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October 20, 2003
October 20, 2003
Kevin – 5 years old
Maxx- 11 months old
Our favorite books this week:
Kevin-Gerald Mcboing Boing by Dr. Suess, The Seven Silly Eaters by Mary Ann Hoberman, and The Cats' Burglar by Peggy Parish
Maxx- Machines at Work by Byron Barton and Clifford's Furry Friends by Norman Bridwell
Jenni- Confessions of a Shoppaholic by Sophie Kinsella
Fruit Salad... Yummy Yummy- more on that later...
Maxx has a few new tricks up his sleeve this week. He has really mastered “so big” and patty cake. If you ask him what a cow says he will make a “MMMM” sound, not quite moo, but he tries. He also touches his toes if you start, “This little piggy…”. Usually though he gets all of the above mixed up so it goes like this- “How big is Maxx?” he claps his hands, “how big is Maxx?” moo, he says. “What does a cow say, Maxx?” he raises his hands over his head. “Maxx is SOO BIG”, we say. “How big is Maxx?” he claps his hands. He just smiles this big toothy smile at us, it’s so cute. Eventually he does all his tricks with the correct answer. I just love this age. One of our least favorites things he does is spitting his food or milk back out after it is in his mouth, Maxx on the other hand thinks this is his BEST trick! Maxx is also standing more on his own without hanging on to anything. He really isn’t aware that he’s doing it but I guess it’s a good start towards walking. He won’t walk hanging onto our hands, if we try to do that he falls to his knees. I don’t think he’ll be walking by his first birthday but you never know. Maxx has also been a great sleeper this week. Most of the time he has slept until 6:30 – 7:30. If he has gotten up earlier I‘ve been putting him in our bed and nursing him and to my surprise he has gone back to sleep, which has been great for me.
Kevin has had a rough week. I feel like all I did was yell at him this week, it really has me depressed. I feel like such a horrible mother! I also feel like I am re-living every horrible thing about my childhood. Like I mentioned before we live in a new subdivision so we have a lot of young children around BUT they all live down the street from us. All these children have established friendships and Kevin is the odd child out. This is really my fault since I was so sick during my pregnancy last summer and I didn’t trust him to be running about the neighborhood on his own. Some people around here do let there children just run. Maybe this is just me but shouldn’t 4-5 year olds still be supervised? I have met some of the parents and have expressed my concern about Kevin not being part of the group and letting him play alone down by these children. I guess I expected some of these parents to invite us down or offer to supervise Kevin or maybe come down by us? Nothing! Kevin is also the youngest of the 5 year olds and is still in preschool, while all the other 5 year olds are in kindergarten this year. Another thing is that Kevin is so tall for his age and talks really well. People always assume he is older than he actually is. We do have one child that lives a house away from us and he is in the same position as Kevin but he is a little shyer than Kevin. Kevin and this child have played together but I don’t think this other child really likes Kevin; he’s actually kind of scared of him. Kevin is very friendly and wants to act very “BOY” and this other child just isn’t used to that. We went out the other night with this child and his parents and this kid was so mean to Kevin. Kevin was so excited that this kid was coming and when this kid was being mean then Kevin started acting up also and it just made things worse. It’s such a shame because we really like the parents and they have another boy Maxx’s age. I wish they would have held their child back a year so he and Kevin would be in the same grade. A couple of things that happened this week were that Kevin was riding his scooter out front while I was carrying groceries and some girls rode by on their bikes Kevin tried talking to them and something happened because when I came back out I could hear them saying,” leave him alone – he’s only five- do you want to get in trouble”. I don’t think Kevin said anything mean, he was just trying to be friendly but I guess whatever he said didn’t come out right. Also this weekend a little boy in the neighborhood had a birthday party and the mother sent the kids on a scavenger hunt as a game. Well, of course they came to our house! When Kevin saw those kids at the door he was so happy, he thought they came to play with him and all they wanted was something from their list! Kevin ran out and wanted to join the game and I had to go out and make him come back in. The lady that was with them seemed really embarrassed and said that the people giving the party probably wouldn’t mind him coming down. Yeah right, I’m just going to let my kid go down and join a party he wasn’t invited to! Kevin was so hurt, he started crying and wailing, “you never let me do anything, I never get to do anything fun!” UUUGGGHHH! Worlds worst mother right here!!!! Obviously the lady (who was having the party) never thought about the kids she didn’t invite to the party. Right now I’m obsessing about what it will be like for Kevin next year if he doesn’t make friends in the neighborhood this year. I’m afraid he’ll be picked on if he rides the bus; some of the other kids have also been not so nice the few other times Kevin has been out and approached them to play. The few times he has played with these kids one on one things have been “okay” but as a group these kids tend to gang up on him. I know this all has to do with how I felt as a child but I’ m not sure how to help Kevin. It’s hard, because having Maxx, I can’t run all over the neighborhood and to be honest it was easier when we didn’t have to worry about all this social s#!t! I liked life much better when it could just be our little family in our little utopia. I think most of the problem is for such a long period of time Kevin was the light of everybody’s life and everything he did people thought was cute. Now he has absolutely No FEAR of adults and does not have a problem telling adults what he thinks of them when the try to discipline him. There is no amount of money you could pay me to re-live my childhood, I don’t think I could come up with anymore than ten good memories from it. I can honestly say I spent 99% of my childhood trying to pretend to be a grown up. On a positive note, Kevin lost another tooth and the tooth fairy brought him $2 and even though he wasn’t that great of a listener this week he earned another dollar from his chart. Kevin also had school pictures this week; he wore a long sleeved, light blue button down shirt and jeans. Last years pictures turned out really well so I’m hoping that this years will be the same.
