When It's Time to Go

Ending Playgroup on a High Note

By Melinda Copp

Everyone looks forward to playgroup. It gives parents time to socialize with other moms and dads, and it gives toddlers a chance to play and interact with their peers. However, for many parents, playgroup has a frustrating downside. When playgroup comes to an end, toddlers often react by throwing a fit.

"When it's time to put the toys away and go home, our son goes crazy," says Matt Kraycar, a dad from Hilton Head Island, S.C. "He cries, throws himself on the floor and doesn't stop until we're in the car and driving away."

Toddlers are known for acting out. So as embarrassed as you may feel about your little one's outbursts, this situation is common. But you can establish a routine and implement strategies that will help end playgroup on a high note.

"Some toddlers are more difficult than others, and some are more compliant," says Carol Kessler, an associate professor of education at Cabrini College in Philadelphia, Pa. "The key is to have an exit strategy."

"Toddlers live completely in the moment, and everything they do brings them joy," says Janice Smestad of Merrick, N.Y., president of Empathy Associates LTD, an organization that provides support and training for parents and educators. They get completely engrossed in their playgroup activities and can't imagine doing anything else. So as time to go nears, you should fill them with a vision of where they are headed.

Start by giving your toddler a few minutes' notice that it's almost time to move on. Then prolong your toddler's pleasant experiences by getting yourself ready to go. Finish your coffee, load your car, say your goodbyes and get everything together.

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