first time. My Dh runs a parts & accessories shop for cars/trucks/vans. He is quite the gearhead and loves what he is doing. Hopefully it will start brining us enough money so I can quite and stay home.

Colton only took a half hr nap at daycare yesterday so he was very tired when I picked him up. I felt bad that he fell asleep because DH and I went golfing and he had to be with the sitter. He woke up shortly before we left and was really upset that we were leaving. Luckily he was awake when we got back so we had time to play with him.

I had to point out to DH that here he was inside and has a chance to play with Colton and there he sits watching TV. (I was getting Colton's lunch and bottles ready for daycare.) He quickly turned the TV off and starting playing with Colton. It really bugs me that I had to point this out to him.

My friend Carrie sent me an e-mail that she is having another ultrasound today and the doctors might schedule the c-section. She is going to keep the date of the c-section a secret though. She is 33 weeks and has had the last steriod shot the drs want to give her today. Please pray for her and her 3 little babies.

Sarah: I hope your weekend goes better than your week. Sorry to hear about Hannah's black eye. I have been lucky--Colton has never pooped in the tub. Now, peeing on the floor before or after bathtime is a different matter.

Sue: Welcome early. Cam sure is growing great! Hope his cold goes away soon. Colton always gets a cold when he is teething too. I make sure to elevate his head when sleeping and give him decongestant otherwise he gets fluid in his ears which leads to ear infection. He will pull on his ears and even slap at his head when he gets fluid in them.

Helen: Amanda sure sounds cute with her new developments. I just love to see what new discoveries Colton has made.

Jennifer: Welcome, sorry no advise on switching to a toddler bed-not there yet!

Kahne: The stripper story was too funny.

Becky: Colton like to eat rocks too. Please e-mail me pictures.

Lisanne: Sorry to hear about your busy day. I can't imagine having 2 little ones to chase and care for. Everyone askes me if I am ready for another one. I would love to have another baby but I scares me to think of trying to care for a baby and a busy toddler. I always tell them that I need to be able to be a SAHM if I am going to have another baby.

Moriah: Welcome early. Yeah for Alex sitting up in his bobby.

Crystal: Hope you and Darrel find the sleep fairy soon.

Kelli: I have the same problem with Colton liking DH more. I think a big part of it is that he sees me alot more that DH so he would rather be with DH than me when we are both available. He will just cry and lay down by the bathroom door when Dh takes a shower. Sure makes me feel bad then. :(

Joy: Welcome back. I was just thinking about you and Josh's surgery yesterday since I was updating my mommy list. Sorry to hear Josh had more kidney complications. I will be praying for Josh, you, and your baby. Take care and hang in there.

Have a great weekend everyone.
Julianne & Colton 14 mo
email: jjones@batts.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 08:28:16 (MDT))

Hello from Helen&Amanda!!

Its raining here today,Amanda keeps trying to go outside and was pointing to her sneakers on the counter and grunting- had to hide them! The stupid dog hates the rain and finally went out after about 3hrs of whining- scared he'll melt!!

Amanda got a toothbrush and toothpaste (Barney) for her b-day and loves to brush her teeth- actually chews on the toothbrush, and whines when she sees me and wants hers- God knows they outgrow that obsession in a few years! :O)

I just put her back in bed- its 10:30 and she was really cranky- she'll probably want another later in the afternoon.

KAHNE- Forgot to congratulate you on getting hitched!!! I also was chuckling to myself- what a terrible day!! :O)

JENNIFER- I've been reading on toddlers and going to a 'big bed' and they say anywhere between 2-3 yrs old is the norm. My DD&DS are 24 mos apart and DS stayed in his crib while DD slept in a travel playpen/crib until she was 5-6mos old- we couldn't afford another crib and everyone we knew was still using theirs. They say as with everything, don't push them before they're ready or it only gets worse- good luck!! :O)

LISANNE- You must be so busy!!!! I also have an older daughter-11yrs and son 13yrs. They are a big help when I need another arm. Yes, I hate to admit it, but when 3:00 rolls around I count the minutes until I get a break for a few minutes to do some laundry, meals, or just take a breather. The kids just love having a baby around- how about your daughter- They are the envy of all their friends. They leave our house and ask their parents- why don't we have another baby??