Fruit Salad… Yummy Yummy… Fruit Salad….Yummy Yummy. Help!!! I can not get this song out of my head. We have been invaded by The Wiggles. We have had this video for about three years and Kevin was never interested in it until I put it on for Maxx, now Kevin wants to watch it ALL the time. Don’t get me wrong I actually don’t mind them too much; I think I need to go rent some different tapes with some different songs or are they all the same songs just in a different order? HMMMM
We had a little family tiff with Tom’s family this week. He happened to call his brother who he rarely talks to and his brother asked if we were coming to the party this weekend. Tom asks, “What party?” and his brother tells Tom that his wife had already talked to me about it. THEY did mention at Kevin’s party that they were having their sons party the first weekend in October but then Toms parents told them that they wouldn’t be able to make since they had a trip to Hawaii planned. So at the end of Kevin’s party they mentioned that they might have the party the third weekend in October but they never stated a specific day or time. I already had their son’s gift so I went ahead and gave it to them because they are notorious for saying they are going to do things and never doing them. Well weeks went by and we never got an invitation, phone call, or e-mail reminding us of the party so I assumed that they could not afford a party or that my SIL had to work (that is another whole entry in itself). So Tom called his sister and his parents about it and neither of them new anything about it either, which, if anybody would known about it it would have been them. I did not have any kind of “conversation” with any of them at Kevin’s party; I didn’t really have a meaningful conversation with anyone. On Thursday night we get an e-mail from Tom’s brother saying that they were having the party Saturday evening. We replied back that we were both unable to make it since we had so little time knowing the details; Tom had to work and I had made plans with our neighbor. His brother then writes back,
“We were hoping to see you guys at the party. I had hoped Jenny (can you believe after 8 years he doesn’t know how I spell my name?) would have remembered talking to C about it at Kevin’s party a few weeks ago. We’ll have to find some other time to get together soon.”
I was so mad, it’s not like I had any “conversation” with her. So I wrote back,
“R, I’m sorry if there is any confusion on this. You guys mentioned at Kevin’s party that you MIGHT be having the party on the third weekend in October but you did not give a date or time. Since we did not hear from you until Thursday evening we made other plans.”
So then she writes back,
“That is not true jenni. I am sorry about the confusion and will next time remember to write down the information for you guys.”
Again I am fuming here, thinking I am going to get blamed for this whole misunderstanding. I was just going to let it go but then I thought if we leave it at that she’ll think she was right so I had Tom e-mail a reply,
C,
When I talked to my parents and W earlier in the week neither of them knew about the party either, so how could Jenni know about it. Now we hear that the party is canceled. Jenni is very good at remembering dates and things and I am offended that you would accuse her of being otherwise.
P.S. Lets drop this bickering and next time please let us know ahead of time of your plans so that we can make arrangements.
Its funny how when Tom responded the whole thing got dropped and how funny is it that they ended up canceling? They said their son was sick but I think it turned out that no one could make it. What’s even funnier is that the very same thing happened last year. Of course there is actually a lot more to this whole relationship but I won’t bore you anymore with it. Maybe some other time.
Of course no dieting again this week for me. I spent most of my time consoling my self with Godiva chocolate ice cream. YUM. My wrists have been bothering me this week. I’m sure I have carpel tunnel syndrome from all the years I spent running a cash register, bagging, unloading warehouse trucks, throwing beer cases, and running an adding machine. My wrists bothered me some after I had Kevin but I think this is the worst the have ever been. I wish I knew if I could still get some kind of compensation from my previous employer for it. I’m going to see if there is anything the chiropractor can do about it we I go next time.
How was every ones sweetest day? I actually forgot (yes, the one who is very good at remembering things! LOL) until Tom came home with a card and a bunch of Cadbury fruit and nut bars. At least I had Saturday day to go out and get a card and a bottle of scotch for Tom. He is really surprising me lately, he has been very amorous, which he hasn’t been in a long, LONG time.
TV talk. Cubs lost, BIG SURPRISE!!!! No, really I’m very disappointed I thought for sure this WAS the year. Oh well, there’s always next year, LOL. I wasn’t surprised that Bob the Bachelor didn’t get rid of Leann. Wouldn’t it be weird if she was the one he picked and now everybody is talking about her? I guess its all in how you play the game and this is how she chose to play it. Seriously, thinking about being in her situation and knowing her age I probably would be acting the same way. (In no way was that comment meant as an insult to anyone)Has anyone watched The Newlyweds, Nick and Jessica? I got the chance to see it over the weekend. I don’t know if I should be laughing at her or feel sorry for her. Nick seems like a very down to earth guy. It makes you wonder what these two talked about before marriage.
Well, I still didn’t get to that family jealousy thing yet. I’m sure it will rear its ugly head again at Maxx’s party so I’ll just wait for the appropriate time to discuss that.
Thanks for reading!!!
Jenni, Kev, and Maxx
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