Toddlers in Daycare

Easing the Transition

By P. Christine Smith

Dorothy Simpson and her son Ryan faced a tough transition. "Ryan had occupied every second of my life. I had even given up my full-time job to stay home with my baby. But then I began to realize that my baby was growing up ... it was time to cut the cord," says Simpson, a registered nurse from Florida. Simpson and her husband decided to enroll Ryan into a part-time childcare environment. They took pain-staking steps to find just the right facility for them and to ease Ryan into his temporary separations from Mommy and Daddy.

"To help with Ryan's separation anxiety, we visited the center twice before Ryan's first day," Simpson explains. "We let him look around, see his room and meet his teachers and the other children. We made a big deal out of how fun it was going to be." While the drop-off on the first day was difficult for both mother and child, Simpson promised Ryan that she would be back in only a short time and left her crying son in the care of the people she had chosen to trust. Within a couple of days, the transition was complete, and Ryan has since grown to enjoy and benefit from his time away from home.

According to Pam Solis, program coordinator at Children's Hospital Child Care Center in San Diego, Calif., the Simpsons took all the right steps in preparing their son for daycare. "We ask that the parents bring the child along for the initial tour of the facility, so that the child can look at the room," says Solis. "Then once the parents decide to enroll their child in our center, we suggest that one of the parents come with the child for about an hour, two times in the week." Solis adds that this will lay the groundwork for a smoother transition. "When the child sees that the parents trust the situation, then the child is more able to trust it, too."

Next, Solis recommends that the first days at daycare be short days, with the child picked up before naptime. "Naptime seems to be the roughest time for separation anxiety, so it is best to avoid it in the first days." Solis explained that the toddler's time at the center should be increased each day, leading up to, and eventually through, naptime.

The child care facility should warn parents in advance about the busiest drop-off time in the mornings, so that it may be avoided at first. The bustling atmosphere of a busy center might be intimidating for a newcomer.

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