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Home › Diaries › Megan › February 16, 2000

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February 16, 2000

Hello Everybody,

I have to say right off that this entry won't be about Jordan. Sorry, but she is pretty much the same as last week, nothing exciting to report. She did tell me this morning -- unprompted -- that I was her friend. She is so sweet. I was sitting on the couch with the baby, and she walked up and said, "Mommy you my friend," and she gave me a hug. What a doll!!!

Anyway, I had to write about the only thing that I can think about these days. My best friend has been struggling with infertility for a couple of years and they have finally decided that they aren't going to keep trying and they are going to look into adopting a 3-5- year-old child. I am so excited. Her infertility and my getting pregnant two times, once while on the pill, has caused a certain rift between us -- and we have been friends for almost 12 years. It has been hard for me to find things in common with her and watching her struggle to try to get pregnant. It has been hard for her to see my life as a mom. She has been on fertility drugs for about 6 months and she still has not ovulated. I'm sad for them that they won't be able to have a biological child but I am happy they want to adopt. Finally, once again we will have things in common. We can do mom things and arrange play dates. If they do end up with a child between 3-5 years old, that child would be close in age to Jordan since it takes so long to go through the adoption process.

megan's girl Okay, so the thing is that I'm worried that I am going to pressure her. I mean, I have to refrain from asking her daily how it's going, if she has called child services yet, and so on. I don't know exactly how I'm supposed to act. When she first told me and I got really excited, she didn't understand why I was -- since it will still be while before they will get a child. So now I'm trying to be cool about it and only talk about when she brings it up, but she doesn't much. Has anyone ever dealt with any similar situations? Both my husband and my youngest brother are adopted, but my husband was adopted as a baby and his family treated it like any new baby arrival. My brother was my parents' foster child from age 6 until he was adopted at age 11, so that is a different situation, too. I told my friend that I wanted to have a kid shower for her, and she thought I was crazy but I told her that 3-5-year-olds need stuff too. I mean, I wouldn't have it until closer to the time they found out they would be adopting a child. Anyway, am I going overboard? I don't know what should be done in cases like this. Anyone with thoughts please leave me a message!!! Thanks!!!

Next week will be about Jordan, she is going to see Sesame Street Live this weekend so I'll have how she likes that to write about. Also, Jordan's birth story is now on BirthStories.com -- its title is Induction, Vac Extract, Baby in distress by Megan (of course) for anyone who is interested in reading how my bundle of joy came into the world. I wrote it back in late July, and when I saw it finally posted and read it, I cried. It was so emotional to read it and remember how I felt at the time. I wrote a birth story for Jazmine also, but that was shortly after her birth in September, so it hasn't been posted yet but when I notice it I'll let everyone know so you can read hers, too, I'll give you a sneak peek. Her birth was much less scary than Jordan's, an easier experience -- but she was posterior and anyone who had a backward baby will tell you those hard heads hurt coming out the other way, Ooww!!!!

Also before I go I just want to thank everyone who has posted messages to me. I love to hear from others and everyone is so nice. I especially want to thank Steph (and her Derek and ???) she always brightens my day when I get her messages!!! Thank you Steph!!! Okay, I'm a little chatty today so I'll wrap it up.

Until next week,

Megan and Jordan



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