DANA- Yes we all have those breaking points at one time or another- glad your working things out and DH realized your not superwoman and he needs to pitch in.

SARAH&HANNAH- Yes-- we've scooped a 'log' or two out of the tub- pretty funny how they just let go anywhere! Amanda sits in the shower w/me sometimes- one day I was out drying off and I noticed a dark spot on the wash cloth she was sitting on and sure enough- a mushy pile under her!! When we went away this past weekend all the kids wanted to do is go to archades- so I would put Amanda on rides- motorcycles, horse, carousel,car and she would sit for a minute or so and that was enough- get me out!

Well- should go and get some housework done before Amanda is awake again-Have a good weekend all!!
LATER!!!!
Helen&Amanda@13mos(#3)
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 08:50:11 (MDT))

Hello from the "almost toddler" Benjamin and his mama, Megan.

Well, I just wanted to check in and wish everyone a wonderful and relaxing weekend.
I have many things on my plate today so no time to read posts. I hope to get caught up this weekend but if not, I'll start out fresh on Monday.

I'm going to take the pregnancy test this weekend but I'm pretty sure I'm not. I've had two periods since we had unprotected sex and one of them was that 3 week long one. If I'm not pregnant, then I'm a little concerned about why my breasts are tingling and feeling weird all of the sudden again. It's been over a week now. I've never had pre-menstrual symptoms like breast tenderness so I don't think it's that.

Hey, any great ideas for Ben's first birthday party? It's probably just going to be grandparents and us. He really likes Elmo so I was thinking something to do with him. I want to keep it simple and fun. Also, any great suggestions on toys for learning and development? I might have to check out the V-Tec learning center Kelly was talking about.

Ben still has no teeth! He has been drooling up a storm again for the last few days and eating his hands so we'll see. Every time he does this though, it goes away after a while and no teeth. I want him to get some because I think it will help him eat chunky foods without gagging.

Well, gotta run. Sorry this post was so selfish. I will really try hard to read posts this weekend.

Oh, I have a cute new pic of Ben if you would like to see it. Just email me and I'll send it your way!

Love you guys,

Megan and Benjamin (10 1/2 months)
email: dtandmm@slkc.uswest.net
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 11:31:44 (MDT))

Hi from LisaB. Max is now OFFICALLY walking. He's stood by himself for a few minutes and has taken a few steps on his own before but he took off last night. He would take several steps, stand in place with his arms out to catch his balance, and then take some more. DH and I clapped for him and then he just kept doing it over and over - from one side of the living room to the other. I guess there's NO stopping him now - LOL!!!!!

DANA: DON'T LET YOUR DH TOUCH THE CAMCORDER! Mine broke our camcorder 1/2 hour before Max's birthday party and I was soooo ticked. Thankfully they are replacing it as it's less than a year old and they believe it was a defect (actually DH just "man-handled" it too much) - we are only out $20 for their initial "servicability evaluation". Max rode the carousel last month at the fair and didn't know whether to laugh or cry!

BECKY: Please e-mail me Harley's picture(s) if there are any other than the batman one you sent as a "test".

PATTY: DH claimed last night that I misunderstood his weaning comments (yeah right - he was VERY clear when he made them). He said he was just upset because Max woke up when I was in the shower and screamed - he couldn't comfort him at all - but Max quieted right now when I came in the room as "he knew I would nurse him".

CRYSTAL: I have to agree with Kelli that Darrel shouldn't suffer because your parents are so critical of Doug. Go visit minus Doug. If your parents say ANYTHING negative about Doug say "I will not allow you to be disrespectful to my husband, especially in front of our son". Collect Darrel and leave ... hopefully the message will get across quickly. I think you said this problem has been around since you got married, but your parents are probably more con-Doug now after you have lived with them and they've seen how conflicted you are over your relationship and how much he has hurt you. I know it's hard but they to see things from their point - would you like some woman who, in your opinion, only inflicts pain and suffering on Darrel? I just think you should make the effort - all the while making it clear to your parents that they can't criticize Doug.

