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June 13, 2003
6/13/03
A Wonderful Dad
When I married that wonderful husband of mine,
there were some things I knew from the start.
I knew he was gentle and thoughtful and wise,
I knew that he had a big heart...
But I didn't know all the things I know now,
all the tricks that he had up his sleeve.
All the toys he could fix, all the swings he could push,
all the ways he could make make-believe.
Now the more we're together,
the more I can see just what very good fortune I've had...
When I married that wonderful husband of mine,
I sure married a wonderful dad!
The first time Joe and I got together before we started dating and were still getting to know each other, he took me to his home. His mom had asked him to babysit his brothers and sister while she and her husband went out. It only took me about 15 minutes of babysitting with Joe before I knew he would make a great father some day. He was very proud to show me the murals he had painted for his brothers in their rooms. I watched as he played baseball with his brothers and he sang Little Mermaid songs (word for word) and danced with his sister. He was so good with them and so patient. Not many 18 year olds would want to sit around while they were getting to know a girl and play with his very little brothers and sister. After we had begun dating Joe started to coach his bothers little league baseball team and continued to do so until his own son (J.t) was a year old. While I was pregnant with J.t , Joe held two jobs, one of them being a teachers asst job with second graders. It is obvious that this man is a true blessing and wonderful man.
My children could not have a better father and I feel so blessed we have him. Joe would put his family before anything else and his children are his world. He was so excited about our trip to Disney and to show the kids all of his favorite rides. He is the Kind of Kissy Monsters and Big Squeezes in our home. The kids Love their father so much and ask about him throughout the day. If they have big news they want to call daddy right away or tell him the minute he walks in the door. Joe will teach his sons to treat women respectfully, love the Lord and to be a good father. He will teach his daughter to respect herself, Love the lord and live for your dreams. The man is amazing. He truly is and if you were to watch him with his children you would see it.
A Father's ABC's
(Charles W Ridlen)
A lways trust your children to God's care
B ring them to church
C hallenge them to high goals
D elight in their achievements
E xalt the Lord in their presence
F rown on evil
G ive them love
H ear their problems
I gnore not their childish fears
J oyfully accept their apologies
K eep their confidence
L ive a good example before them
M ake them your friends
N ever ignore their endless questions
O pen your heart to their love
P ray for them by name
Q uicken your interest in their spirituality
R emember their needs
S how them the way of salvation
T each them to work
U nderstand they are still young
V erify your statements
W ean them from bad company
X pect them to obey
Y earn for God's best for them
Z ealously guide them in Bible truth
When we were expecting our first child Joe was scared because we were young, When he learned that his first child was a boy from the ultrasound I could see his eyes lighten up and he seemed to walk a little taller. He was so proud.
Although Joe was never the type to talk to my pregnant belly or feel for kicks, he did pick up a couple cute little boy outfits and got very excited about buying a car seat for his unborn son. When J.t. was born it was a pretty traumatic time for me and I do not remember much. However, I will always hold the one memory I have very close to my heart. After Jt had been born, I looked up at Joe and he looked down at me with tears streaming down his face as he whispered “Thank you”. The recovering form J.t.’s birth was really hard and I was pretty sick for a couple weeks. Joe was always there at my side to help me with the baby and to make sure I was okay.
The birth of our daughter was a beautiful experience that I love to talk about. We had a successful v-bac and as I was pushing our daughter into this world I was watching Joe. He was so excited to see our little girl being born into this world and again when she was born he again thanked me through the tears and said “We have a little girl.” While we were in the hospital everyone said how beautiful she was and how much she looked like her daddy. She still looks like her daddy and every time I look at her big brown eyes I have to smile as I think of her daddy.
When I was pregnant with Alec I had to have a version because he was breech. As I was on the table withering in pain Joe held my hand and watched what he Dr’s were doing. At first I was a little perturbed at how fascinated he seemed to be in the whole process. Here I was in pain as he was being amused. I had to forgive him though as I listened to him describe the procedure to a family member. LOL He thought is was “the coolest thing to watch them turn a baby inside its mother.” When I was pregnant I had told Joe how important Breastfeeding was to me. He even went with me to a breastfeeding class through the hospital. As the nurse was taking Alec from me after he was born Joe immediately was my advocate and was telling them that I needed to breastfeed right away. He reminded the nurses a couple of times in the next several minutes and I believe that he is the reason I was able to nurse Alec so easily. He made sure I nursed him right after the birth.
~*~*~ My father~*~*~
I love my mother and father I really do. I have many memories of my childhood and know that my father worked very hard to have a nice home and take my sister and I on nice vacation. I have memories of us going camping , going to Disney world several times, going to Tennesse., California, Wis, Michigan, going on a couple different cruises etc etc. We took trips all the time. We lived in very nice homes and had many things we wanted. There is no doubt in my mind that my sister and I are my dads world. There was a time when I was very sick with bad asthma. I had a couple occasions I was transported in an ambulance and then put in ICU. I remember my dad sleeping on the hard cold floor next to my bed and refused to leave my side.
When I was a teenager we went through a bit of a rough spell and I was not close to my family at all. We grew apart and then the day I announced my engagement to Joe it seemed as if our relationship took a new turn. I was told to pick anything I wanted for my wedding. Anything I even suggested was given to me for that wedding. My wedding day was absolutely beautiful but there was ONE thing that made me a bit sad. As my dad walked me down the isle I realized I could not remember the last time my dad had hugged me or told me he loved me. As my father gave me to Joe he gave me a very quick timid peck and walked away. I never heard him say “ I love you”. The father daughter dance was even more awkward and we made small talk while we danced.
As my children were born my dad grew more and more proud. He talks non-stop about his grandchildren and calls every day to check up on them. We are very close now, yet not close at all. My father was not raised in a household where people hugged one another or praised each other. As I was growing up, the same trend kind of stuck and I only got the “I love yous” and cuddles from my mom. I will not go into detail but I think that not getting the “I love you” “ I am proud of you” and hugs from my father led to me having some self esteem issues as well as other un named issues. That is why I am so excited for my daughter. She has a father that is not afraid to tell her he loves her each day, or how beautiful and special she is. I love my father, I love my husband.
Tanya
To Dad From Mom on Father's Day
I'm sure, like me, you often feel
When all is said and done
The job of raising kids today
Is not an easy one.
I'm glad you're there beside me
To counsel and advise
And help me find the answers
To their never ending "whys?"
I'd be lost without your shoulders
So much broader than my own
To lean upon when problems
Seem to big to solve alone.
As long as we're together
We can weather storm and strife
And take in stride the ups and downs
That go with family life.
And someday when our little ones
Are old enough to stand
Straight and tall without the need
Of any helping hand -
We won't recall how hard it was
We'll just be proud and glad
We happened to be chosen
For the roles of Mom and Dad!
P.S. For the dads and gramdpas I made Aprons with the kids. They turned out reallt cute. We put handprints on the bottom and outlines them in darker paints. On the top we put King of the Grill and #1 Dad(or grandpa or papa).To go with the apron I got some really nice oils and seasonings in the nice bottles.
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