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May 23, 2003
Whats a feminist? I was surfing around other boards earlier and found some incredibly ridiculous posts about “submitting to their husbands” “feminism being the “wrong” choice” and a whole lot of pro-life blabber (9 month abortions?) that even I found to be almost scary. For those that care, my idea of feminism is the ability of all women to choose, to choose your career, or to stay at home, to choose to vote (or not), to choose to end an unwanted pregnancy, or choose to keep or child or decide to put your child up for adoption. Feminism is really about choice, women before us experienced an unfairness in education and human rights and moved as one to change those laws/ideals that told everyone that women were not equal to men. I believe we are. I am a good positive women roll model for my son. I strive to succeed in a male dominated (engineering career)”, my husband stays at home because I am the larger income earner (it was an obvious choice). I will continue to upgrade and add to my education and my husband supports my dreams. I don’t believe that a woman HAS to choose to stay at home or that her place is specifically at home raising the children, if that’s what YOU want to do than you’ve made your choice. I support ALL of women’s choices, I don’t judge them, I support them and pray you’re happy in them, (yup, gasp I even believe in God and go to Church,). I want to be a role model to my son, I want him to see women as his equal and his PARTNER in marriage where no one submits but compromise and synergy are the answers to disagreements or choices affecting both partners.
Off my soap box now….
Brennen, what can I say, I haven’t updated in a while because each day gives me more to write about my little man but the days roll into weeks and you get the picture. McKinley had her birthday party in early May and I was worried at how he’d do with 15 five year olds invading our house (and toys) along with a clown named Pudding. He did wonderful, he laughed along with the kids, loved to stand beside pudding and giggled with his jokes (although I don’t think he understood a word) He stood in line for the piñata and waited with patience for his turn to come (a first lol). Brennen loved to be in the “thick” of things and I think he found it exciting and fun to be with the “kids” and not just him and McKinley.
Tulip Festival: Ottawa just wrapped up our famous Tulip Festival, where the downtown Canal area is full of bright and beautiful tulips from Holland (The Dutch princess was born in our hospital during the WW2 and as a thank you the Dutch Royal Family sent something like 20,000 Tulips to Ottawa.) We have some great pics of B and M standing in the middle of tulip beds with big smiles and Brennen loved to bend down and sniff (loudly) the flowers. He enjoyed walking through the crowds but both John and I found it frustrating as he seemed to love to dawdle and meander off on his own, you can imagine it was quite stressful in a crowd of people! Brennen likes to walk along with canal with us (we try and get downtown every weekend or so) and loves to walk along picking up stones and twigs and getting us to hold them lol. I’d say with the tulip festival and our weekend trips the Coulson family has walked quite a few kilometers these first early months of spring.
Gardening: We created a middle garden (with two large boulders) in our front lawn two weeks ago, which look great but were a lot of work I gardened for close to 8 hours to finish with McKinley’s help. Brennen feels that helping is digging UP the flowers lol. He has also taken to running on the front road, we have a quiet and isolated neighborhood bordered by NCC parkway but we do have a bus run down the street which makes me nervous to say the least. In the last two weekends he has continued to run out onto the road, I’ve taken him in for a time out with me, told him in a firm voice “no cars, no road” and made him sit on our front porch as punishment nothing seems to work. We have a great backyard which we normally spend all our time in, but due to the gardening and grass demands of early spring I was stymied at how to keep him off the road. Nothing seems to work for Brennen in the way of discipline, he only shows he’s sorry if he makes McKinley cry then he’s hysterical and wants hugs and kisses along with her. (Yesterday he hit her over the head with his wooden toolbox) I find he’s so young and gets frustrated easily and just lashes out. I know its partly because he’s a boy, his high strung personality and the fact he has an older sister that can do so many more things than he can. Discipline is tough; I really don’t know what he “gets,” relating to his behavior and what he doesn’t. I am NOT looking forward to those challenging two’s he’s hit them already and I can imagine the noise level in our house when he gets right in the middle of that well known troublesome time.
New words from B’s vocabulary: Blues Clues (still addicted), “I”, mine, no, yes, ice, “B” (for himself), dark, out, down and up.
He’s not at the required 30 words as per our doctor (or so she told us) at his well baby clinic visit (he had a needle for his vaccination and didn’t even cry lol) he’s in the 75th percentile for height and weighs in at a not so whopping 25 pounds. He’s sturdy but I don’t seem to make “heavy” kids but with John’s height (6 foot and something) I’m hoping Brennen gets past my height (5 feet). I’m actually not worried about the words (or lack thereof) McKinley spoke very late (2) and Brennen being a boy and such I think will come along, John and I have seen an improvement in just the past few weeks with the words coming faster now.
Brennen is still sleeping with us and nursing with break as of yet, if the weather is good on the weekends he will go all day until about 2:00 or 3:00 without nursing but if its raining and he’s just playing with McKinley in the house he’ll visit sometimes hourly for nursing. John and I are hoping as he matures he’ll just naturally wean himself and he’s got some time this summer where we’ll be in PEI etc, that I think will help the natural weaning process. (I hope lol)
Well, cheers to all and big kisses to my little man who will be two June 13th. Where has the time gone?
xoxo
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