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Control Those Temper Tantrums

Taming Toddler Outbursts

By Elizabeth Pantley

Wait! Wait! I have another question: Handling tantrums at home is one thing. But what about in public? My child yells, stomps, screams and throws his body onto the floor when he doesn't get his way. He does this in public places, like the grocery store, toy store or restaurant -- anywhere there's an interested audience. I feel like my hands are tied when everyone's watching us.

Think about it: The first time your child acted this way in public, you were probably caught off guard. In your embarrassment, you did everything you could to stop the tantrum. If you had looked closely, you would have seen a little twinkle appear in your child's eye as he realized he had discovered a new way to get what he wants.

Use a preventive approach by reviewing desired behavior prior to entering a public building. "Eric, we're going into the toy store now. We are going to buy a birthday gift for Troy. We are not buying anything for ourselves today. If you see something you like, let me know, and I'll put it on your wish list. I want you to remember to walk beside me and keep your hands to yourself."

While you may be concentrating on your tasks, your child has been shoved in and out of his car seat and ushered from place to place enduring endless hours looking at grown-up knees. You may be able to prevent tantrums by bringing along a toy or snack to keep your child occupied. Also, get him involved by having him select groceries, find the shoe store, read the menu to you or any other "busy work." The positive attention and focused activity will keep him too busy to worry about having a tantrum.

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