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March 15, 2004
Hi Everyone,
Well my venting last week didn't do any good! As you can see, still no main page photo and not so much as a response from anyone at iParenting. It is frustrating to me and I feel like I have been patient long enough. Maybe it is time to correspond to iParenting's sponsors to see if someone can pull some strings for me. Isn't it ridiculous that I have to even think about this considering they have had over 17 months to post 1 picture? Oh well, the best I can do is be persistent.
As for Josh he never caught whatever illness his best friend had. He has been well all week and no sign of anything coming up. We did, however, have a little injury to the head (bruise) that scared me pretty badly.
Friday evening Josh and I went to our neighbor's house to drop off dinner. They just had a baby a couple of weeks ago and I have done that for other Mom's in my neighborhood in the past. Anyway, in addition to the baby, they also have a 4- year-old daughter. She loves Josh and they have a great time playing together. They played for a short time while I talked to the parents. When it was time to go, Josh wasn't ready and he tried to run in the opposite direction. The little girl picked Josh up and carried him over to where I was standing. She had put her arms around his chest and picked him up just a few inches off the ground and he was laughing as she walked him over. It made me a little nervous because she isn't much bigger than him, but she seemed to have a good hold of him and he was enjoying the ride. I decided to let it go, but walked closely beside her. Well, as we walked toward our house I asked her to put Josh down so he could walk on his own. Josh squirmed a bit when I said that and she fell forward and dropped Josh. I tried to catch them, but I couldn't and Josh hit his head on the concrete sidewalk. I had such mixed emotions! I was so angry with the little girl for disobeying me, but I knew it was just an accident. At the same time, I was very concerned that Josh may have suffered a concussion. There was no blood, but a big bump was forming on Josh's forehead very quickly. I consoled Josh for a few minutes and then called my Mom. She is a registered nurse and besides that I think I wanted my Mommy too! She told me what signs to look for and Josh had none of the symptoms for a concussion. He wouldn't let me put an ice pack on his head, but I was finally able to put a zip lock bag of frozen peas on it and that seemed to help some.
This whole situation made me so angry with myself for ignoring my gut feeling not to allow the little girl to hold Josh. I know I will be more careful next time, but that concerns me too. I know I am more protective than the other parents we spend time with are. I worry sometimes that I am over protective and it stops Josh from having as much fun as other kids do. With that said, I have had multiple visits to the ER and Josh seems to get injured more than most kids his age. I am torn between giving him a little more freedom and pulling in the reigns a bit. John is even more protective than I and was upset when he heard that I had allowed Josh to be carried by a small child. I just want to do what is best for Josh! Where is the instruction manual when you need it! Anyway, other than a bruise on his forehead, Josh is doing fine.
It has been a while, but Josh has bitten again. Last week when I went to pick Josh up at daycare, he wasn't in his classroom with the other children. The teacher advised me that he was in the "office". I asked if he was all right and she assured me that he was, but said I needed to go speak to the school director. I thought to myself, my son is 2 1/2 years old and has already been sent to the "Principal's Office" what can I expect when he's 5? When I arrived at the office, Josh was happily playing with some toys and showed no indication that anything was wrong. As it turns out he bit another child in his class and actually broke the skin. That is a first for us and I am stumped. We have tried everything to deter this behavior and nothing seems to work. Josh has been biting since he was 6 months old. His teachers and pediatrician have all assured me that this is a normal phase, but I don't want Josh to be a biter. If anyone has any advice I would love to hear it, but please don't tell me to bite him back. I have heard that from several parents and I have discussed it with Josh's pediatrician and he doesn't think it is a good idea. Josh has been bitten by other children before, so he knows what it feels like and I really don't think it will change his behavior. Besides that, I just don't think I could do it.
A girl friend of mine said something that made a lot of sense to me the other day. She said that Josh is a very emotional child. He is very affectionate most of the time and we noticed that he typically bites the ones that he loves. He has biten both John and I several times over the years. At school he usually bites his best friend. The most recent bite was to a new friend that Josh has been talking a lot about lately. My friend thinks that when he bites he is having trouble expressing his emotions. She thinks he will grow out of it in his 3rd year. I sure hope she is right. I really want this stage to be behind us. In the mean time, we are keeping a close eye on him to make sure he does not do it again. My guess is that it won't happen right away. it is usually a couple of months before he does it again. I'll keep you posted.
As far as TTC goes, today is cycle day 25, 10 days after IUI. The waiting is very hard, but I should know if we were successful a week from today. Check back for an update then.
That's all for this week. Thanks, for reading!
Janet and Josh
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