KELLI: Like someone else said, Elizabeth probably wants Daddy just because she doesn't see him as often as you. In addition, kids go through phases where they prefer one parent over another - she probably used to prefer you. I know it's hard but don't cry yourself to sleep over this - YOU KNOW that your little angel loves you with all her heart. Try to see this as a positive thing - you can now more easily make a quick trip to the mall by yourself (with the windows down and the window blaring), etc.

JOY and MORIAH: Please stay here, if you wish. Kahne's little Cat isn't a year old yet but she has already joined us. It just seems like there are so many new babies on BT now that the older kids get kinda lost in the shuffle.

Everyone else - Hi and have a great weekend.

LisaB & Max (12 1/2 months)
email: lisa_lab@hotmail.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 11:36:15 (MDT))

Hey guys!!!!!

I give up!!! I am never going to catch up with all the posts. So Ok I have to start Fresh.

Dusty hasn't came down with scarlett fever yet. My niece got the ok from the doctor today to go back to school. So hopefully its over.

The puppy is driving me crazy...What ever you do don't go barefoot near him...he thinks your toes are chew toys...LOL. and Dusty keeps trying to run him over with his cars. He gets such a kick out of making the puppy jump, he laughs like a hyenia.....and as usual I never have the camcorder around.. Moms says I'm missing everything...I'm not I'm usually in the middle of it, just not with a camera....LOL :) I'm Dusty's playmate, there is not any other children he can play with during the week. So I have to fill in.

Thanks everyone for the prayers that Dusty don't get sick, the doc said it take 8-9 days to break out. It has only been 6 days, and no signs of it yet.

Kelli-Thanks for the jokes, the girls at the office get a kick out of them.

Gotta go, Dusty is asleep and I am trying to hold him and type at the same time and my arm is getting tired. Holding this 32 pounder is murder...LOL

Post more later
Love Ya
God Bless
Missy & Dusty
email: terrym@safeconnect.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 20:05:55 (MDT))

Hi mommies. Jarin seems to be feeling a little better. He is still really clingy with me and doesn't want to eat too much. He did eat a really good lunch for DH, but won't do anything but nurse for me. Jesse just came in to show me that he has lost another tooth. DH and I had to go be introduced with all the other football and cheerleading parents at tonight's football game. What fun! (Total sarcasm there). I had to hurry home as my dad was watching Jarin and I wasn't sure how he would behave without us around. Thankfully, he did well.
**Crystal: Hope you get some sleep soon!
**Kelli: I get sappy like that all the time. Almost every night when I nurse and rock Jarin to sleep, I just stare at him and keep thanking God for my little angel. Now, girl, you know that Elizabeth loves you. Jarin is still totally a mommy's boy though, so I know I will feel the same way when he starts preferring daddy. Yes, our kiddos are so amazing. I just want to watch him all the time. And, yes, I am SO glad it's Friday! Yay! I'm sure you are getting excited about your family coming.
**Joy: WoW! Two days and you and Dana return!!! I've been wondering about you two and am so glad you have decided to join us again. I still have Josh on my prayer list and was wondering how he was doing. I hope that he continues to get better and soon the tube can come out and his kidneys will be ok. Glad to hear your pg is going well. Hope the US shows that everything is A -OK.
**Sarah: Enjoy your weekend with Hannah!
**Julianne: Hope DH starts playing with Colton more without having to be reminded. I also hope everything works out with your friend and her pregnancy.
**Helen: Jarin also loves to chew on his toothbrush. Not much actual brushing going on, but he thinks his toothbrush is pretty cool. His is also Barney.
**Megan: I must've missed a major post. I hope the pregnancy test comes back the way you want it to. We have some friends whose daughter didn't have any teeth until after she was a year old. I would love to see Ben. Hmm, do you think it will actually work this time? LOL
**LisaB: Yay for Max walking!!!! Jarin also calms and comforts himself by nursing. DH just hands him over when he gets too upset because he knows that's about the only way that Jarin will calm down. I'm not sure how to break him of this and right at this moment, I just want him to be better and feel happy and healthy. So, weaning isn't that important to me right now. I figure he'll quit before he starts dating. LOL
**Gotta get my whiney guy. Time for bath and bed. I just love him so much - whiney, clingy, and all. Have a great weekend, ladies!
Patty and Jarin - 12 1/2 months
email: tematheny@ctlnet.com
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 20:11:11 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

Just wanted to check in real quick before going to bed.

