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Common Oversights
Mistakes Even the Most Cautious Moms Can Make
By Jacqueline Bodnar
"I have a somewhat different thought, and that is that some very cautious moms make a child's world so safe that they make it difficult for the child to learn what he or she needs," says Elizabeth Crary, author of several parenting books including Dealing with Disappointment (Parenting Press, 2003) and the Self-Calming Cards (Parenting Press).
Crary explains that an example of this would be a mom putting the toddler on a rocking horse, rather than letting her find out how to climb up on her own. Another example may be holding a small child's hand to keep him from falling as he walks on a raised curb or cement barrier. "When mom holds his arm up, he does not learn where his own body is and how to balance over his own feet," she says.
Dr. Mayer suggests that being overly protective, especially when it comes to things like loss, transitions or failures, can be a big mistake that cautious moms make. Issues like this take place when parents try to shelter kids from the loss of a loved one, a death of a relative or pet, a move, divorce or other major event.
The world is great at giving moms reasons to feel guilty. But perhaps we are hardest on ourselves than those in the public could ever imagine being. Even forgetting one little thing can prompt us to consider ourselves to be bad mothers. An that is simply wasted energy. There's just no reason for moms to feel guilty because they can't do everything perfectly. Nobody is perfect, and nobody is holding a mom to perfection – except herself.
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