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Expert Q&A
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| By Susan Bartell Licensed Psychologist | ||
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My 3-year-old daughter has developed emotional problems. I am pregnant. Could this be related?
I'm sure you're right that there is a connection between your pregnancy and your daughter's unhappiness. Although young children can talk, they don't have the verbal ability to express complex feelings the way older children can. Often their behavior is the only way we know how they feel.
Your daughter is likely to be feeling confused, scared and even angry about the impending changes in her life. Her behavior is telling you that she needs attention and empathy from you.
To help her feel better, you can start by giving her the words for her feelings. Don't wait for a bad mood; rather, during a quiet time you might say, "I bet you're worried about how the baby will change things around here. You probably feel a bit sad or angry that things will be different." Then go on to reassure her of her special place in the family. You may need to do this several times.
Next, be patient. When she refuses to listen to you, give her a hug instead of becoming angry. When she's upset or sad, she's trying to tell you she needs a little extra loving. Assure her that you will still be able to give her lots of hugs and kisses after the baby is born."
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