I'll be visiting my parents more than I actually want to by visiting once a month. It's not just that they constantly put my husband down. They also really hurt my feelings by comparing me with my brother and one of my cousins. I feel like I don't measure up. Out of all my cousins, I'm the oldest, the only one who's married and has a child. Two of my younger cousins are in college. My mom keeps reminding me that I won't be the first with a college degree or a good paying job. I don't care about being first. There are other things that mean so much more to me than being the first with a good job, owning a home, or being the first through college. My husband and my son mean everything to me. Yes, I will go to college next semester, but I don't care that I won't be the first. My parents also give me a hard time because I married young. I was 18 when I got married and am now 20. Even my younger brother, who is now 19, gives me a hard time for having a family so young. But I don't regret marrying Doug or having a son. My parents and brother say that it's a mistake, but I don't see it as such. Yes, sometimes, I feel that maybe Doug and I should have waited, but I can't and don't waste time thinking about it. What's done is done. We have more important things to think about, such as making sure that Darrel's needs are met and that each other's needs are met. Neither of us feel that we made a mistake in getting married, and we are still in love. We may not have been ready as we thought we were, but that doesn't matter anymore. What matters now is that we still love each other and will do what it takes to keep our marriage together, in spite of the odds. I'm happy that I have Doug and Darrel. A college degree or a nice house within the next few years and a good paying job can never replace what I have now. But with the comments I get from my parents and my brother, I feel like I don't measure up. Without the comments, I feel like I'm on top of the world. Sure, I can't go out partying like my cousins and brother can without thinking about who will watch my son, but I'm just as happy. I've grown up quite a bit the past two years. I've gotten an education that I could never get in school. I have the most fulfilling job. And I have friends. I still appreciate the simple things in life. I've learned to not take anything for granted. But my parents can't see past the fact that I won't be the first out of my cousins with a college degree, a good paying job, or a fancy house. They feel that I'm missing out on a good oppurtunity. I feel that I'm not missing out on anything.

On top of all that, my mom keeps saying that I'm just like she was when she was my age. I say that I'm not. I'm married. She wasn't but had two kids. She married some one because she was afraid to live on her own and to stand up to her mom. I got married because I love Doug. She was on welfare. I'm not. Plus, I'm not afraid to live without Doug if I had to. All this really brings me down. I don't want Darrel to hear my mom compare me with my brother, cousins, or herself. But, even more so, I don't want him to hear her compare my husband to my ex-stepdad, who was abusive. That is the worse thing that my mom can do. Okay, so they are both quiet and listen to heavy metal, but that doesn't mean that my husband will abuse me or Darrel or any other child that we have in the future. My husband may be a total jerk at times, but he's not the kind of person who will abuse others or molest children. He's better than that. Doug won't even hit a woman no matter how mad he gets, unless his, my, or Darrel's or anyone else he'll give his life for, life is threatened. He'd rather protect people he loves than hurt them.
Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy
Friday, September 10, 1999 at 22:00:28 (MDT))

Hi there. Long time no post!
Thanks for the input on the MIL/sleep over situation, LisaB, Judy, Julianne, and Cynthia. I still don't know how I feel about it; trust me, she'd take my "mommy job" in a heartbeat. It's unnerving to me.
On a much happier note, Isaac woke up singing yesterday morning. It was pretty neat. He's had to re-learn bedtime for some reason- lots of crying at bedtime lately, so it was a treat to have him wake up so happy.
I can't really catch up on all the posts from the week, but I skimmed, and here are a few personals:

Patty- My goodness, glad Jarin is doing a little bit better. Keep up with your nursing! It's probably one of the best things for him right now.

