If You Build It, They Will Come

Starting Your Own Moms' Group

By Kate Riener Boyd

You've never been one to join clubs, not even the Girl Scouts. Or maybe the idea of walking into a group of people who already know each other scares you senseless. It could be that you want to join one, but there is not one in existence where you live.

No matter the reason, many of us can't join an already-established "moms' group." But the benefits of gathering with other mothers to share ideas or simply to chat can be profound. Starting your own moms' group will probably take some time, but there's no reason that it can't be everything you want it to be. I started one 10 months ago, and while it grows and evolves constantly, we all look forward to the next time we'll get together. You could have one up and running too before you know it.

I started with an online invitation to a wine-and-cheese party at my home and included everyone I know who has a child. Some of these women were merely friends of friends, and I wasn't sure how people would respond. One woman failed to acknowledge the invitation, but everyone else was enthusiastic and affirmative. I had seven solid acceptances, including myself. Not a bad start.

I requested that everyone bring a dish to share, something which continues to this day, although now we cover the menu from appetizers to sweets. That first time we all gorged on spinach dip and wine and probably got tipsier than we should have for a Sunday afternoon.

Since that day we have grown to 10 members and have switched from Sunday afternoons to Thursday nights. We have met at a

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