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In a New Direction
Redirecting Negative Toddler Energy By Teri Brown
(Magination Press, 2003), believes humor can also be used to distract and redirect a toddler. "If adults engage in silly or childlike behaviors most toddlers will stop and watch in amusement," says Dr. Shiller.
Dr. Shiller gives the example of a child who is refusing to wear her jacket outside. If the adult tries to put on the jacket and looks confused when it doesn't fit, that adult is taking a wise first step in getting his child to comply and distracting the child from her negative emotions. Then the jacket could start "talking," saying it is very lonely with no one wearing it. If the parent then has the jacket "ask" the child to wear it to keep it company, the child is likely to comply.
"Asking for cooperation in this way has several benefits," says Dr. Shiller. "First, the interaction has moved from a battle between parent and child to a dialogue between the jacket and the child. Second, the novelty amuses the child and distracts him from his original resistance, and thirdly this tactic allows the child to feel in charge. He can make the decision to give his jacket company!"
Dr. Shiller says public tantrums are tricky, in part because they embarrass parents but also because toddlers may be overstimulated by their surroundings. One idea is to take distracting items with you when you go out in public. An appropriate treat, a small new toy or other desirable item will go far in redirecting your child's focus and diffusing a difficult situation.
Toddlers have a marvelous curiosity that fuels their seemingly endless supply of energy. By learning a few easy techniques you can keep that energy going in a positive direction.