Cynthia- OOOOO! Sorry to hear about poison ivy! Glad your little vacation went well, otherwise. I thought about what you said about camping, and eating out in restaurants. That sounds pretty great! I love camping, but haven't gone in 3 years! Sounds like a great adaptation to roughing it for a family. :)

Judy- I've been thinking about you and Elijah. I'm sorry to hear he's having a difficult transition to daycare. We went through that also. It can be so hard. I was pg at the time of Isaac's transition, (hormones don't help the situation!!) so I feel for you guys. Hang in there!

Kelli- Loved Elizabeth's picture on the diary page! Beautiful!

Crystal- I think I can relate to your situation somewhat. We're living with my parents. I, too am waiting for the right time (next semester, hopefully) to go back to school full time. Sometimes it's hard to be patient, isn't it? When I was 20, I was, well, not in such a great state of mind, to put it nicely. (Too much partying...) So, congratulations that you have a plan! Stick to it! Now I'm 25 and it is weird seeing younger people in college, ahead in the "game." But you can't beat experience as a teacher sometimes! Be strong and do what you want to do!!

Take care everyone! Should have been in bed hours ago... It's good to "see" you guys, though! :-)

Sarah g and Isaac, 28 months, almost
email: gat_men@hotmail.com
Saturday, September 11, 1999 at 00:56:19 (MDT))

Hi it's Moriah. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. It's so nice to "see" my pals again!

Not much new with us. One thing I haven't mentioned though. Alex & his teeth. HOLY MOLY!!! He didn't get a tooth until he was almost 10 months and now he has 8. They just keep popping out. What's up with this? I thought they just got 4 & stopped. He of course has been a trooper (only Tylenol for the very 1st one). He just isn't a fussy baby. He's so good. My MIL is constantly amazed that Geoff's son could be so good. She jokes that Geoff was such a nightmare that's why he was her last. I of course was an angel child so he must of gotten it from me :)

I'm so excited about our vacation. I'm not sure if I've shared the details. We're going to Disneyland next Saturday. SIL is getting married on Sunday at the hotel. So Geoff's family + her friends (about 45 people) are all going to LA for the event. Then after the wedding & reception we're all going to the park for the night. Us, MIL, FIL, SIL & new BIL + Geoffs Aunt are all staying until Wednesday (we're crashing the honeymoon LOL) All 3 of us are in the wedding (Alex is the ring bearer). We're going to have so much fun!!!

On to the personals!

Patty: I'm so glad that Jarin is feeling better. It's scary in the hospital. I HATE the IV thing. Now since they know us so well they let me come so that Alex is easier to hold. The last IV he got to 25 sticks (no joke) because his veins are hamburger after that 3 month stay. Thankfully he was already under anestesia & didn't have to go through that torture.

Lisanne - Wow you are busy with the 2 little ones. My hat's off to you! I have one & I don't get anything else done. Possible because right now while Alex is sleeping I'm here rather than folding the laundry LOL!

Kelli - thanks for your message. I appreciate how much you care for Alex. You are so right that he's been through so much that there's no possible way he could be on track. It's just sometimes it overwhelmes me & I get scared for his future. There's always a chance that he won't catch up. But I keep praying that Alex will be one of those miracles you always hear about. But I try to remain positive. I tell you though if love & prayers can make Alex better then he's the luckiest little boy in the world because so many people care for him.

Sarah w/Hannah: Hi!!

Julianne - I'm praying for the triplets! Having had experience in the NICU I know that it's so very overwhelming. Do you know if she's going to pump? It's so worth it! I pumped exclusively for almost 11 months. In the begininng it's hard because the staff is doing all the care for the babies & you don't really feel like a parent. But if you're pumping than it gives you something to focus on because you are the only one that can provide that important element for your baby. I wish her all the luck in the world!

Kahne - congratulations on your marriage!!

Megan - I saw the cutest idea in a magazine a couple years back for invitations for a 1st birthday (I want to do the same thing). You dress the baby up in party clothes (hat, balloons the whole works) then make a sign saying like "Come to my 1st birthday party" & list all the particulars (when, were, time, ect). Then take a picture of the sign & Ben. Have the picture made into the long skinny things (like the Christmas cards you can get made). Then mail them out for invitations. It's not that expensive. Plus then everyone has a pic of Ben.

