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Tiny Siblings, Big Concerns

Common Sibling Issues When Children Are Close in Age

Allow your son to help you in simple tasks with the baby. "He can help you at changing time by handing you wipes and a diaper," Low says. "He can pick out an outfit for the baby to wear. He may even be able to carefully help you put the baby's socks on. He can get the baby's blanket when the baby starts crying. Again, this reinforces his feelings of self-esteem while you model the correct way to gently and lovingly interact with the baby."

Low says to be sure to give your son plenty of positive reinforcement. "Catch him being good and let him know you see these behaviors," she says. "'I like the way you picked up the pillows and put them back on the sofa.' Be sure to give him praise when he interacts with the baby appropriately. 'I like the way you use a gentle voice around the baby.' 'Look! Baby is smiling. He likes the way you are so gentle with him.'"

When you are holding the baby, invite your older son to come and sit together with you and the baby, Low says. "Cuddle together and just enjoy each other's company," she says. "It may take a little while, but eventually your son will adjust to the new family unit and his negative comments will disappear."

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