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Who Will Love the Children?
Why It's Important to Name a Guardian for Your Kids By Lisamarie Sanders
When you have removed those people who are unable to meet your child's needs, it is time to consider the remaining candidates. There are a number of factors to take into account as you further narrow your choices.
Age
Many people name their parents as guardians for their children, but fail to acknowledge the age barriers. Can a now 60-year-old grandmother deal with a teenager when she's in her mid-70s? Will an aging grandfather survive until your child reaches the age of maturity? Also important to consider are the generational differences between grandparents and their grandchildren. 
On the other side of the coin are the aunts, uncles and friends who may have barely reached adulthood themselves. Do you believe they would be good parents to your children? Are they mature enough to make the difficult decisions? Are they prepared to have an "instant family" should you die tomorrow?
Morals/Values
"The most important values kids get come from their parents or primary caregivers," Dr. Shubin says. Make sure your choice of guardian has a value system similar to your own. Religious Affiliation
Consider your faith and what you hope for your child. If you are a devout Catholic, for example, you may not want your child raised by an Orthodox Jew or a Wiccan. Personal Involvement
A guardian is most often chosen from blood relatives, however this is not always the case. You should select someone who is personally involved with your child. A sibling who lives miles away and sees your child once a year may not be as good a selection as the friend from playgroup who spends time each week with you and your family.