Lisa B - Yea for Max walking! The real fun begins!! I bet you drop 5 lbs in the next month. Everyone I know does that when the baby starts to walk because you're chasing them so much. Do you have any new pics?

Missy - I'm Alex's playmate too!

Crystal - You're in a hard spot. I have problems with my Dad that are still not solved (I know you're shaking your head at me Lisa B LOL). The correct answer is that for Darrels sake you need a relationship with your parents but reality is that's not as easy said as done. How do YOU feel about your parents - their feelings for Doug withstanding? I know that I always go to my family functions by myself because Geoff doesn't really like my family. It's hard but it's a compromise. That way I still can see my family but I don't have to listen to him bitch. I think someone had the right answer when they said that you shouldn't let your parents disrespect your husband in front of Darrel. You also should not let them put you down for your choices in life. It sounds to me like you need some space from them. It sounds to me like your mom is saying "do as I say not as I do" & that's pretty hypicritical. Lisa B to had a point that since the majority of the stuff that they hear from you about Doug is bad so that clouds their judgement. Maybe save your venting about Doug for your friends & try to be more positive to your Mom. Good luck - I'm sure you'll sort it out.

Sarah G - I can kind of relate about your MIL thing. See for a long time there was an underlying competition thing between MIL & I over Geoff (very stupid!). But we calmed down & realized that she was his mother & I his love & there's room for both of us. Then when Alex came along it kind of started again but really only on my end. I was feeling insecure like she wanted my mommy role. Mostly I felt that way because I was new at this mothering job & I had my own ideas then my MIL would disagree over one thing or another & Geoff would trust her mothering instincts more than mine. That would tick me off! But I think she started to pick up on this & now all is fine. She still of course says her opinion but she knows me by now (Geoff & I have been together almost 13 years) that I may listen or I may not. She's a wonderful GM to Alex. I want Alex to grow up with a good relationship to his GP's. I've started letting MIL babysit more often so that she get's time with Alex without me hovering. I think it's good for her & she has become VERY repectful of my judgement & my decisions. All we needed was to develope some mutual respect. Because what's best for Alex is to have lots of people that love him. Of course NO ONE would replace Geoff or I because we're his parents. So I think that GP's are important and they need to repect the parents to make the relationship work. Could your DH talk to MIL & get those points across or are you close enough to her to do it?

Okay how's that for a post? Geez I posted so long the dryer got done! Chat agian later.
Moriah & Alex (26 more days....)
email: geoffandmoriah@msn.com
Saturday, September 11, 1999 at 12:17:22 (MDT))

Hi All LisaM!! It sounds as though everyone has had an uneventful couple of days HAHA!! The weather has cooled off a bit here in New England, enough to actually open the windows and pull up the shades PHEW!!
I had my 32week Dr. visit yesterday and hadn't gained any weight... I made them weigh me again! I consistently gained weight with Katie so this was a shock to me! So far I have gained 20lbs YAAY!
We had the bedrooms painted a few weeks ago and Finally started putting up the border. I chose the Laura Ashley line and Katie's room is Mary Mary quite contrary and Jack's room is Row Row Row your boat I am very pleased with how it looks... Although I don't have too much of a choice now!

My aunt (who is 4years older than I am) found out her 2nd child is a boy, which means our boys will be 3months apart and our girls are 8months apart. This is nice considering we are close and live near each other.

Kelli- Katie pulls this baloney with us, and I let my DH eat it up because he is not around so much. I know what you mean about feeling badly, but I think some is the PMS!!!

Lisanne- I had a chuckle reading about your day! I pick my friends son up at preschool in the afternoon and BOYOHBOY have I had some afternoons like that! You need to laugh otherwise you could literally cry! Always remember "This too shall pass!"

Julianne- it's a man's world! They don't mean to be clueless, they can't help it! I left a HUGE pile of laundry at the top of the stairs so when DH finished showering,shaving,getting dressed (leisurely of course) he could carry it down our 2 floor colonial into the basement... Yeah right! He stepped right over it and down he came empty handed , when I asked him about it he looked at me funny. Go figure!!

LisaB-Hooray for Max! I bet you have been watching him every chance these past couple of days! Isin't so exciting watching them pass another milestone?! Enjoy Enjoy!!

Patty- sounds like you could use a little TLC! I hope you will catch up on some much needed rest.. It's scary when they are sick and we tend to go into overdrive. Please take care of yourself!

Everyone enjoy and stay sane!!

LisaM
Saturday, September 11, 1999 at 19:06:22 (MDT))

Crystal and Darrel here.

Darrel has two new habits now. First of all, he likes to throw things and then chase after them. It's so funny to watch him. Also, Darrel likes to pick things up with his mouth and crawl around with it in his mouth. He'll pick up anything-his sports bottles, sippy cups, keys, toys, and even baby wipes boxes. This morning, he put his sippy cup in his hands and then let go, still holding it in his mouth with his teeth. Darrel is now starting to follow me everywhere. If I didn't know better, I'd think he was a puppy in disguise.

Today, my dad made me so mad. I was going in my room to change Darrel's diaper, and he was like, "Aren't you going to give Darrel some dinner sometime tonight?" All I was doing was changing my son's diaper. It's not like I was trying to starve him or anything. Darrel wasn't even crying for food, so I figured a dry diaper was more important. After all, on Thursday the teacher in the infant room put Luv's on Darrel instead of his diapers. He can't wear any plastic diaper because he gets a severe diaper rash. His whole bottom his red and bleeds when it's wiped. He gets a bad rash within 24 hours of wearing plastic diapers no matter how long he has them on because the air can't get to his bottom. So, for the past few days, I've been having to change Darrel's diapers every two or three hours. I normally only have to change it when he wakes up from naps, when he eats, and when he goes down for the night. But, my dad made it sound as though I don't know how to take care of my son. How would he know about babies and toddlers? It's not like he was ever around when my brothers and I were babies or toddlers. Darrel is the only young child that my dad has ever really known. I've been Darrel's primary caregiver since the day he was born. I think I should know him well enough to know whether or not it's best to post pone a meal for a few minutes for a quick diaper change and a few laughs or whether he needs to eat immediately. I always play with Darrel for a few minutes after a diaper change and before bed. When he has a rash, it helps him calm down, especially after a bm, and get back to his happy self. Besides, it helps me relax as well. We usually have a tickle fest, which Darrel loves.

Moriah: My parents never liked Doug. In fact, after meeting him for the first time, my mom said that he's disrespectful towards me because he kissed me on my hand while they were in the car with us. That was after we had been dating for a couple of weeks. The way I see it, he was being rather respectful and controlling himself rather well. And I loved the attention. They never liked any guy that I have dated. In fact, my mom would rather me not be married at all. As a teenager, I didn't rebel much because I was too scared to. Doug has taught me to be a stronger person, to stand up for myself and to more a little more assertive instead of being a doormat. I still don't speak my mind as often as I need to, but I do more than before. My parents told me not to marry Doug, but I did anyway. We went to the justice of peace instead of having a wedding. Then, my parents got mad because we didn't invite them. In fact, the day after we got married, I hung up on my parents because I was so upset over their response. Ever since my dad came into our lives again, I felt as though I wasn't good enough for my parents, as though I don't measure up. I know that I'm not what they want me to be, but that's because I don't want to be who they want me to. I'm my own person, and what I do is between me and Doug, not my parents. They are done raising kids. I have my own opinions about life and my own sense of right and wrong, and my parents disagree with me. They have always tried to get me to quit going to church. They ridicule me for my parenting style. It's just a big mess between me and my parents, and very little of it actually has to do with my husband. It's mostly because I don't fit in with them and my brother. Doug doesn't now what to do because he knows that my parents upset me greatly and can't stand to see me cry, but he knows that family is important to me. When my parents upset me and he's around, he just holds me and tells me how much he loves me. That makes me feel a lot better to know how much he supports me when I have a hard time with my parents.

Well, gotta go know. I'll talk some more later.

Crystal and Darrel 12 1/2 months
email: cjeanmurphy@yahoo.com
Saturday, September 11, 1999 at 21:52:14 (MDT))